DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

Sounds like they have a wonderful life. Leave them to it.

Is this a wind up? At 27, they know better than to waste their money partying and clubbing. Partying and clubbing is wasting their lives tbh, not how they are living now.

The world is in chaos. Let them find whatever calm they can. You're so unreasonable.

Just because you were a partier and drinker doesn't mean your daughter is.

She can enjoy different things than you did. Their life together sounds emotionally full and satisfying.

She isn't missing out at all and her life doesn't have to validate choices you made about yours.

That is fine though, they might travel or they might not, if they are happy and content then surely that is all that matters .

Did you take her on holiday as a kid abroad ?

Ah OP don't worry I guess was my point, they sound like most of the late 20s couples I hang out with! If it helps being single doesn't equal adventure either - BIL is 27 and spends most of his spare time hosting Dungeons and Dragons, playing PC games, or out running. Genuinely I do think it's just a culture shift and doesn't mean they'll never travel or anything like that x

I don’t think you understand that what they do is none of your business. Back off with your judgement and get on with your own life because if you don’t then a rift will develop (possibly already has? Your daughter will likely have sensed your disapproving attitude).

I’m not sure if you’re trying to be funny or “ lighthearted” as they say on here, but you’re just coming off as judgmental and a bit tedious. I find middle aged people who bang on about how wild they were back in the day the dullest people imaginable.

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I didn’t do much clubbing in my youth, that’s just didn’t happened for various reasons including financial and not being so much keen on it. I don’t think I regret it now.

You sound extremely closed-minded. As if you can't comprehend that different people enjoy different things. That sort of monovision is much more boring than young people going for a walk.

Wow, judgemental much? I opened the post expecting it to say something along the lines of "DD sits at home drinking too much wine infront of the TV while BF games all night and smokes weed" but it sounds like they're living a perfectly fulfilling life? They both sound active if they're going for country walks regularly and BF is learning useful woodworking skills.

I don't smoke, I don't drink and going to clubs and bars when I was younger was the epitome of a boring night out; not everyone feels the same way and it sounds like they're happy.

What a strange post.

I had a lovely time travelling in my 20s, working abroad, lived in NYC for several years. Do you know how I did it? Bank of mum. My mum funded it all. It was expensive. She bought my tickets, sent me money to keep me going when I needed it, helped with rent when it was way more than someone on like £18k a year could afford. Have you offered to do this? Help them pay their rent or mortgage so they can go to Thailand for a month? Help set them up in a little flat to do a stint working in Australia?

Definitely by our late 20s though, Dh and I were solidly enjoying pub lunches and walks, did lots of camping holidays, walking holidays in North Wales. Staying in cooking a meal, going to the garden centre, Dh did in fact take up woodworking. 🤣 This was nearly 20 years ago and we weren’t wildly different from our other late 20 something friends, though we did plenty of exciting stuff before that.

So you are upset your DD isn't like you, although she is happy living the life she wants? You sound so unsupportive. Maybe she looks at you and thought please no, I don't want to be like her wasting my 20s clubbing and boozing or backpacking.

She’s 27 op! You don’t get to have an opinion! Unless they ask your advice that is. Not if they are financially independent anyway! They very well might regret not travelling when they had the opportunity but it’s none of your business I’m afraid.

In fairness at 27, I'd stopped going clubbing! Yes, I still liked to go out for a few drinks with friends or for a meal. Do your daughter and her boyfriend go away on holiday? My only regret is that I didn't travel more, but that was to do with circumstances, rather than me wanting to sit at home. As long as your daughter and her boyfriend are happy, that's all that matters. So they're not having wild nights out, but perhaps that's not their scene. Leave them to live their own life. Perhaps it's not what you did or would want to do at 27, but it's their choice.

It sounds like a lovely lifestyle. Young people don’t go out and party in the same way we did, even my 22 year old DD doesn’t go clubbing, she and her friends go for dinner or brunch and to the gym together, I’m not sure why you feel your DD is wasting her life if she is happy!

I don’t understand your point at all OP. You think that if they were drinking, clubbing and partying, that would be less of a waste of a life than the creative pursuits they enjoy? Are you serious?

You are painting yourself as being really narrow minded.

DS1 (21) is about to embark on country number 10 this year. He's stressing me out with his daredevil adventures! I think I'd love for him to say hes walking the dog and going to a country pub!

It would be a boring World if we all had the same interests, I'm sure they are happy and content and it's just their thing.

You seem to think not going to Japan is some how a failing on their part ? Why do you think they will have regrets, you are projecting you had a "crazy time" but not everyone wants that.