DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

Be happy that your child is happy, and has a partner that she is well partnered with and has a good life.

Of my three older post uni kids - one is a party animal. Constantly travelling and finds it amusing that I sometimes have zero idea what country he's in. I'm happy because he's happy.

One is a proper homebody. Spent an eye watering amount on an armchair for her flat as she spends so much time curled up reading books. She'd rather a nice walk and a book over travel. I'm happy because she's happy.

My third has narcolepsy that's not controlled atm. She wants to be travelling round Europe and had a plan to do as many capital cities as possible, but it's all had to go on hold. She's had to change jobs because of the back to the office stipulation (even her bosses bosses boss felt it was stupid for her but they weren't allowed to make exceptions) and now instead of working FT, and being financially independent as she has been, she's working PT and being topped up with benefits which she hates while she tries to find another FT WFH role. My heart is breaking for her because she's not happy.

I agree OP. It’s depressing! I’ll never let my wild side die 😂

Your DD and her partner sound lovely.

Happy with who they are, content in their lives, etc.

You on the other hand.... 🙄🤦.

I think it's great they aren't feeling the need to thrill seek and are happy and healthy. They are chasing elusive happiness through far flung travels, they are finding pleasure in their home comforts and just being who they are.

The saying is 'you're a long time dead' ... not 'old'.

And the point is, live the life you want to live, now, whilst you can, which is exactly what they're doing.

You think reading a book is a waste of time and not 'fun' - your DD (and I) disagrees.

What exactly is it you've seen that she's missing eh? People throwing up in club toilets, getting wankered and getting off with really unsuitable strangers? Stumbling home at 3am from a field in the arse end of nowhere with less clothing than you went with..

I've seen all that and if I could go back and swap that for nights in a cosy house with a good book and a brew, I really bloody would!

Nothing groundbreaking happened on those nights out, nothing world changing. I once got ratted with Joe Gilgun (and a bunch of other weirdos and misfits and oddballs) - asides from being able to say 'I once got ratarsed somewhere in the wilds of Lancs with Joe Gilgun and a bunch of other weirdos', it has made zero difference to my life or I suspect, anyone elses!

Leave her be, she's living the life she wants to live.

I hope you’re joking.

They sound great 😃

Yeah me too.
Mine did a good line in telling me what a disappointment I was, while making up my achievements that satisfied her own mind to others and boasted.

I;m 52 and we spent a few weeks this summer in my home country in her company. We also spent time with extended family. Whenever they asked me what i was doing now she jumped in with a made up story about my successes while glaring at me and warning me to contradict her.

I'm getting those vibes from the OP who is clearly all about appearances not reality.

Haha I thought you were going to say they were lazy jobless stoners who lay in bed all day covered in takeaway containers and fag ash 😂

How is OP a "poor woman"?

I wasted my late teens/ early 20s but binge drinking and worrying more about my social life than getting a decent education and job. Biggest regret of my life. Wish I had stayed home and been in bed at 9pm instead of drinking my youth away.

That's their choice, though. A walking holiday in a National Park isn't like "going for a walk". The scenery is amazing, there's lots to explore. I don't know why you think it's a problem. Just live and let live.

Maybe they care more about the environment than you so don’t want to travel extensively. Must say when you see all the delays, cyber attacks etc going for a country walk with dogs to a pub sounds much more appealing.

At least your DD has travelled when younger.

They won't.

You've been horrible about your lovely daughter. Called her boring repeatedly, said she's acting like she's 72 not 27, compared her unfavorably to the children of your friends. You've basically said she isn't sufficiently cool for you.

Aren't you ashamed of that?

A large number of young people don't drink, smoke or do drugs like previous generations. They are less promiscuous. They exercise more. Cottagecore lifestyles like traditional crafts and outdoorsy holidays are hugely popular. They are healthier, more ecologically conscious and financially careful, and good for them.

You sound stuck in a 90s mindset. Open another bottle with Patsy and leave Saffy alone.

You are though. All the laughing emojis after saying what they like doing.

they are not boring just because they like different things to you. For some people travel would be boring if they are not interested in it. Some of my best holidays have been in the UK. We have such a lovely country with nature and history and there is so much to see. Maybe when they have explored the UK they might want to venture further afield, maybe not. They obviously enjoy baking cookies, walking and reading. Just let them be happy as they are.

They sound lovely, but you come across as rather immature and self absorbed. Why do you want them to do the things that you are interested in rather than the things that they are interested in? Walking holidays, hobbies, reading, none of those things are wasting their lives, and they don't make them boring. In my experience, people who are well read and have a wide range of interests tend to be a lot more interesting to talk to than those who only have stories about getting wasted every weekend, and think that this makes them fascinating...

Op you must be heading for 60 are you not crocheting and going to the pub for lunch yet or is that just for your "cosplaying" Dd

You're not only being unreasonable, you're being ridiculous. Their lives sound healthy, creative, interesting and productive - much better than wasting time and money going out clubbing etc. They ARE enjoying themselves and it's really none of your business.

What’s this got to do with the OPs thread? 😂 All of you stop with the melodramatics and guilt tripping the poor woman.

I do think it depends on the kind of 'tribe' she's in OP, your DD would fit with people i know who would call themselves 'cottagecore girlies' who love a country walk and a cosy vibe! the going out on the lash gang are more idolising Charli XCX and going to raves. All valid but different!

There's nothing more boring than people who constantly go on about drinking and think they're original going travelling and that it somehow makes them interesting.

Apparently not.

That's just so sad. I count my blessings every day with my DC (now adults).
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They are living. Just not in the way you deem acceptable. People can have different likes and interests to you

You joke along with your friends about how boring your daughter is? Truly awful.