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No payment for her 3 naans

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TheAquaCrab · 22/09/2025 19:41

We all got a curry, to cut a long story short(er).

4 friends in total, including me. Person who hasn’t paid is new to group. All happened last week.

I paid for the takeaway and said it’s fine, just everyone transfer me the money tomorrow when they get a chance.

We were going to share but this particular friend wanted her own. All fine. We still agreed to all go 4 ways, despite her not getting anything to share out, and ordering 3 naans!

Today is Monday and the meal took place last Friday. Still no payment. I reminded her on Saturday and she said she was so sorry, send bank details and she’d send it. So I did.

Still nothing. I messaged again this evening and she left me on read. Messaged friend whose friend she originally was… who said she’s now on holiday! I don’t even remember her mentioning that

We are suppose to be going for an 80s night next month. AIBU not to go if she goes? Told other friend and she said she probably just keeps forgetting

I wouldn’t mind but she asked to take the left over coke bottle and the last of the butter chicken. We all said yes because we were stuffed

Cheeky woman has an amazing figure to boot, so maybe I’m just jealous!

OP posts:
Personperson · 24/09/2025 17:04

GimmieABreakOr3 · 23/09/2025 10:47

This is exactly how I feel.
A lot of people on here have such small worlds. It’s hardly bank breaking stuff. For the record, I always people back, but hounding incessantly for it makes you a nag. It’s even more embarrassing over £28.
I usually say to people just get it next time or get it back to me in another way.

Over £28?

Can tell you have never been skint!

Personperson · 24/09/2025 16:59

GimmieABreakOr3 · 22/09/2025 20:31

There are people dying of starvation in Gaza, but oh no, Stacey didn’t pay for her 3 “nan” breads. Jesus wept.

Jesus bet you're a right jobsworth ugh!

LittleBitofBread · 24/09/2025 16:56

Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 16:54

3 naans plus the cost of a meal she didn’t want to share. Can you afford to write off £28 ?

The amount isn't the point anyway.
She's just taking the piss.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 16:54

GimmieABreakOr3 · 24/09/2025 16:31

RIGHT?!

3 naans plus the cost of a meal she didn’t want to share. Can you afford to write off £28 ?

Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 16:50

Goldwren1923 · 24/09/2025 16:11

Jesus how much 3 naans cost?
and you are begrudging her a leftover chicken and Coca Cola?

3 naans plus the rest of the meal she didn’t want to share.

threenaancurrywhore · 24/09/2025 16:45

TheExcitersblowingupmymind · 22/09/2025 19:55

This seems familiar?

I’ve even got a spare username from last time we did it

ConnieHeart · 24/09/2025 16:43

Goldwren1923 · 24/09/2025 16:11

Jesus how much 3 naans cost?
and you are begrudging her a leftover chicken and Coca Cola?

She owes £28. Not something I'd be willing to write off especially as she said she'd pay

CrackingOn50 · 24/09/2025 16:36

"Stacey's naan has got it going on..."

GimmieABreakOr3 · 24/09/2025 16:31

Netcurtainnelly · 24/09/2025 16:01

Imagine all falling out and losing friends over some Naan bread.

RIGHT?!

roses2 · 24/09/2025 16:28

Shatteredallthetimelately · 24/09/2025 16:17

I'd still go on the next night out and when it comes to paying the bill keep your purse in your pocket and tell naan girl to get hers out as it's her turn to return the favour.

Ask her in front of others can she pay your share of the bill when you go out as she still owes you £28

GiraffesAtThePark · 24/09/2025 16:19

Has she paid yet? I would pay especially with two reminders. You can sort of forgive some if they’ve had a busy weekend but really she’s taking the piss if there’s still no payment.

I wouldn’t miss the event. That’s just make her more comfortable.

WorthyBlueHare · 24/09/2025 16:18

She’s taken you for a ride there. Don’t let her keep you at home though. If you both go, text beforehand to ask her to transfer before or bring cash with her on the night if easier, and if she doesn’t, just make a point of saying you want to all pay for your own because you’re still owed from the last trip. And ask when she is going to pay you.

Shatteredallthetimelately · 24/09/2025 16:17

I'd still go on the next night out and when it comes to paying the bill keep your purse in your pocket and tell naan girl to get hers out as it's her turn to return the favour.

ItWasnaMeGuv · 24/09/2025 16:16

You are NOT being unreasonable. I always make it a priority to pay money owed. If she "forgot" its because she doesn't care enough to remember. Keep reminding her until it becomes embarrassing Grin (for her).

BankfieldForever · 24/09/2025 16:11

She owes you £28.00, keep asking her for it until she pays or leaves the friend group.

What or how much she ate is irrelevant. I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who judged me in that way.

Goldwren1923 · 24/09/2025 16:11

Jesus how much 3 naans cost?
and you are begrudging her a leftover chicken and Coca Cola?

Horses7 · 24/09/2025 16:06

3 naans and a great figure - console yourself that she’s got a tapeworm.

RisingSunn · 24/09/2025 16:04

Spirallingdownwards · 22/09/2025 19:55

Is there a group chat? Call her out in that. Oi NaanGirl. Don't forget to send me the money you owe me! I don't want it going on holiday souvenirs!

I think this is brilliant and is actually still friendly in a way lol.

spoonbillstretford · 24/09/2025 16:03

🎵 ...and we all like vindaloo
I'm.going to eat. Two more naans. Than. You. naa naa naa...🎵

Blairwitch82 · 24/09/2025 16:01

Keep asking. Being on holiday is not an excuse you can quickly transfer online if you have internet.

Netcurtainnelly · 24/09/2025 16:01

Imagine all falling out and losing friends over some Naan bread.

Arlanymor · 24/09/2025 16:00

ManteesRock · 24/09/2025 15:55

No they don't! I've never once had a problem doing it.
British people are just too reluctant to ask

I agree. I had lunch out the other day and there was a table of eight young women celebrating a birthday. They all had vouchers and the waitress couldn't have been more helpful in terms of splitting the bill into the food/drink that each person had and then applying the voucher on top.

spoonbillstretford · 24/09/2025 15:58

🎵 Three naans down my shirt
Lime pickle still gleaming
This phaal's gonna hurt
Now my nose is streaming 🎵

ManteesRock · 24/09/2025 15:55

Valeriekat · 23/09/2025 23:58

Yes British restaurants seem very reluctant to do this for some reason.

No they don't! I've never once had a problem doing it.
British people are just too reluctant to ask

ManteesRock · 24/09/2025 15:54

Are you really getting this worked up over about £5 worth of food and drink?
Seriously the rules of buying things for others and getting the money back later is don't do it unless you can afford to not get the money back at all!

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