DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

I think this is fine for 27yrs. I thought you were going to say 15 years and refusing to do homework, not 27yrs and living her own life. I think we can look back at our younger years with rose tinted spectacles and not appreciate that some of those times weren't as good as we thought they were, and the expense when you are first starting out - my exH used to insist on spending a fortune on nights out and we never had much money as result.
I suspect I might have what you think is a boring daughter. She's 18yrs and doesn't really drink, she works in a garden centre part time as she can't decide what to do next (she got great results at the end of yr 13), she has a loan horse and does lots of horsey things with friends that doesn't include night clubs. It's what it is.

I'm about their age and I don't know anyone who is still very much in the clubbing stage of their lives. Maybe a work night out, or the occasional trip to a bar with friends, but for the most part, they're past it. In a lot of clubs, you're "old" if you're 25 and they're full of teenagers.

Are you white and middle class?

I think that often we look back on a misspent youth .But were we out partying all the time really? I went to parties ,drank and dabbled with drugs ( Actually my "friends " spiked my drink and I woke up feeling terrible .But not every night.Young people can choose how to live healthily without getting slaughtered !Your DD and BF sound great .Leave them be OP ,I am similar in that I like Holidays here in UK .The peaks are lovely .and doggy comes too I expect.Its a hassle /expensive flying now .Clubs are dear and a friends DD had her drink spiked and woke up on the steps of the club!

You must live in little England though?

Yes expense and health keeps me in the UK for the moment but I love visiting places here. I love history and we have so many beautiful towns, villages and cities. You can make a great list of UK destinations :)

Your definition of living isn't hers though. That's ok. Go enjoy your life instead, it just means you did a good job raising her.

Did she go to uni? Is she living in her home town?

What do you mean by "Little England"?.

Exactly this!! I seriously think you are the one with the problem OP… Your DD and her BF seem like very balanced twenty somethings to me! Next you’ll be worrying that they are carefully saving their income and aren’t up to their eyeballs in credit card debt!!!

They are living, in their beautiful and wholesome way.
would you rather she was getting pissed and having one night stands?
This is a strange thing to be bothered about, and I wonder what it brings up in you, is there something you feel you missed out on in your youth?

Are you trying to live your twilight years vicariously and therefore disappointed in how they choose to live their lives ?
honestly you sound like a night mare !

Why?

I think id be proud of my daughter for not following the path of partying drugs etc. Why would you want her to be tempted? Cus thats the situation your asking for her to be in right now. Take it from someone who threw their twenties away partying, you are blessed to have a daughter that wants a quiet life.

They sound great. You sound very narrow minded.

I mean, personally I’ve really caught the bug in the last few months. But it’s just so expensive. I’m planning a trip next summer and accommodation will be £2,000 alone. It takes a long time to save up and actually go and do it.

I can totally see why her DD would want to stay in the UK! I have a list of destinations in the UK I want to visit too.

Personally I think things like this good for their mental well being, and tons better than them doing drugs or gaming . 🙄

Be glad you have a sensible daughter, she isn't wasting her youth, shes protecting her future.

I honestly think that you need to stay out of your daughter's business. She is old enough to make her own decisions. And I really hope that you don't spend all your time criticising everything that she does because that's really rude and not at all fair on her

living is a personal construct for it to be meaningful
Your idea of living has resonance for you creating happy memories as it was meaningful
Equally, if their groove and idea of living is being together,walks, cooking that’s great

Travelling is fun but so expensive, for today’s young people it very well may be a question of buying/renting vs travelling.

if you have your own bills, you’re not likely going to be able to afford to travel. I mean, I’m in my 20s on £50k but I couldn’t afford to take off a chunk of time off work to travel, I doubt my manager would be impressed at the very least and I’d be in a worse position for promotion and job security.

the young people travelling are likely supported heavily by parents and perhaps that’s why OP is embarrassed, she can’t flex her wallet like her mates are and so can’t keep up with the Joneses

What troubles me about your view OP is that there is no room for accepting that your daughter wasn’t made in your own image. My 22 year old son is very different to me and I love seeing him forge his own path. He’s not a traveller or clubber as he’s saving to pay for training in his dream career. I celebrate our differences