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Going into the office 5 days a week!

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Honeybunnny · 23/09/2025 10:58

Hi

Im REALLY struggling with a good job offer which would probably kick start my career as it requires me to be fully office based. The office is a 2 minute drive so will have practically 0 commute but I have worked hybrid for a few years and I just love it. It changed my life so much and I am so much more relaxed at home, and more productive in general. It was a game changer for me.

The thought of returning to an office 5 days a week makes me feel queasy and I just can't shake it off.

It would be a shame to turn down the role purely because I can't bear to be in an office, they do not offer hybrid at all.

Any thoughts or has anyone gone from remote to office work?

Thank you

OP posts:
Willyoujust · 23/09/2025 19:49

I think just suck it up and go into the office every day. Millions of people have to go into work every day instead of staying at home. That’s life.

Agapornis · 23/09/2025 19:47

Take it. If there's no clear path for progression or more hours in your current job, it's not worth staying. Plus you'll probably get fewer abusive nutters on the phone 😅

Clearinguptheclutter · 23/09/2025 19:32

For such a short commute it would probably be doable for me though in this day and age I’d question any (office-based) employer who didn’t think it was a good idea to offer employees flexibility

in our industry (consultancy) I think it would be extremely difficult to get anyone to go into the office 5dpw these days. Even very junior admin staff are at home some of the time.

Honeybunnny · 23/09/2025 19:28

Thanks for all your replies, I didnt expect so many!!

So, yes it is a 2 minute drive however I will just walk there and back!

The role is an assistant HR advisor which i see would help me gain experience in HR and then I could move to a HR advisory/co-ordinator role in time.

Im currently working for my local council taking incoming calls from the General public and currently there are limited, if any, opportunites for progression. This could change in time though.

The increase in salary would be good, im part time in my current role and they arent in a position to increase my hours currently.

OP posts:
Left · 23/09/2025 18:41

A lot more information is needed. What are the other advantages and disadvantages of taking this job offer? For example:

Is it a step up in responsibility/job title/pay?

Is it a change of industry or role?

What are the development and progression opportunities like?

What is the workplace culture like?

What did the interviewer say they enjoy about their workplace?

You seem fixated on one aspect, which you see as negative, counterbalanced by a vague idea that it might “kickstart” your career. If I had a WFH job that I enjoyed then I wouldn’t be contemplating a full time office based role unless I was absolutely sure of the ways that it would benefit me long term.

CampanulaMila · 23/09/2025 18:36

I'm struggling to understand the concept of a '2 minute drive', OP. Do you have significant physical disabilities? Or is this a typo for a '20 minute drive'? If you're able-bodied and you are actually talking about a two-MINUTE drive, that might be one of the most shockingly lazy, wasteful things I've ever read on here ...

Isobel201 · 23/09/2025 18:12

Poiny · 23/09/2025 15:14

I genuinely have a day off today, but I wonder how many of the wfh fans here are working....

have you ever heard of breaks? wfh people can still take a lunch break.

Mondayblues2 · 23/09/2025 18:01

An awful lot of companies are 4 days in the office so if you were ever to change jobs you would probably be looking at at least that

I read about this on MN but have seen little evidence of it in real life? It generally seems to be 2/3 days

CremeBruhlee · 23/09/2025 17:34

I would have a good research on the culture if you can as 5 days back in in my experience tend to have male leadership teams and run a very dictatorial ship. No one needs to be in 5 days in office these days

Plastictreees · 23/09/2025 16:55

dynamiccactus · 23/09/2025 16:53

Not spot on at all. I've worked from home for many years and was promoted earlier this year, along with my incredibly talented and productive colleague, who is also mainly home-based.

Exactly. I’ve also posted my experience, as have other posters.

Some people really struggle to imagine that other people have different lives and experiences to them!

dynamiccactus · 23/09/2025 16:54

TheCatsTongue · 23/09/2025 16:51

Exactly. It's a WFH day for me today and I'm spending that time posting messages on various websites.

I am on here because my working day has ended.

dynamiccactus · 23/09/2025 16:53

Praying4Peace · 23/09/2025 16:51

Spot on

Not spot on at all. I've worked from home for many years and was promoted earlier this year, along with my incredibly talented and productive colleague, who is also mainly home-based.

dynamiccactus · 23/09/2025 16:52

I'd generally say no to 5 days a week in the office but if it's that close it's not really an issue is it? You can pop home at lunchtime if you need to do something and any reputable work(wo)man can collect the keys from your office, you don't need to let them in.

JimPanzee · 23/09/2025 16:52

... a 2 minute drive... Seriously??? You'd drive that? The world is fucked!

TheCatsTongue · 23/09/2025 16:51

Poiny · 23/09/2025 15:14

I genuinely have a day off today, but I wonder how many of the wfh fans here are working....

Exactly. It's a WFH day for me today and I'm spending that time posting messages on various websites.

Praying4Peace · 23/09/2025 16:51

TottenhamCake · 23/09/2025 15:33

I always laugh at the claim that people are more productive at home. Anyone who has actually worked for a company who allows it and is actually honest, knows that this is absolute nonsense.

I left my job at a local authority (county council) which was fully remote, as I couldn't deal with colleagues who were impossible to reach all the time. It was well known that people were using the time doing housework, shopping or running errands. I also think it is impossible to get the same kind of career development and experience when you aren't working side by side with colleagues and able to talk things through or learn from them.

Its up to you, but if this is a dealbreaker for you I would say that career progression isn't really your thing....

Spot on

museumum · 23/09/2025 16:50

I honestly don't understand what a difference it makes if you don't have any commute. Being in the office or being at your own desk at home is the same surely? Yes, more interruptions in the office, but offset surely by easier access to other people you need in return...
I'm self employed and can't justify hiring office space but would happily work from an office if it was so close to home.

TheCatsTongue · 23/09/2025 16:49

If I was the employer and I read this thread I would rescind the job offer.

A job with career prospects, only two-minutes journey time and you're having doubts because you just want to be paid to be sat at home?

It shows you're not interested in putting any effort in.

ERthree · 23/09/2025 16:40

Plenty of people have to go into work and they survive. If you can't face it then don't take the job but make peace with the fact you may never be promoted or ever again get a job 5 mins walk away.

StewkeyBlue · 23/09/2025 16:38

Focus on the 'Kickstart your career' bit and JFDI.

It would be ridiculous to pass over this opportunity.

Ratafia · 23/09/2025 16:37

Seems to me a no-brainer - you'd be insane not to take the job. There is a difference between a job where you have to fight with public transport or traffic to get there and one which is an easy stroll down the road, and that may well be a big factor in your views about office working. Think about some of the advantages - you won't have to pay for heating, lighting, running a computer, you'll have people around for company, you won't be subject to everyone assuming you're available to take parcels in, open the door to callers, do the housework, etc etc.

singthing · 23/09/2025 16:37

I came within a hair's breadth of taking a job SOLELY on the basis I could walk there and back. But it really wasn't the right role, and in the end my saner self prevailed.

PuppiesProzacProsecco · 23/09/2025 16:33

God no. I couldn't go back to office based even half the time. My old pre-covid job was a 3 minute drive, I came home daily for lunch and switching to WFH was still life changing. I'm in a different job now with a 2 hour commute but only in the office one day per week. I negotiated my office days in the new job down from 3 to 1 - is that a possibility?

Boomer55 · 23/09/2025 16:25

bridgetreilly · 23/09/2025 11:33

Give your head a wobble and take the job. Obviously.

This. Most of us spent years with a proper, and long winded, commute. This seems ideal. 🤷‍♀️

twobabiesandapup · 23/09/2025 16:21

I’d be exactly the same as you OP but I always find it really interesting that for so many years of our working life it was just the norm to be fully office based and now so many people are acclimatised to hybrid or remote working and the thought of five days in the office seems unimaginable! I digress but no I don’t think I would do it, unless it was a really amazing opportunity that could change my life. Even then I’m not entirely sure 😂

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