DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

Did you never notice there are many really lovely and fascinating places within the UK? Including the Peak District!

Is this a joke?
I think they are smart and mature enough to understand how to enjoy the real little pleasures of life instead of getting their livers smashed with alcohol at the local pub.
I think this must be a fake post, it can’t possible be true a parent would say these things

It's Regina George's embarassing mum in Mean Girls. 'I'm not like a regular mom, I'm a cool mom'.

I don't think late 20s is 'youth' is it? I think they are a bit past that stage and probably doing fairly typical things for a couple in their late 20s. That said, do they go out with friends or is it just the 2 of them all of the time?

Perhaps they are happy.

It is so sad that you are so judgemental about them. You sound an absolute cow.

I’d be really upset if I was happy with my partner doing what I wanted to do in my spare time and I read that my mum thought I was boring and would rather me be doing things that I’m not interested in.

You need to learn to mind your business. Leave your daughter to live the life that she wants to live, not one that you think she should be living.

so according to you, alcohol, drugs and STD for the ones with one night stands is the real life. You are to be pitied dear woman

Did you expose your dd to experiences growing up op
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Precisely.
You sound like my bloody sister who’s opinionated to the Nth degree and thinks I should be out and about every day not having a perfectly happy life now I’m retired. She didn’t work once she had children, I worked beyond full time because I had to and she’d sneer at the fact that I couldn’t drop everything to go out for coffee or ‘pop into town’ every day!
She’s tried interfering in my adult DCs’ lives too; thankfully they gave her short shrift.
’Living life’? They are clearly happily living the life they want, not what you want. Be very careful, you’re heading to right way to alienate them; I rarely speak to my sister because of her behaviour.
Mind your own bloody business ffs!

YABU! That’s their business how they spend their lives, not yours! Not everyone likes clubbing and drinking.

Indeed! I don’t think you called your daughter BORING enough OP.

You sound like a “cool mum”. Is that a thing? My mum tried to persuade me to dye my hair blonde and get my belly button pierced when I was a teenager. I thought it was tragic.

Why do you want anything for your child apart from them to find their own sense of purpose and contentment? So so weird (and nasty).

I feel like this thread is probably a wind-up - but it's the Edina/Saffy thing, isn't it? As someone else who was probably too wild in their youth, I think there's a lot to be said for being into furniture restoration and hiking through the Peak district, instead of raves and class As. That doesn't make you happy once the drugs wear off, unlike a nice piece of classic furniture or the sense of achievement of having climbed Kinder Scout. Count your blessings and leave them to it, OP!

Where in the world did you go to tenerife or Thailand, was it holidays or working or just getting wrecked with your friends?

You have provided your Dd with a safe environment in what im assuming is a nice safe area, her and her boyfriend are a reflection of that they want to live a nice "cosy " life.

OMG, I'm another one who clicked on this thread and thinking your DD and her partner stay on the couch all day, no job, taking drugs and stoned all time.

They sound really well matched. They have hobbies. They are travelling (to the Peak District). I assume they have jobs. What's wrong? Let them pick their own paths and live their lifes. Stop intervening with your idea of fun.

You sound like Edina and Saffy in Ab Fab!

This is one of the saddest posts I’ve ever read. It sounds like your daughter has a wonderful life and she’s happy.

If I was her, I’d be begging for YOU to traveling and give me peace. She gets to decide how to lead her life and what makes her happy.

Sounds like a lovely life to me! I had DC1 when I was 27 so I definitely wasn't travelling and partying!

for what to have a good 80s to 90s?

Yes and presumably this type of person has other very fixed ideas about the "life script" that we all must follow.

I was a real homebody in my late 20s but, as DH and I chose not to have kids, we've been able to do a hell of a lot of socialising and exciting travel in our late 30s/early 40s, which we now actually have the money for.

If they wanted to travel they would I imagine. It's their choice how they live their life. People find fulfillment in different things. Sounds like they have strong hobbies that they enjoy and find a lot of fulfillment in, they also have eachother. It sounds like you value different things in life to them.

They are doing what makes them happy. I think by 27 I had grown out of clubbing and getting hammered because, let's be honest, it's shit.

You sound unbearably judgemental.

Its sounds to me that you would like to relive your own youth through your daughter but you can’t.

It’s so interesting to me that walks, meals, markets, crocheting and UK holidays are considered boring by some. Maybe your daughter also thinks clubbing and drinking are boring. It’s just a matter of opinion, she’s enjoying her life, so she’s certainly not wasting it! Literally what life’s about isn’t it, finding something you enjoy and not doing the things you don’t enjoy.

FWIW, I never did clubbing and drinking either, I’m mid 30’s. Don’t feel like I’ve missed out on anything 😊😊