DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

So judgemental. I have never once been "off my face", never partied and I've never got drunk. I can't think of anything worse, personally. I am now 60s and have no regrets about this!
We're all different, she's not depressed, not lonely, she's enjoying her life. That's who she is.
Just let her get on with her life.

You think living in your 20s is getting pissed every week. Times have changed. They sound happy leave them alone.

I hated clubbing and partying and wish I had lived like them.

“They need to be enjoying their 20s” - they are, just not in the same way as you would have done! Leave them be, not everyone likes partying and the main thing is they’re happy.

I can’t believe you think the only way not to waste your youth is partying! How about doing what you actually like and living your own life doing what makes you happy??

If one partner was unfulfilled with their life and would rather be travelling the world and partying then I would agree with you. If they are both happy, who is anyone to judge?!

Things have changed.

I am 46. From the ages of 15 to 21 I was off my face pretty much constantly. The things I did make me want to sit and rock in a corner looking back.

My 22 year old son has loved very tame youth in comparison.

I am 68 and managed to have a fabuous life without ever being interested in partying, clubbing and getting up to all sorts. It is their life. Leave them alone. They sound absolutely great.

You need to leave your Dd and boyfriend alone. They’re 27 not 17 and how they want to live their lives is up to them.
What you call living and having a great time is not for everyone.
How they are living is healthy and wholesome, so again just leave them alone, nothing to do with you.

You are extremely unreasonable.

As the first poster said, I thought similar.
Furthermore, it's very little of your business.
Let me tell you, I still have a (narcissistic, abusive) elderly mother. Even she has learned to keep her beak out, as time rolled on.

You’re not just out of touch, you’re being downright mean. Bitching to a bunch of strangers about how boring your daughter is? Perhaps there’s plenty about you she doesn’t want to emulate.

If my kids grow up and are happy then I am happy. The real question is what’s up with you that’s you’re not happy with their contentment? That’s the emotion to analyse here.

Your daughter probably feels less-than because she is not measuring up to behaviour that suited you when you were young.

If I were a mum, I'd be damn grateful for having a daughter like her. They sound normal and mature. Have you ever considered that you were a bit immature at the age of 27?

Maybe I am out of touch

I don't think.you are out of touch. I just think you haven't grasped the fundamental fact that we are all individuals and have our own ideas about how we want to spend our time and what we enjoy.

I just thought they were boring

I can't even imagine what would prompt a mother of a daughter living a decent, enjoyable life to say that. Why arent you pleased for her that she is doing what she likes doing with a partner who is like minded? Gosh I feel sorry for your daughter.

Sorry @CosyDenimShark I didn't mean to quote you. I can't edit the quote out of my post.

Exactly! Can't you see how arrogant you are thinking your choices are always the best? Blimey.

I am old. I regret absolutely nothing in my life because regrets involve looking to the past, which cannot be changed. Regrets are foolish and a waste of a life. I occasionally think, oh, it might have been nice to travel in South America or Australia, but I didn't so what's the point in wasting time dwelling on it? If your DD is happy now then she will have nothing to regret when she is old, anyway. You should butt out of her life choices and be very grateful to have a DD who is content with her life choices.

It’s what they enjoy. Personally I’m not into the travelling thing and nights out. I think your dd and me would really get on. I’d rather a nice quiet weekend than out in bars

They sound very much like my incredibly happy 27yo DS and his fiancée.

They read, she loves to craft, they are both keen cooks-he was just telling me about the beef bourguignon he just made.
They are National Trust members and love a stately home.
The weekend you described so disparagingly is an ideal weekend for them.

They are 2 of the most grounded and happy people I know.
They had a bit of fun at Uni but don't feel the need for that life now.

They'd rather go to a pub quiz or meet friends than a rave.

I am so proud of them and the life they have built!!

🤣

Im starting to think that OPs post is a stealth bragging post, because as you can see from the voting OP, most of us would love our children to turn out like yours has!

I’m a real homebody, always have been. Love baking/reading and just pottering about at home. Love the cinema and going to a theatre show on my own.
I’m now in mid fifties and still love my life.
I don’t care if other people think I’m boring.
Hate travelling give me a five star hotel any day. I hate roughing it. My DF liked to go wild camping before it was trendy.

Sounds blissful!

Times have changed. Young people don’t seem to go to pubs and nightclubs as much as we did (every weekend sometimes Friday & Saturday).

Hi OP @FiddIedeedee, you're getting a hard time on here, but I get it. I had some amazing experiences travelling and exploring in my 20's, ones that really enriched my life and opened my eyes to other cultures and, from what you have said, I suspect you might have done similar things. However, times have changed and perhaps you just need to accept that your DD's life is enriched by other interests and experiences.

My only concern would be if your DD and her partner are cutting themselves off from friends. It can be easy to become very insular without realising it.

YABU.

I did the whole partying and heavily drinking scene in my 20s and I wish I hadn’t. I made alot of mistakes that I wish I could take back.

Nothing can beat the content and peaceful place I am at now where I wouldn’t set foot in a club and happiness to me is a dog walk and a Sunday roast. It sounds like your daughter has her heard screwed on and is happy.

You’re sounding like my mother, who thought her daughters should be doing what she did in her youth — wearing high heels, ‘lovely flattering clothes’, complete with girdles to suck you in, and hoping a man not obviously drunk or a rapist would ask you out to jive (because you weren’t allowed to say no). That was ‘fun’.

I never really did the clubbing thing. I’m 46. I don’t regret it.

you don’t come across well here @FiddIedeedee . I’m not surprised your daughter is cross with you.