So my ex cheated on me and was emotionally abusive to me for the year we were together. He also gaslight me and managed to cheat on me the whole time we were together (including messaging legally underage -17 year old girls when he was around mid 20s)
I went no contact with him in late 2023 but between our break up and the no contact, i asked him so many times to come get his multiple bags of stuff from my parents house. This never happened
It’s now 2 years later, the stuff is still at my parents, they are trying to move and want it out. I am engaged and live with my partner and I now have these bags taking up space and giving off bad energy in our spare room.
What on earth do I do with them? I really don’t want to contact him as he’s been so dreadful to me in the past and I am scared of him. I don’t feel comfortable messaging his mum either and i don’t remember her address to drop it off. These are also large bags so I wouldn’t want to have to go there and possibly be seen. Me and my partner can’t really afford to DPD them (esp given the amount of debt i’ve been paying off that this ex left me in)!!
What would you do?
I have people telling me to sell and donate the money/use it to pay back the remainder of debt he left me in, other people saying do not do that, people saying donate it etc and i just want it gone but ive been putting it off for years now