DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

Exactly this
Despite Op's attitude, she appears to have done a good job on bringing her daughter up

Your DD sounds like my sister who turns 40 this year. She has no regrets. I think she only went to a club once in her 20's and hated it.

But they don't want to. Time to stop trying to control your DD, she's an adult and is doing what makes her happy.
Why do you have such a problem with your child being happy? Is she only allowed to live her life this same way you did? Why will she regret being happy?

Clubbing ain't a thing like it use to be.

Sounds like they’re old souls, but if that’s their thing not much you can do. I do understand what you’re saying tho.

Sounds like a great life.

You're projecting.

I think it's brilliant if they're happy with their lot. The world would be a far better place if we weren't all chasing the next sugar high. Good on them.

I've been all over the world, lived in 3 countries etc. However I think that my cousin who settled down at 21 and never left the village she grew up in is far happier than me and far more content. I now envy her 'small' life and network she has known all her life. She does not envy my disjointed 'overseas big city' life.

YABVU and need to mind your own business.

They sound a lovely, wholesome young couple with their heads screwed on.

The number of parents tearing their hair out while their children drink, do drugs, get in to bad relationships or waste their time and money - and you're here complaining about your sensible, law abiding child.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Partying, clubbing and drinking is a complete waste of your youth. Your DD sounds like she is really enjoying life rather than pissing it away.

My mother was just like you- I got together with my OH aged 17, we went to 2 18th birthday parties and a couple of other things but we have never gone clubbing and we were home bodies even before we owned a home. I liked sewing and knitting and my OH liked mending watches and making models from the very beginning, which was 1979. We are still together, still happy and not regretful of not clubbing or getting up to all sorts.
Not everyone is the same- it sounds as if your DD and BF are like we are.

I've had far more fun and enjoyment on holiday in the UK than I ever have abroad.

Good luck to them, I say.

I see your point but times have changed, clubs and going out aren’t what they used to be when we were younger. I think they sound like they have a lovely life and you need to stop trying to re-live your youth through them. I also think you are rose-tinting the going out and clubbing - it was a massive drugs and rave culture when we were growing up and I’m sure you’re a similar age. The majority of the new generation are too savvy for all that nonsense - it’s a good thing.

Sounds idyllic to be honest

I’m sorry but you are so out of order.
Your dd and her boyfriend sound just like mine and I’m so proud of how they have their heads screwed on and are living their lives exactly how they want to and are happy, not giving a shit what anyone thinks of them.
I was like you, raving, clubbing, travelling etc..do I want that for her? Absolutely not if it not for her.
Looking back I regret so much and wasted so much precious time being high or drunk and making completely the wrong decisions.
I seriously hope you don’t tell them how you feel about their lifestyle choice.

They are not you, and how they live (in what sounds a lovely, relaxed and healthy way) is none of your business. Stop projecting and let them enjoy their life as they choose.

They are living. Just not your life.

She will experience different cultures if she explores the UK. There is so much to learn within the 4 nations.

It's not always easy these days to travel, many destinations are just tourist orientated with limited opportunity to experience the true culture. People don't often have the time (annual leave entitlement) or money to travel off the beaten track.

Young people need to save hard from the outset to afford high rental costs / have any hope of buying a home. There is also pressure to establish a career straight from uni to maximise earning potential and manage the cost of living crisis.

You need to be more tolerant of different lifestyles and choices.

Judging their lives through your extrovert-normative lens is small-minded and insecure.

You don’t need to validate your life choices by denigrating theirs.

YABVU they are living their lives how they want to. Are they happy? Then butt out.
I hope you are more passive on this and not making comments or trying to change them,
My parents tried to change me. I resented them for it and for pushing me into things I hated.

A lot of wild partying has to do with filling a void. They sound very contented. When I was out til all hours in my 20s I often envied friends who had quieter lives.

How dare you label them as boring! You sound very shallow if you needed partying and clubbing to make your life feel worthwhile. Your DD and her BF find pleasure in outdoor pursuits. If you continue to openly criticise them you risk losing them.

It seems like op wants her dd to travel the world so op can boast to her friends where her dd went latest. She is not happy that her dd has found a bf who she is very compatible and happy with, she is not happy that her dd choose to live a well balanced life, going for country walks, socialising with like minded people, doing creative stuff at home, it seems like her dd being content with her life means nothing to op. She wants her to do flashy travel like other poster’s son who has been to 10 countries for adventure trips by age 21.
Op is coming across a bit narcissistic. It's about op not dd.

Sounds like they are doing better in their 20's than you did with yours?

You think going clubbing is some sort of major achievement? Did you also vomit in a taxi? How amazing!

Your daughter sounds nice and wholesome. You should be proud instead of judgemental.

God there are some nasty cows on here. The OP was just making a light hearted comment, I took it to be tongue in cheek!

What have you learnt about other cultures? Let’s hear the superior wisdom and knowledge you gained through your travel.

A lot of people these days travel to far away places but learn very little unless they spend substantial time and keep going back to the same place.

Have you even bother to notice in many of those exotic places you travelled people are home bodies, they love spending time with families. Or did you just go to clubbing destinations and clubbed whole night and now think you have learnt something amazing about other countries club scenes which your dd cannot without travelling?