Page 19 | Tried three places for lunch today and none cater for women

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 2025-09-22T19:10:32+00:00

I went out for lunch today with a friend. Well, at least we tried to have lunch. All three places, two pubs and one cafe, were not suitable for women because you needed a penis to get into them or to use the toilet. We ended up coming back to my home instead. AIBU to think that everywhere should offer equal service to women? Or is it my fault for not checking in advance that I could eat there without a penis? Should I have researched on tripadvisor? Am I too entitled expecting businesses to ensure non penis having people can pay to eat lunch at their establishment? Day in the life of a disabled person.

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Mrsmunchofmunchington · 22/09/2025 20:23

And no, none were listed buildings.

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Coffeeishot · 22/09/2025 20:23

TheProfoundlyPeculiarPointOfPete · 22/09/2025 20:13

Don't you keep a penis in your handbag for these occasions?

😂

Op do you want to explain what you are talking about?

Springadorable · 22/09/2025 20:22

You've ignored the questions about which places you tried. Were they old? If so, predictable. If more modern, then that's much more of a surprise.

ClutchingPearlz · 22/09/2025 20:21

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 22/09/2025 20:19

When people have posted in a straight forward manner about lack of accessibility there have been suggestions of calling ahead, maybe checking with disability organisations.
Well meant but why should we have to?
Imagine the outrage if women had to ask in advance if they could get into a pub or cafe?

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Maybe because not every establishment can? If you don’t want your time wasted then check first. It’s hardly difficult.

Childanddogmama · 22/09/2025 20:21

I have no idea why you write your post like that! Just say what you mean. This whole thread will be derailed now and people will vote you are unreasonable for writing in such a confusing way! Probably best to delete and write again in a more straightforward way.

Dramatic · 22/09/2025 20:21

Sorry op, that wasn't clear at all.

I do think places should do all they can to make it accessible, I'm surprised at the lack of disabled toilets, in my experience if a place only has one toilet it's usually a disabled one.

Were you somewhere that has particularly old buildings?

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Mrsmunchofmunchington · 22/09/2025 20:21

TheChosenTwo · 22/09/2025 20:19

If you wanted to share your frustrations about being disabled or having a disabled member in your party?
I’m afraid the mention of penis multiple times has really taken away from your thread.
What did you want from the thread?
I’m really sorry you had a shit experience today but it was nothing to do with having or not having a penis, it was to do with disability and it’s important to raise awareness here. I feel like if you’d mate it clear from the start you’d have some good advice or at least fellow ranting joining in. Now there’s just a bunch of us feeling a bit confused 😵‍💫

Penis was just an illustration about needing a specific body part.
In my case today it was working legs.

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WaffleParty · 22/09/2025 20:20

What on earth are you on about?

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Mrsmunchofmunchington · 22/09/2025 20:19

whatasillygoose · 22/09/2025 20:16

No, it was a silly and confusing point.

I’m sorry you weren’t able to access venues but god, just post what you mean!

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When people have posted in a straight forward manner about lack of accessibility there have been suggestions of calling ahead, maybe checking with disability organisations.
Well meant but why should we have to?
Imagine the outrage if women had to ask in advance if they could get into a pub or cafe?

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TheChosenTwo · 22/09/2025 20:19

If you wanted to share your frustrations about being disabled or having a disabled member in your party?
I’m afraid the mention of penis multiple times has really taken away from your thread.
What did you want from the thread?
I’m really sorry you had a shit experience today but it was nothing to do with having or not having a penis, it was to do with disability and it’s important to raise awareness here. I feel like if you’d mate it clear from the start you’d have some good advice or at least fellow ranting joining in. Now there’s just a bunch of us feeling a bit confused 😵‍💫

LeedsZebra90 · 22/09/2025 20:19

I initially assumed you were using woman to indicate a different point... but then all the talk of penises confused me!

Sorry to hear that though, that's really shit.

fluffiphlox · 22/09/2025 20:19

i don’t know why you have to be so cryptic.

moresoup · 22/09/2025 20:18

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 22/09/2025 20:14

I honestly thought it was clear enough but replace not catering for women with not catering for disabled people.
I substituted women to try and give some insight into the injustice to a wider audience.

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That was really clumsily done, it wasn't clear at all

Anyway, as a wheelchair user to I do really sympathise but I also understand that in a country with a lot of old buildings we arent going to be able to access everywhere. It does frustrate me though when a simple little portable ramp is all it would have taken to make the place accessible

I'm more sad how hard it is to get anywhere nice in the countryside. Our local authority just proudly advertised a new "accessible" country park but all the paths are covered in gravel FFS

Newsenmum · 22/09/2025 20:18

Do you mean none of them had a disabled toilet?

Lollytea655 · 22/09/2025 20:18

In what way were these places unable to cater? The only places I can think of in our town that can’t cater are the really old ones, usually listed, and it’s physically not possible to make any further changes.

Coconutter24 · 22/09/2025 20:18

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 22/09/2025 20:14

I honestly thought it was clear enough but replace not catering for women with not catering for disabled people.
I substituted women to try and give some insight into the injustice to a wider audience.

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It wasn’t clear but what does that have to do with having a penis?

reversegear · 22/09/2025 20:17

It wasn’t clear at all but I’m sorry if you haven’t been able to access places for food. Is there not an app or website that can clearly label which places have access? Isn’t that a legal requirement?

Arlanymor · 22/09/2025 20:17

I don't know why you couldn't just write a thread stating that you couldn't go to three places for lunch today because they were not accessible for you given your disability. No need to confuse things by adding in biological sex. And yes, of course that is not acceptable. The only places near me that cannot cater for people with disabilities are incredibly old places that have rickety staircases and could never put in a lift because they are listed buildings - speaking here about mobility disabilities specifically of course.

warmapplepies · 22/09/2025 20:16

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 22/09/2025 20:14

I honestly thought it was clear enough but replace not catering for women with not catering for disabled people.
I substituted women to try and give some insight into the injustice to a wider audience.

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So why not say that?

whatasillygoose · 22/09/2025 20:16

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 22/09/2025 20:14

I honestly thought it was clear enough but replace not catering for women with not catering for disabled people.
I substituted women to try and give some insight into the injustice to a wider audience.

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No, it was a silly and confusing point.

I’m sorry you weren’t able to access venues but god, just post what you mean!

SoftPillow · 22/09/2025 20:16

That’s clear now, thanks OP.

I’m sorry that happened, that’s awful. Were all 3 locations not accessible for you? That absolutely shouldn’t happen, where were you?

Springadorable · 22/09/2025 20:16

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 22/09/2025 20:14

I honestly thought it was clear enough but replace not catering for women with not catering for disabled people.
I substituted women to try and give some insight into the injustice to a wider audience.

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So why are you on about women and penises?!

MyAcornWood · 22/09/2025 20:16

Unfortunately it was about as clear as mud! I’m sorry you’ve been disappointed today.

WhiteRosesAndThistles · 22/09/2025 20:15

I'm confused.

VickyEadieofThigh · 22/09/2025 20:15

I'm 67. This has NEVER happened to me.