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To tell school teen is unwell instead..?

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HardHatWearer · 23/09/2025 09:28

We’re taking our 2dc to Norway for a long weekend (Thur-Sun) next month. This means taking them both out of school for 2 days (Thu\Fri). Youngest is at primary and have already told them dc10 won’t be attending those two days and am expecting them to tell me it’s unauthorised. If we get a fine, so be it.

Pondering what to do about dc14 - haven’t yet told the school as they are incredibly strict and last time we needed to take time out for a funeral (grandparent!) they took a long time to approve it and asked 101 questions, which felt very OTT considering it was a close family death (and they weren’t asking for proof, just being extremely officious). So this time I am thinking we might just say dc is unwell and get on with our lives.

For context:

  • dc14 is never off, never sick and has had barely no time off school since starting age 4 (not even a full week once). Just the odd day or two for a bad stomach bug and Covid once.
  • the trip is not moveable - it’s paid for by my work and needs to be on these dates. Or we wouldn’t be doing it.
  • we’re going to big city and will visit many cultural attractions.

Hard hat is on…👷🏻‍♀️👷🏻‍♀️👷🏻‍♀️

OP posts:
Sleepeatcrochetrepeat · 23/09/2025 09:30

2 days here would not trigger a fine. I would tell the truth, they can mark it as unauthorised. Especially if your dc are otherwise good for attendance and behaviour etc. I wouldn’t want to ask my kids to lie or be accidentally caught out if they talk about the trip, it makes them look bad when it’s not their fault.

HardHatWearer · 23/09/2025 09:30

Doyouship · 23/09/2025 09:29

No need to write an essay op

Go for it 🤷‍♀️

You’re not wrong 😅

OP posts:
TheatricalLife · 23/09/2025 09:30

I'd do it and have done it.

Doyouship · 23/09/2025 09:29

No need to write an essay op

Go for it 🤷‍♀️