To think you don’t need to live a particularly “uncomfortable” life to be happy?

Well I'm almost 40 - I've never been clubbing and I don't regret it in the slightest. I have 4 amazing kids, in my free time I bake, paint, crochet, sew - oh and ride a motorcycle. My life is am absolute blast - anyone who judges it can carry on with their judgement because it means f all to me - you do you as the kids say!

The idea of travelling for an extended period of time has never appealed to me, I like my home comforts too much!

It sounds like you have a decent life balance tbh. You're taking care of your health (going to the gym), keeping your mind active (reading), finding time to socialise and also building a career. It doesn't sound like you're deeply unhappy about being not in a relationship and you're young enough to meet someone if it does become a priority for you.

Contentment with what you have is a great blessing, it doesn't mean you don't save or plan for the future or that you have zero ambition: but not trying to keep up with the Jones's is better for you financially and mentally. True happiness is not in the abundance of possessions but financial security is part of contentment knowing a leaky boiler or burst tyre will not tip you over the edge. A few good friends are better than 200 Facebook followers. I think happiness is having good relationships with family and / or friends and enough money for budgeting not to be a stressful nightmare

Can I ask why shoukd your 20s be about that? I mean for people who want fine but if someone doesn't why is that wrong.

Contentment is a great thing to achieve

some people can not be content with simpler things in life but that shouldn’t mean they should knock or despise those who are - jealousy would be a more reasonable emotion!

imagine being contented with out having to continually search out the new and exciting in an increasingly limited world

This is just me and again I’m older so things obviously have changed in your generation but I don’t see the same value in online clubs. I’d be willing to travel further for face to face.

I think being part of a face to face group is very valuable for well being.

I have a few (book club/writing club/first aider in the community) and my next goal is to take up paddle just for engaging with people.

I’m really glad the pub scene has died a bit of a death in your generation because it had a pretty toxic downside but I do see huge value in constantly extending your social/community face to face contact for well-being.

I personally don’t think people under 30!should be aiming to be ‘content’. They should be aiming to achieve whatever they want to achieve and your lifestyle clearly doesn’t work for you because you want to date but your lifestyle doesn’t give you the opportunities to meet people.

Your 20s should be about experiences, about building the life you want, about being fearless.

Personally? I am so glad I had my adventures in my 20s. For you? If you're happy then you're happy and that's great. I do worry a bit about a society where more and more people essentially confine their world to their home, though - I think it has a lot of consequences for society as a whole. I don't think that's either your job nor within your power to fix by making yourself do things you don't want to do, though!

I think if you are happy and content then you are indeed winning at life.

Sounds good to me but I’m much older.

At your stage I would be of the get out and meet people and develop yourself mindset too so clubs and hobbies etc.

I encourage my children always to have one hobby that you are developing yourself in that allows you to meet like minded people. My daughter your age is big into a water sport for example.