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At what level of salary/responsibility is it reasonable to check/respond to emails on holiday?

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NameChanger400 · 23/09/2025 08:49

There is an unwritten rule at my work that those who are senior / well paid will still keep an eye and support/input as needed even on holiday.

YANBU - everyone deserves a break, even the CEO, PM etc!
YABU - if you are paid over X amount and have the responsibility, then it’s par for the course to always be available (and opinions on X amount would be helpful!)

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Zempy · 23/09/2025 21:07

Nope. Not in my sector. Nobody is expected to check emails outside of working hours or whilst on holiday, even The Big Cheese.

Edited as OP just posted update. No, people in my organisation earning over £100k aren’t expected to slog like you are.

What would happen if you didn’t do it? Have you tried?

NameChanger400 · 23/09/2025 21:05

Thanks for all the replies! Sorry to go MIA, my job can be quite demanding on my time, hence the reason I posted this morning, just left now.

for reference I’m paid well (~£100k), in a manager role but not business owner. I’m expected to be available 24/7 on holiday and at weekends. I never can switch off - and I do wonder if I need to just accept that this is how it is.
i struggle to juggle sometimes (2 young kids), but also have some flexibility. E.g. I can go to sports day for example (as long as I keep an eye on emails), parents evenings etc I rarely miss.

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Franpie · 23/09/2025 19:39

brightgreenpepper · 23/09/2025 10:59

I think that at a certain level of seniority you should have people below you who can be relied upon to alert you to something which is urgent and requires escalation. So you can safely assume that “no news is good news” and not be actively sifting through emails etc.

I think it can be actually trickier in mid-tier roles where you don’t necessarily have that level of support underneath you and you end up having to “keep an eye on things” when you are away.

I think this is true. I certainly used to work adhoc (checking emails etc) much more on holiday than I do now as I board level director. There is a company full of competent people who can manage perfectly well in my absence and so I only need to jump in now if someone calls me (which is rare, thankfully).

I have had to cancel some holiday time due to having to properly work. But in those cases I’ve still flown away with my family but based myself in the business centre of the hotel during the daytime. I never had to do that when I was more junior.

As for PP’s saying that the culture of working on holiday trickles down to the wider team, I don’t think that’s always true. I am very strict about all our employees taking proper holiday. Only board directors are expected to be available 24/7 as that’s what we’re remunerated for.

MyElatedUmberFinch · 23/09/2025 19:38

My DH had to take 2 weeks block leave once a year and he wasn’t allowed to log on. Other than that he’d check every day including weekends. He was an IT boss with 180 staff working all around the world.

BellaBallerina2 · 23/09/2025 19:33

I am middle management in an international bank with big salary. Never check emails on holidays. I work 9-5 and occasionally log on at weekend but if I send emails to my teams I always send delayed delivery so they receive it within working hours.

Clearinguptheclutter · 23/09/2025 19:27

Nobody at my work would. Nor would my dh who earns six fix figures but is actually not particularly senior or important

at our employers the actual Executive Board probably keep an eye on emails when away, but nobody else including pretty well paid colleagues

itsAforapple · 23/09/2025 19:23

HerewardtheSleepy · 23/09/2025 09:00

I once worked for a US employer who would not allow access to work emails when you were on holiday.

I admit their concern was more fraud prevention than the well-being of their employees.

I work for a US employer where the absolute expectation for even the lowest paid US based employee is that they’d be checking their emails. Not officially obviously.
They think we European based workers are a bunch of feckless wasters with too many vacation days! They actually have ‘unlimited’ PTO whereas we have a start of 30 days off, plus public holidays but as they’re all too scared to take anywhere near the same amount of time off the ‘unlimited’ aspect is pure bullcrap.

Bluestar1971 · 23/09/2025 19:19

Never

Steph888 · 23/09/2025 13:39

I’m a senior manager but not Board level and earn 200k.

I never check emails on holiday but key people can WhatsApp me if there’s something urgent outside of working hours. I think I’ve received 2 such messages in the last decade.

Senior directors on 300k+ are expected to be more contactable.

Nobody on under 150k would ever be contacted outside of work hours. I think that’s fair.

ihavespoken · 23/09/2025 13:33

@FancyCatSlave I totally agree with both your posts

wfhwfh · 23/09/2025 13:20

CatRescueNeeded · 23/09/2025 08:56

I think it’s all within context really, taking into account what’s going on at work and where the individual is going on holiday

For example someone on honeymoon doing an African safari wouldn’t be expected to check-in but someone that has taken time off to do DIY might say to the team that they can text if they need something

It is a bit of an unwritten rule that senior managers and above (so probably about £70k) will keep an eye on emails but it’s certainly not expected or frowned upon if something happens and they aren’t aware

I agree with this.

i don’t think it should be expected at any level. But anyone on below £70k should 100% NOT be checking emails on holiday.

MarioLink · 23/09/2025 13:14

I would say in a medium size company board of directors only. In a large company if you are head of a function for a large part of the company then yes to especially if MD, FD, head of HR, head of safety.

LondonPapa · 23/09/2025 13:10

Acatnamedpinto · 23/09/2025 12:20

But a good PO should have an out of hours PS/APS responsible for picking things up so they’re only responsible every one week in four, not all the time so it’s very different to what OP has suggested. And anyone in private office picking up emails on holiday is not very effective if I am honest. When I was PPS, I’d have definitely frowned on my PO team working on leave.

A DG, probably is available 24/7. At least mine and most good ones are. She has a private office which operates an on-call schedule between them and they try and protect her when she’s on leave, but she’s always available 24/7 because the buck stops with her.

Theoretically a lot of things should be done a certain way. Reality is different for some, and for the truly unfortunate, it is a dreadful time. Unfortunately, I’ve witnessed and experienced some toxic environments across Ministerial (and DG) POs in the CS 🤷‍♂️

Philipthecat · 23/09/2025 12:53

DH (125k, senior manager) doesn't keep an eye on emails on holiday. If it was an absolute emergency then someone would ring him, but he wouldn't be able to do much as he doesn't take his laptop on holiday.

Doseofreality · 23/09/2025 12:28

No level or salary whatsoever.

if you died tomorrow, work would replace you.

Maxorias · 23/09/2025 12:26

I don't think there's a specific pay threshold, rather there is a company/team culture where this would happen and others where not.

I was recently on holiday and the person taking over my job didn't have a lot of experience. I told her to whatsapp me as needed if anything came up and that worst case scenario, I might not be able to answer immediately, but that she ought to feel free to message. I'd much rather take two minutes to deal with something on holiday, than two hours solving the inflated issue after I get back. Plus I like my job and I'm good at it so I don't mind.

My boss is currently on sick leave. We know she'd answer us if we really needed her, which ironically is probably also why we're keen not to bother her if we can at all avoid it. It's all give and take at the end of the day. If I'm needed while on holiday I'll go of course, and in return I know I can expect understanding and flexibility if I have to leave early because a kid is sick.

CheeseWisely · 23/09/2025 12:23

Definitely contextual. I’m a member of senior management, £55k and can both have a complete switch off (when I’m away on holiday) or check in on emails or be available for emergencies if I’m just off for a few days at home, as I will be next week. I choose to do the latter as it reduces the catch up once I’m back in the office.

Our MD has only ever been completely incommunicado after he’d had some major surgery, but that was all known in advance and the business owner took up the baton for emergencies and big decisions.

Meanwhile my Brother works in a very time sensitive responsible position and is very rarely completely ‘off’ but is compensated very handsomely for it.

Acatnamedpinto · 23/09/2025 12:20

LondonPapa · 23/09/2025 11:13

It can be from as low as £40k plus allowances in the Civil Service if in a PO post for a Minister. So it isn’t just seniors having to go through it 😅

Edited

But a good PO should have an out of hours PS/APS responsible for picking things up so they’re only responsible every one week in four, not all the time so it’s very different to what OP has suggested. And anyone in private office picking up emails on holiday is not very effective if I am honest. When I was PPS, I’d have definitely frowned on my PO team working on leave.

A DG, probably is available 24/7. At least mine and most good ones are. She has a private office which operates an on-call schedule between them and they try and protect her when she’s on leave, but she’s always available 24/7 because the buck stops with her.

AgeingDoc · 23/09/2025 12:20

I agree with those who are saying "it depends". When I was a Clinical Director I would delegate responsibilities to someone else when I went on holiday but if something really important happened whilst I was away I would have expected, and not minded, a phone call. So not "Dr X has rung in sick for tomorrow" - other people are more than capable of coping with that - but if there was something really major I'd want to know. There was a major incident once when I was on leave but not actually away so I went in for that and there were a couple of other occasions when I offered advice but generally if I was on holiday I left work behind.
I don't think organisations should be so dependent on any single person that they can't take a week off. I appreciate it can be difficult in small companies though. My DH is the only person in his company who does his specific job. Whilst he and a colleague in a similar field cross cover when they're on holiday there are still times when they have to call each other, though they do avoid it as much as possible.

spicetails · 23/09/2025 12:17

Certainly not at just over minimum wage - but I was expected to jump and respond no matter what.

caringcarer · 23/09/2025 12:17

A holiday is just that a complete break from work. I used to insist DH left work phone at home when we went on holiday but it didn't stop a few text to his personal phone. A quick text yes or no I didn't mind but an hour on the phone I was mad about. I once threatened to throw his phone in the sea if he didn't switch it off on the beach.

FancyCatSlave · 23/09/2025 12:16

I think it is almost always martyrdom- people want to feel they are needed and worry that if they can manage without them for a fortnight that it reflects badly on them.

It doesn’t. It shows you have developed a capable team.

PurpleThistle7 · 23/09/2025 12:13

I think there's more nuance here. My husband isn't a super high earner but he's senior and there are some things he does that aren't easily replaceable. So he will check in every few days if we are away. His manager has his personal info to contact him if something really urgent happens.

I'm much less important and there's nothing someone else can't do so I just turn it all off (though when I was recently away for 3 weeks I did plan a day to work in the middle just to avoid coming back to a mess)

I think there's an in between option that works for most situations.

FancyCatSlave · 23/09/2025 12:03

If you don’t have good enough people to deputise then there is something very wrong with your org structure and succession planning. No-one should be a single point of failure and a good org should fully function with the absence of someone, however senior they are.

In my org we do not have a culture where people check email on leave. The only exception is if the business continuity plan is called in to action with something catastrophic. But not BAU.

Curiossir · 23/09/2025 11:57

I will check in on work emails perhaps twice on a week's holiday, but I always keep one summer week work free and Christmas. I get about 200K a year but have no management responsibility.