DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

I agree with you mostly- but there is actually no suggestion that this young couple engage with anyone beyond themselves. Which I would see as a problem.

Something being “Not your thing” doesn’t make it wasting your life.
You are committing exactly the same mistake as OP, that people doing it differently from you are wrong.

OP when I went to Uni at age 18 I was happy to go out drinking etc but one thing that really pissed me off was that even amongst the supposedly most educated of young people I felt like I had to. There was a subtle suggestion from the other students and the student union that if you weren't prepared to go out and get dangerously drunk then you weren't 'fun' and weren't going to make friends. I am actually really glad if this next generation of young people are wise enough to seek out like-minded people and just do what makes them happy tbh. You're nuts if you bring this up with your dd. It sounds like they are productive members of society, are hurting nobody and are content. What more do you actually want?

I think "dog people" are just different. If the dog can't go, they don't want to go. So clubbing and drug fueled parties are out.

Sounds like a nice way to spend a day TBH.

We took our kids everywhere in our camper. Festivals, all over the country. We were away most weekends.

You don't need to go partying or on a plane.

I’m 28 and I’m married with two kids, should I still be out partying??

Bloody hell, OP, leave her alone.

She's not wasting her life, she's living it the way she wants to.

Spending time and money in some shitty night club hating every minute of it for no reason other than because she thinks it's what she "should" be doing at the age of 27 would be a waste of her life.

By the time I was 27 I was delighted about no longer having to pretend to enjoy clubbing.

I thought the OP was going to say something along the lines of they are unemployed and still under her feet at home!!

Their life sounds lovely to me. I ‘partied’ at university but not really into my twenties because I was prioritising work. I wrote my first book in my twenties on weekends because I too liked pottering and walking and - shock - going to the library!

I agree that travel is a nice thing to do but that can be done at any age and indeed can be nicer when older and with more cash. In the two years I’ve done more trips than over the last decade combined as the kids finally got past the ‘little stage’ and I had some savings. Life doesn’t end at 30….

I'd say they are living life beautifully. Wasting your life is going out getting drunk and sleeping all the next day as its not my thing. Different people like different things.

OP, do they have a wide circle of friends? You describe people who enjoy the quiet life, but do they meet other people at all, which would be a worry.

OP sounds horrible - judgemental, snobbish, narrow minded and shallow.

I’m sorry - I normally don’t agree with saying things like that about an OP, but really - she’s been so unpleasant I think it needs saying.

Well if that's the case me and my other half must be very miserable as we do pretty much the same and thoroughly enjoy ourselves and each others company. I wouldn't want to go clubbing etc sounds utterly horrendous. You love your life but don't put what you think into grown adults

I would much rather have sensible young people than reckless ones who waste their money on drugs the wrong relationships the wrong crowd etc. Count yourself lucky op!

Jesus wept- patrying and shagging is not the highlight of life for some people...
When you said they were wasting their lives I thought it's what you were doign when you were younger, but it's the opposite. Your daughter sounds so much more interesting and less shallow, good for her!

They just sound like introverts where you’re an extrovert? Not everyone likes travel and certainly not clubbing - it’s a horrendous prospect for loads of people. There’s no cut off for seeing the world either - maybe they’ll get the travel bug in ten years time and explore Europe with a toddler on their back or in school holidays. There’s time for them to evolve and do new things all their lives. Maybe at your age they’ll be hosting The Repair Shop thinking wow mum was so boring at my age, she really burnt out young 😆

I'm glad my DD is much tamer than me and enjoys cooking, being at home more and catching up at cafes with friends etc. The younger generation definitely aren't as wild as we were (I'm gen X)

I agree entirely. The OP calling her own daughter “boring” and saying that at least she’s found someone as boring as her is just awful.

Sneering at U.K. holidays and calling her “Barbara from the Good Life”.

Christ.

Not everyone enjoys the same things. And if in the future she changes her mind then she can start going on overseas holidays then!!

I think @miraxxx nailed it when she said the OP is like Jennifer Saunders in Ab Fab. That’s exactly how she’s coming across. Exactly.

Why? Very few people want to go out clubbing every weekend in their late 20s. Most people have grown out of it by that point.

Much more of a waste to spend time doing stuff you don't enjoy. I went to quite a few clubs in my youth because of peer pressure. I hated 99% of it. Clubbing isn't for me.

Your way isn't the only way to enjoy one's youth.

I can't imagine calling my own child boring, even if their idea of a good time doesn't match my idea of a good time.
That line, along with a laughing face, really stung. I hope she never finds out her own mother wrote this!
And so what if they dont travel abroad? There are plenty of beautiful places in the UK to explore and to keep UK tourism industry going. Maybe they find flying so environmentally damaging they'd prefer not to fly all over the world

I can't imagine calling my own child boring, even if their idea of a good time doesn't match my idea of a good time.
That line, along with a laughing face, really stung. I hope she never finds out her own mother wrote this!
And so what if they dont travel abroad? There are plenty of beautiful places in the UK to explore and to keep UK tourism industry going. Maybe they find flying so environmentally damaging they'd prefer not to fly all over the world

They sound a lovely couple, and very happy. How lucky to be young and met someone pefect for you.
You can't live vicariously through them, op. And things ain't wot they used to be in clubs and pubs.
Personally I think it all went to pot when people dressed down to go out.

They don't have to travel to see the world anyway. There is the telly, Google earth, books, museums.

They're not you, though. Sounds like they're happy, leave them to it!
I spent my early 20s getting pissed, now my early 20 something DS never touches alcohol, just got no interest in it. He has plenty of hobbies though, can't imagine telling him he should be "out enjoying it!" getting pissed each to their own, I say.

Hi OP. Please excuse the harsh replies. I understand your worries but wanted to share my 2pence. I’m 30, DH is 31, we’ve been together nearly 7 years and we very much live the old married couple lifestyle you describe. We have done for the past 5 years at least! Our weekends are full of dog walks, coffee shops, garden centres and gardening. We enjoy a glass of wine at home on a Friday evening and will maybe play scrabble too! We do enjoy an AI holiday once a year where we sunbathe, play cards and read on our loungers for a week! We aren’t interested in exploring other cultures. My DB is the opposite. He has travelled the world, seen some amazing places and had incredible experiences. I’m happy for him but not at all envious. DH and I would rather a self-catering cottage in the UK that we could take our dog too. We are both very happy and content. It just doesn’t interest us at all! We definitely don’t feel like we’re missing out or should be clubbing. I can see why you’d be worried but truly, if they’re anything like us they’re living their best lives!

Ah, the superficial Ab Fab mum who thinks chaos, forrein culture, sex, drugs and rock n roll is the only exciting life. And your friends' opinions seem to cut into you too. The quiet life of healthy walks, pets, craft is so boring compared to getting drunk in Paris or food poisoning in Bali.