No payment for her 3 naans

Three naans Jeremy!? That's insane!

A curry, rice and three naans can easily come to £28 from a takeaway - especially considering that you've ordered essentially two meals.

At our local (very unposh) Indian, three (massive) naans would come to about £16 on their own.

£28?! Where the fuck are you getting your curry from?

I didn't interpret it as confusing, but as a sign of OP's frustration that, even though she was in no hurry to pay for herself promptly (or maybe at all), she was quite happy to order a very large amount of food for somebody else to sub her for.

It's also cheeky to reserve and refuse to share 'your' food, whilst being perfectly happy to let another person/people 'share' their money by paying for yours. It's cheeky enough when you get people who say they'll 'just have a little taste or two' of other people's food and not order or pay for anything themselves; but she currently has had the best of both worlds: she's had considerably more food than anybody else, but she's the only one who hasn't paid anything for it!

Stay on her neck until she pays and if she hasn't by the 80s night, still go and remind her there. I stopped offering to do stuff like this because I learned some people aren't to be trusted when it comes to money. Had one who would then try to make out that I was the weird one for reminding her.

OP’s title is confusing but in the post she says new friend order 3 naan plus main dish which she didn’t want to share plus naan. Also she took leftover food with her.

She's a cheeky mare. It takes moments to transfer money you owe. Don't avoid the next event because of this but remind her constantly in front of the others.

I hate this. winds me up. I pay straight away.

Do you earn more than her OP? I have found that since we've inherited some money, some people assume I'm happy to cover their share. It astounds me.

If I was dining with a multi billionaire I would still offer my share .... lovely if they want to say "no, i'd love to treat you", but don't assume!

At first I thought she’s obviously skint and that’s why she took the extra food home but then she’s off on holidays…..

Priorities and CFery. I’d be asking for it back in person.

I wouldn't not go to the 80s night. Why would you do that? I'd keep messaging her about the money, and if it's not forthcoming by the 80s night it won't be ask her face to face. Tell her pleasantly that if she has cash on her that'll be fine, otherwise she needs to do a transfer ASAP as it's been a while.

Also mind blowing that anyone can want 3 naans to themselves - unless they were very tiny!

I suppose, if they were very tiny, they could just nibble a hole in the middles and then have three lovely new ponchos for their winter wardrobe

look up the fallacy of relative privation.

I would send her a reminder every day until there is at least some reply.

On the 80s night i would remind her again, ask for cash because she clearly can't manage online banking.

If you ever end up paying for everyone and she is there? tell her it is Cash On Delivery for payment defaulters.

She is in the wrong. You are in the right. No need to hide.

And yes, the situation in Gaza is undoubtedly worse but humans are usually able to have opinions on/care about more than one issue at a time.

Anyone else hearing Smithy ordering his 3 Bhunas?

I’d be annoyed too OP, there have been months where I’d have needed that £28 back to get to work until payday & a new acquaintance is hardly going to know your financial position.

I would ask again but by saying that you’re a bit concerned she’s accidentally sent the money to the wrong account number as you’ve not received it yet? 😉

Also mind blowing that anyone can want 3 naans to themselves - unless they were very tiny!

Call her and tell her she owes you. She is taking the piss

tell all your mates too and tell them she’s not getting an invitation next time or she can pay for her meal separately

My friend was assaulted in an Indian restaurant at the weekend!

...he's currently in a Korma 😥

You didn't use those exact words but you strongly implied it.

Somebody else upthread started using the random name Stacey for her as an easy shortform identifier, so I didn't bother to find a different one.

I'm sure that, even if her real name IS Stacey, any other people called Stacey who are on this thread will realise that it's referring to an entirely different person and not them.

Oh well I missed the "takeaway" part 😁😁😁

It was a takeaway though. I know it's easy for everyone to pay for their own stuff when you're in a restaurant, but can you order a takeaway as one order with one delivery fee and split the payment between several people? I've never seen that.

I would, however, refuse to do it for this particular person in future. Either she can get her own separate takeaway and pay her own separate delivery costs, or someone else can sort out the payment next time.

I don't understand why people do this - why pay for the bill & invite this world of completely unnecessary hassle into your life?

If a restaurant can't take payments from each of their clients/split the bill they should give up being in business.

I have a friend like this - he thinks he is being useful/kind/helpful/whatever but then he spends half his day moaning about how he is so nice to people and why are they always treating him like a cnut. And then he does it again & again & almost every single time he will be taken advantage of or someone will unreasonably take the piss.

OP - next time leave everyone to pay for their own naans - stop inserting yourself unencessarily into situations & people like Ms Naan will have no one to piss off like this.

Which is fine for you, but it's not your place to tell the OP or anyone else that they should just write off nearly £30.00. If it was a fiver I would agree with you, although even then I would always pay that myself. I also could afford to treat, but a lot of people couldn't. And even if they could, why should they? You being a cool girl about this is annoying rather than charming.

But then why did she leave the OP on read?

Wind your neck in. I have not said £28 is an ‘insignificant’ amount of money. If you are going to be do precious then may I suggest you don’t assume the naan bread scoffer is called Stacey as you might offend some people called Stacey. 🙄

I’d give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe she has gone on holiday and forgotten to do it before leaving.
Missing the 80s party is a bit of an overreaction, just don’t pay for anything for her again