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DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

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FiddIedeedee · 22/09/2025 15:24

DD 27 and her boyfriend (also 27) are proper home bodies. All they seem to do in their free time is go for country walks with their dogs, meals out or Sunday markets 😂

When I was in my 20s I was partying, clubbing and getting up to all sorts, I fear they are wasting their youth!

Last weekend they baked cookies and went on a long country walk with the dogs with a pub lunch. DD spends a lot of time reading and crocheting bits here and there. The boyfriend has started furniture restoration as a hobby. They’re like an old couple honestly!

DD got annoyed with me because I said to them they need to be out enjoying their 20s (and soon 30s) and not acting like a couple in their 60s. DP says leave them be but I just don’t want them to regret not living life to the full. You’re a long time old as they say.

AIBU?

OP posts:
ThejoyofNC · 22/09/2025 15:29

Their life sounds far more appealing to me than going to a grotty nightclub and waking up feeling like crap.

Notto mention the bloody danger of going to clubs these days.

WallaceinAnderland · 22/09/2025 15:29

What exactly is it you think they are missing out on? They are having fun the same as you had fun. You get to choose your own fun, not theirs

Boredonafridaynight · 22/09/2025 15:28

Well I wish that was my predicament with my SS. Try drug issues, dealers targeting your house and threating you for money.. I'd swap with u in a heartbeat!

vodkaredbullgirl · 22/09/2025 15:28

So what. that's their life, leave them be.

NutmegsMum · 22/09/2025 15:28

Agreed! Just because they are not doing the same as you did, doesn’t mean there is something wrong.

They sound like they are enjoying life and that is the most important thing. 😊

CoheedandCambria · 22/09/2025 15:28

That sounds like a lovely way to live tbh!

Original poster
FiddIedeedee · 22/09/2025 15:28

I just don’t want them to look back and regret not living a little thats all.

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PermanentTemporary · 22/09/2025 15:27

I’m 56 and ds is 21. I had reason today to remember some embarrassing facts about my 20s. None of it in the least bit positive (though quite funny at this distance) and mostly triggered by too much to drink. Ds is quite staid compared to me and really I can’t see any negatives in that. If I want to relive my 20s I’ll do it in my head, not by telling ds he needs to get pissed more often!

Gassylady · 22/09/2025 15:27

I think it is lovely that your daughter has found a partner that she gels with so well. I mean it is dreadful that they are happy together in a way that isn’t on your approved list. I guess they will have to battle on doing stuff they enjoy and makes them happy.

CoralPombear · 22/09/2025 15:26

I think times have changed op. At least they will be in much better health than the thirty somethings of old!

IceLollyMolly · 22/09/2025 15:26

So unreasonable. I thought you were going to say they were gaming all day or taking drugs.