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No payment for her 3 naans

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TheAquaCrab · 22/09/2025 19:41

We all got a curry, to cut a long story short(er).

4 friends in total, including me. Person who hasn’t paid is new to group. All happened last week.

I paid for the takeaway and said it’s fine, just everyone transfer me the money tomorrow when they get a chance.

We were going to share but this particular friend wanted her own. All fine. We still agreed to all go 4 ways, despite her not getting anything to share out, and ordering 3 naans!

Today is Monday and the meal took place last Friday. Still no payment. I reminded her on Saturday and she said she was so sorry, send bank details and she’d send it. So I did.

Still nothing. I messaged again this evening and she left me on read. Messaged friend whose friend she originally was… who said she’s now on holiday! I don’t even remember her mentioning that

We are suppose to be going for an 80s night next month. AIBU not to go if she goes? Told other friend and she said she probably just keeps forgetting

I wouldn’t mind but she asked to take the left over coke bottle and the last of the butter chicken. We all said yes because we were stuffed

Cheeky woman has an amazing figure to boot, so maybe I’m just jealous!

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abbynabby23 · 24/09/2025 20:19

TheAquaCrab · 22/09/2025 19:41

We all got a curry, to cut a long story short(er).

4 friends in total, including me. Person who hasn’t paid is new to group. All happened last week.

I paid for the takeaway and said it’s fine, just everyone transfer me the money tomorrow when they get a chance.

We were going to share but this particular friend wanted her own. All fine. We still agreed to all go 4 ways, despite her not getting anything to share out, and ordering 3 naans!

Today is Monday and the meal took place last Friday. Still no payment. I reminded her on Saturday and she said she was so sorry, send bank details and she’d send it. So I did.

Still nothing. I messaged again this evening and she left me on read. Messaged friend whose friend she originally was… who said she’s now on holiday! I don’t even remember her mentioning that

We are suppose to be going for an 80s night next month. AIBU not to go if she goes? Told other friend and she said she probably just keeps forgetting

I wouldn’t mind but she asked to take the left over coke bottle and the last of the butter chicken. We all said yes because we were stuffed

Cheeky woman has an amazing figure to boot, so maybe I’m just jealous!

Just ask for it again till you get it! But don’t send a daily message. Something random like oh my Amex is due tomorrow, do you mind sending the money so I can pay it off? No need to overcomplicate life!

ConnieHeart · 24/09/2025 19:37

birling16 · 24/09/2025 18:32

Ah OK. Can't people just be friends and bung in a few quid?

Yes, the "friend" could be a proper friend and pay the £28 that is more than "bunging in a few quid"

TartanMammy · 24/09/2025 19:01

Rosscameasdoody · 24/09/2025 16:54

3 naans plus the cost of a meal she didn’t want to share. Can you afford to write off £28 ?

I wouldn't want to write off £28. I earn decent enough but after all my costs are accounted for I have £100pm personal spending money. Why the should op let that go!?

Wreckinball · 24/09/2025 18:57

Tell her if she’s not been able to pay before the 80s night, she can pay for you and you can sort any balance due either way at the end of that night!

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 24/09/2025 18:57

Well, I misread it nan ,and nan is slang for Fanny.So I’m thinking is she on OnlyFan. Expecting payment for her 3 nan

TartanMammy · 24/09/2025 18:56

GimmieABreakOr3 · 22/09/2025 20:12

So it’s only been 3 days?

I always pay people back straight away if I owe them money. You never know if they need it or not, plus she is not a personal loan service.

TallulahLikesHoola · 24/09/2025 18:45

birling16 · 24/09/2025 18:32

Ah OK. Can't people just be friends and bung in a few quid?

Or the CF could 'be a friend' and PAY her bloody way?!!!

birling16 · 24/09/2025 18:32

LittleBitofBread · 24/09/2025 18:11

No, an existing one for chat about the night out, including money owed from it.

Ah OK. Can't people just be friends and bung in a few quid?

Charredtea · 24/09/2025 18:27

Charredtea · 24/09/2025 18:20

Cheeky beeyotch. I’ve known so many guys n gals like this over the years, definitely grooms behaviour.
I don’t hold no truck with it anymore

*grooming, not grooms… see how far they can go with it and how much they can take, often acting surprised when you try and get your share back

Charredtea · 24/09/2025 18:20

LittleBitofBread · 24/09/2025 18:10

WhatsApp group: ‘thanks everyone who’s paid back , @ Naangrabber, I think it’s only you left now, here’s my deets…, thank you ‘

You mean 'here’s my deets AGAIN' Grin

Cheeky beeyotch. I’ve known so many guys n gals like this over the years, definitely grooms behaviour.
I don’t hold no truck with it anymore

codependantmother · 24/09/2025 18:18

I think I would just put it down to experience if you can afford it and not pay again for her. Happened me recently in work, I paid for everything and one girl never paid me. I just forgot about it but won’t be paying for her food again. Prob not the best way to handle it but I just let it go

LittleBitofBread · 24/09/2025 18:12

birling16 · 24/09/2025 17:25

A group chat about a bit of bread? God help us.

Also, why are people fixating on/carrying on as if it's all about just the bread? She had a meal, like everyone else, and ordered a lot, but didn't share any and asked to take the left-overs home.

LittleBitofBread · 24/09/2025 18:11

birling16 · 24/09/2025 17:25

A group chat about a bit of bread? God help us.

No, an existing one for chat about the night out, including money owed from it.

LittleBitofBread · 24/09/2025 18:10

Charredtea · 24/09/2025 17:19

I like this . ‘You still owe me from last time, rather than pay me back please can you just sort my share now’ , or words to that effect.
alternatively WhatsApp group: ‘thanks everyone who’s paid back , @ Naangrabber, I think it’s only you left now, here’s my deets…, thank you ‘

WhatsApp group: ‘thanks everyone who’s paid back , @ Naangrabber, I think it’s only you left now, here’s my deets…, thank you ‘

You mean 'here’s my deets AGAIN' Grin

Tink3rbell30 · 24/09/2025 18:10

Has she paid?

birling16 · 24/09/2025 18:08

FoxyRoxyGold · 24/09/2025 17:45

Do you ever bore yourself when you bring up Gaza for no reason?

Edited

It's a fair point

4forksache · 24/09/2025 17:59

Give it a bit longer then chase up on the group chat. Keep on until she pays.

FoxyRoxyGold · 24/09/2025 17:45

GimmieABreakOr3 · 22/09/2025 20:31

There are people dying of starvation in Gaza, but oh no, Stacey didn’t pay for her 3 “nan” breads. Jesus wept.

Do you ever bore yourself when you bring up Gaza for no reason?

CoffeeCantata · 24/09/2025 17:35

Charredtea · 24/09/2025 17:19

I like this . ‘You still owe me from last time, rather than pay me back please can you just sort my share now’ , or words to that effect.
alternatively WhatsApp group: ‘thanks everyone who’s paid back , @ Naangrabber, I think it’s only you left now, here’s my deets…, thank you ‘

That’s the way to go. She can pay for you this time, up to the value of 28 quid. She’ll be there, she’ll have her card (surely?) so what objection could she make?

TheExcitersblowingupmymind · 24/09/2025 17:28

threenaancurrywhore · 24/09/2025 16:45

I’ve even got a spare username from last time we did it

I love your current name, that's nothing short of genius.😁
I wonder if she's a mate jalfrezi Jezebel.😁

birling16 · 24/09/2025 17:25

Spirallingdownwards · 22/09/2025 19:55

Is there a group chat? Call her out in that. Oi NaanGirl. Don't forget to send me the money you owe me! I don't want it going on holiday souvenirs!

A group chat about a bit of bread? God help us.

Charredtea · 24/09/2025 17:19

Shatteredallthetimelately · 24/09/2025 16:17

I'd still go on the next night out and when it comes to paying the bill keep your purse in your pocket and tell naan girl to get hers out as it's her turn to return the favour.

I like this . ‘You still owe me from last time, rather than pay me back please can you just sort my share now’ , or words to that effect.
alternatively WhatsApp group: ‘thanks everyone who’s paid back , @ Naangrabber, I think it’s only you left now, here’s my deets…, thank you ‘

DeeKitch · 24/09/2025 17:15

Please take a naan bread with you on your night out and hand it to her

AntiBullshit · 24/09/2025 17:11

Why say things are fine if they arent

why say yes to someone taking leftovers if you’re going to complain about it

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