DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

You're being ridiculous. The clubbing scene isn't for everyone. I loved my clubbing twenties, but I would be more than happy if my daughters prefer healthier, more settled pursuits when they reach that age.

Many of us have tried clubbing or whatever else young people do with going out, drinking and wasting their health and we still could see through our own mistakes and understand that moral norms have not changed and we were wrong and our friends who were moral, clever, quiet and wise were right. There are not moral superiorists here, just realists and reality still exists, as it always had.

It does make you a better person to create things with your hands and take or a living being....also it does ruin you to go and waste your life on alcohol, drugs and one night stands. Morals still do exist, despite western people thinking they kind of re-wrote history and morals and general norms of what a decent good human being is

@Starling7

and it’s doesn’t destroy the lives of plenty of others. Not everyone who enjoys drinking and clubbing turn into decrepit alcoholics! Crocheting and dog walking doesn’t make someone a better person than drinking and partying.

It’s no more of a ‘waste of time’ than crocheting and eating out.

And while, sure, a minority of people develop drink problems in their clubbing days, a minority of people also develop drink problems inside their own four walls.

But if that's what they enjoy doing on holiday, what harm? People like different things. They might even go for a few pints at the end of their walks you know

Gosh, you are very aggressive. I said that clubbing and drinking is a waste of time. It also destroys lives. That's a fact. You sound like you may have a problem yourself and need help.

Life expectancy in the West is decreasing for the first time ever. Maybe they will reverse that trend. I was no angel at that age! As long as they are happy!

It seems to me that the younger generation are a lot more mindful about their health and well-being.
I spent my early into mid 20s out drinking and clubbing and tbh, I can’t say that it was time particularly well spent.
In hindsight, it would have been lovely to have built a lifestyle more like your daughter.

There’s honestly more to life than going out until 4am and getting hammered, making an arse of yourself and making questionable health choices. I’m not sure why we insist on seeing it as a rite of passage.
You should be delighted she’s living healthier

…. So you want to ban parties? You make yourself sound like the Taliban.

I've seen that culture destroy and take lives. I stand by my comment.

I like being in different places, it's the physical journey for me. I do still travel, but I get sick on boats and find sitting on a plane for more than four hours makes me like a caged animal. Then there's all the hanging about at airports.

I'd rather hop on a train and explore bits of the UK I haven't been to. It's less faff. It's not 'being abroad' it's getting there.

It sounds like your Daughter & her BF have a lovely life that they both enjoy. Why would you prefer for them to be out drinking & partying when they seem happy doing what they enjoy? Would you not be worried if they were out all of the time about any trouble they may get into through being drunk or being around drunk people, or the health issues associated with binge drinking? Be thankful your Daughter is happy & has someone she can spend quality time with. You never know they may change as they get older & be proper pensioner ravers lol.

The UK is a great place to explore.

They sound like a lovely couple.

I don’t understand why you are concerned about them “having fun” when they’re clearly enjoying life, drama free. Is it a mask for jealousy? If not, find friends who want to go out and have fun with you.

There are a lot of reasons. I've never been a good traveller. As a child, I was prone to travel sickness if I went anywhere by road.
As I grew up, that problem abated slightly to be replaced by other stomach problems, plus an inability to stand in queues for long because of mobility difficulties. I don't think airports would have been great for me and I'm 61 now, so that's not going to change. If a destination is reachable by train or bus, I'm interested, but overnight stays are problematic as we have two cats and no car for transportation to a cattery.

I enjoy hearing about other people's holidays and will happily scroll through their photos, admiring the views and local cuisine, but I don't have a scintilla of jealousy or a desire to be in Rabat or Sydney, as opposed to say, Edinburgh, (somewhere I know quite well and can get to easily.)

I think you're very caring and but worrying unnecessarily. Maybe because you haven't experienced issues re. drugs, drinking, partying etc. you are not going to feel the comfort that most would feel if our children were as satisfied as yours obviously are.
If they do look back and regret not going out more, you are never too old to start but be so thankful they are where they are. You've obviously done an amazing job, you must be so proud.

Don’t you sound the nasty judgemental … person.
You couldn’t limit yourself to “partying, clubbing and drinking wouldn’t be for me”, your disgusting superiority complex had to put on display too.

In my opinion and experience partying clubbing and (very moderate really) drinking was absolutely fantastic and 100% not a waste of my youth.
I can see young people of my own acquaintance who are like OP’s daughter, and some who definitely party, and some who are a mixture. And all options are perfectly valid.

What a spiteful mean post. I’m glad my mum didn’t judge me, say I’m boring and encourage people to laugh at me on a public forum.

To put this in perspective for you, I have a family member who did all the things you wish your daughter was doing; travelling, partying, house parties, lots of drinking, some drugs… she was thoroughly miserable and took her own life at 27. Just be grateful your daughter is happy.

For me it's something I'm just neutral on interest-wise. It's not that I don't want to do it, but equally I'm not that fussed about doing it. And then other things do interest me more, like theatre so I've been to the Ed Fringe quite a few times, and so my cultural energy (if that was a thing) goes towards those interests instead.
My parents way of holidaying involved a lot of travelling around, as they wanted to see as much as possible of wherever we went. As a travel sick kid, that meant all of those memories of the great places we went are sadly also inextricably linked to feeling like I was going to throw up for hours. I suspect there's something in that too that makes me less inclined to travel as an adult!

Those that don’t want to travel out of the UK? Why?? No judgement, I’m just genuinely curious!

She obviously doesn't want to turn into judgemental old shrew like her mum

I know some people are proper gadabouts, partying, clubbing and getting up to all sorts, I fear they are wasting their youth!

When I was in my 20s I was going for walks in the countryside, cycling, having meals out (with the money I didn't waste on alcohol or nightclubs) and being a happy homebody

We're all different. As long as they're both happy and make each other happy then that's all that matters.