DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

Sounds perfect to me. Nice walks are not a waste of live and clubbing is not want anyone wants to be doing these days.

She crochets bits? That sounds potentially exciting, at least 😊

You’ve only got to ask yourself one question. Is your DD happy?
If the answer is yes then please leave her alone. Your DH is right. If she’s not happy then you can worry.
My DD is so very different to me. She sounds like your DD apart from the dogs and she does like to travel. I, on the other hand, was always out partying at the weekend. I had no money and my DD has tons.
Different strokes for different folks

Maybe, it's there thing. Maybe she has been her soul friend and is happy for them to be as they are. Fancy writing to mumsnet with a query like this. It says more about your view of life than theirs. Perhaps they are introverts and find your expectations vacuous.Live and let live.

YABVU. They are living a safe and healthy life they enjoy. That would be a dream for most parents. Why would someone want their child out getting drunk and putting themselves at risk. I imagine this post would really sting if it was read by a parent who has seen their adult child go through alcoholism or drug addiction.
It's not very nice of you to try and make your DD feel wrong for the choices she makes, especially when they are responsible choices.

I thought you were going to say they are sat on the sofa scrolling their phones all day, smoking weed and ordering takeaway!

Their choices sound incredibly healthy actually! Good for the soul, good for the spirit and good for their wellbeing. You should feel at peace with it.

Imagine if your mother had tried to tell you what was fun. You are being really judgemental about your own daughter and there's absolutely no need for it. Thousands of people her age would love her life.

Not everyone enjoys partying etc. I never did. I was always a quiet person and still am.

Don't judge your dd for not living her life according to what you think constitutes a good life. She's doing what suits her.

Clubbing and partying is living life to the full? 🙄

God, I'll be thrilled if my DS is as happy and wholesome as your DD when he reaches his 20s, rather than the complete mess I was in mine - parting, drink, drugs, horrific mental health.

Oh this can't be real surely.

Imagine wasting time as a young un on clubbing, drinking and drugs. Like what most people do. How to conform to the base, unimaginative norm 101.

My mother always thought I was abnormal because I did not want to go to prom, I did not drink and I did not do drugs. I don't talk to her much now because she was very vocal about how strange I am. I left my home country at the age of 25, half my life ago, because she could not appreciate me for who I was. Nor did she care. She was like the bitch cheerleaders at school who never got over their school days and never had the imagination to see value where she did not understand it.

We are not all the same, everyone likes different things... fortunately. They sound like a really happy contented couple. My DS and his GF also love country walks, pub lunches, a good Netflix series...but they do spend a huge amount of time traveling around the world for their jobs. The younger generation today don't value clubbing and getting shit faced like we might have done in our youth. I'm sure SM has played a role in this.

OMG I was just thinking that!!
OP you sound incredibly annoying and childish tbh. They sound like they live an amazing life that suits their personality.

I really wished I realised who I really was in my 20s. I used to go out drink etc because that's what 'you're supposed to do'.
Thankfully younger people nowadays seemed to be more switched on than we were. They have the Internet that gives them access to all sorts of ideas for hobbies and lifestyles.
They are no longer just influenced by drunk aunt Barbara pissed as a fart down the local 🙈

Me too!!
They sound a great couple - count yourself lucky they’re not falling out of nightclubs in a drugged/drunken stupor and then getting in a car to drive to your spare room.

Is this a joke post? Your daughter and her boyfriend are doing thoughtful, fulfilling things with their time that involve appreciating nature and making things with their hands.

It sounds like you look down on people who don’t have there same interests as you, and have difficulty relating to your daughter because her interests aren’t your interests. Unless there are serious signs that she’s restless and unhappy, try to be pleased for her that she’s got a stable, happy relationship.

Maybe engage with what she finds fulfilling about her life rather than pigeonholing her as having the life of an old person as if there’s something wrong with not wanting to go clubbing, drinking and travelling all over the world. It’s ok for her to feel content with what she has, and at 27 most people don’t have the spare cash to go travelling - ironically, that’s mostly an old age thing these days!

Awful post. I'd be absolutely delighted if my 8 and 11 year old daughters grew up to be just like this. She sounds sensible, grounded and not at all 'boring'.

I'll be happy as long as my children are, no matter what they're doing, but do hope this is more their style.

I didn't do much clubbing and partying in my twenties either; I was too busy having kids and bringing them up. I don't feel like I missed out at all, nor do I regret having them young.

27 is hardly young. By 27 I'd moved in with my boyfriend and we rarely went clubbing. And I'm 44 - I partied HARD in my youth (15-23ish).

Life is very different nowadays. We used to be able to go out with £10 and get hammered, dance all night, and get a taxi home at 2am. Nowadays that would cost you a fortune. People are more aware of their health, both mental and physical. The young people I work with don't drink loads - they tend to go out for nice dinners instead, have gym memberships, go for weekends away with friends in the UK. They date using apps and go for coffee, they don't meet in grotty clubs. It's a different world.

Each to their own even of it is gaming in their spare time. Let them be.

They DO have a life and it sounds lovely.

They've already worked out how dissatisfying and and unsuitable for themselves it is to be going out all the time, partying and doing good knows what else you were doing at their age and think they should be doing now.

They are not you and not everyone is the same, thought you would have worked that out by now.

I’m 32 but this sounds like me and my husband since we were about 23!

If you went on lots of holidays when she was younger she probably feels like she’s seen enough places! that’s how I feel - my parents took me abroad everywhere and now I feel like I’ve done all I fancy, I honestly wouldn’t care if I never got on another flight again. We love our holidays in the UK, so much nicer than expensive European mini breaks where you traipse around from restaurant to restaurant.

They sound great!

I bet you feel like you're really missing out on worrying about them falling off a balcony, disabling themselves tombstoning or crashing a moped as well don't you?

I'm really jealous of all those mothers who get to visit their offspring in prison after they've been caught dealing drugs.

SHE'S HAPPY! Honestly, people can do things at different ages - they may get to 40 or 50 and decide to go travelling, find a new found love of raving, whatever. Equally they may not. I have a friend who is a very similar age to your DD (I'm in my 50s), and she and her friends are so wholesome compared to me and mine at a similar age. They drink, but rarely get drunk, they go to garden centres, they go camping and on UK mini-breaks, are into interior design, and brunches and cooking, pets and now babies. She went on a hen do recently and said it was all the women in their 40s and 50s that were getting pissed and being embarrassing. I think a lot of their generation is just different to ours.

I feel they are much more set up for a happier and content life than I was at that age, in tons of debt, fancy holidays and restaurants, out boozing and partying, more boyfriends than hot dinners. It's all very exciting at the time, but with hindsight I do wish I'd been a bit more sensible, I made some very bad decisions!

I wasted my 20s

When you see me in the club in my 40s, please no-one judge me 🥰

Yanbu!