DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

they sound like a lovely couple who have found their person. Let them be who they are and I don’t think I’ve ever seen a poll where it’s 100%. That the OP is being unreasonable

I’m very glad you’re not my mother. The amount of belittling in your OP and comments is really unfair.

Well done on spending your 20’s ‘living’ - leave your DD&DP to live the way they want to. And go steady with your comments, because you might just find that one day she decides to ‘live’ without you involved.

Mothers are their daughters first bully, as they say..

Walking in peak district is fab. You are being ridiculous op. They are not you .

They sound great. Young people these days drink very little. My DS has a drink maybe once a month.

I had children by the time I was 27 so probably not what you want to hear but you could be a grandma soon just so you are prepared 😀

My dd is married the other dd is 27 and lives with him partner, they go to work and are not out "partying " at the weekend.

Yabu. They sound really content and happy and chilled. Let them be - they maybe thought you wasted your youth being out partying all the time

They are living though! Who said going out and partying is the only way to live your 20’s? (FWIW I partied through my 20’s too)

Oh my god they sound AMAZING! Ecologically conscious, gentle lovely people. I wish I had spent my life this way. More power to their elbow!

I thought this post was going to be about neither of them working, ordering takeaways all the time, spending money they don't have 😅 I'm sorry OP but YABVU. It sounds like they have a really beautiful life together.

Christ I thought you were going to say they were sat gaming all day and smoking weed.

They sound like a lovely couple. Do you really think they’re going to throw that all away and go and sit miserably in a filthy nightclub at 2am just because you think they should?

They sound like a match made in heaven, good for them that they don’t follow the crowd.

To put it into perspective for you, my cousin didn’t live like your daughter and her partner, he partied and did all of the things you wish your daughter would do . . . . His lifestyle directly killed him at 39.

Be glad you have a sensible daughter. Sounds like she is living an idyllic life and I’m actually quite jealous - it sounds very stress free.

Cozzy livs innit. Travelling is pricey and wages aren't anything to write home about particularly when you're in your early career. All my thirties mates are travelling now because they have the money very jealous of everyone who has gone to Japan recently

OP that was your life, this is theirs. Would you have taken kindly to your parents or grandparents telling you that you should do the activities they liked doing in their youth? Things change. People are different from each other. The only consequence of your commenting on their lifestyle will be that they don't tell you anything or spend time with you.

Their lives sound much healthier than yours was. So very unreasonable.

But they aren't wasting their youth! They are spending it doing what they enjoy doing.
For a lot of people the lifestyle you enjoyed - clubbing and partying- would be hell on earth. And they would regard that as totally wasting time! Why do you think you have the right to tell them how to live their lives?
It sounds as though you want to relive your younger days vicariously through them.
I hope you don't keep telling them what they should or shouldn't be enjoying because it won't do your relationship with them any good whatsoever.

@FiddIedeedee

how infuriating that you think they should live their lives according to what you deem a life well lived.

Do they have ambitions?

What are you talking about? They are living! They are living exactly the kind of life they want and seemingly enjoying it, so leave them be.

Really impressed at the furniture restoration. That’s a joyous thing to do but also genuine practical skill. Nice.

It sounds like they have a lovely life, not everyone wants to go out clubbing. I stopped finding the fun in that around my mid 20s and started preferring the country walks and hobbies, it's perfectly normal and if walks and pub lunches are their thing I very much doubt they'll look back and regret forcing themselves to 'have fun'

She's probably rebelling and thinking 'fuck I don't want to turn out like my Mum', so is square.

As a home body in their 30s I agree with DD and DP, leave them to it! Clubbing isn't the same anymore, super expensive and I didn't miss it when I stopped going in my early 20s. Uni clubbing is alright because it's cheaper. House parties are where it's at in your twenties

But also this whole "your 20s should be wild" narrative has shifted even since I was that age. Gen Z are very health conscious in terms of alcohol I find (not so much drugs...but food and booze). What's wrong with going on a nice walk and crafts?! Why is being a hedonist a mark of a good time?

My mates around that age are just as you describe, I think you need to consider that your idea of a good time is a bit out of date...