Random drunk stuck his head through my open living room window and scared me senseless

Good update OP. I’d follow up to see what they have to say.
Depending on the outcome and whether the club deal with it properly, you could also call the police and let them know what happened and that the club have identified exactly who it was.

Well done. There is something really not right about how that person behaved. I’m really glad you went and spoke to the club and I’m really glad the club took it seriously.
I do agree about considered making a police report. It’s possible the police won’t do anything significant, but you’d like to think that it will give this jerk considerable pause for the future.

Good update op. He'll think twice now before acting like a dickhead. Well done the club for taking it seriously.

I have not read the whole thread but some arsehole tried to break into my house when I was in.

The house looked deserted with no lights on and the windows open. it was summer. My little boy was asleep upstairs and my partner and his female cousin who had been a police officer were in the back room.

Partner gave chase but cousin called him back and rang the police. She was concerned about what would have happened if he had caught the fucker.

Why I am posting is I was really physically ill for weeks after. They were really into sports science. I am not a scientist but their explanation was something to do with adrenaline actually poisoning us so really try now to come to terms with what that arsehole did. Try not to do the ‘What ifs…’

I fucking hate stupid arseholes who make strangers the butt of their pranks.

That sounds like a satisfying update @Bobiverse

I think you are very forgiving.
I would be reporting this to the police, even more so as he has likely been identified.
His behaviour was completely unacceptable IMO.

Licensed bars are not supposed to send rowdy drunks into the street.

"The DPS must ensure that the business is run in accordance with the conditions of the premises licence and that the licensing objectives are properly promoted. These objectives include the prevention of crime and disorder, public safety, the prevention of public nuisance and the protection of children from harm."

If an official complaint is made to the police, they are able to object to the renewal of the licence. If nobody ever complains, they probably won't.

At the least it is a serious reminder to the DPS. The licensing officer at the local council may also express an opinion.

(DPS is roughly what we used to call a licensee)

Absolutely. No doubt some on this thread would say that if the OP was wearing anything other than head to toe winceyette pyjamas then she basically brought this on herself.

I’m astounded with the posters on here who consider his behaviour funny or just a prank. Or question why the OP had her window open in the first place.

A person, male or female, has every right to feel safe in their own home. To have an unknown person pull open your window from the outside and look in your home is scary. But following on from the description from @Bobiverseit was more than that. He was actually pulling himself up and leaning in through the window. In the middle of the night in a secluded area. Damn right that is effing scary.

So what if he had been at the golf club boozing it up. It’s still trespassing and possibly more.

The golf club is not responsible for this man’s behaviour. Nor the drink or the mates. He is solely responsible for what he did.

I stick by what I posted earlier, I would be contacting the police. In fact, from the description given, I would have called the police last night. He may well have been drunk but no one knows what his intentions were. And I would be happy if the police asked him that question.

I see no reason to just accept this sort of behavior “just happens’ personally. I’d write to complain to the club.

Those saying it’s not their responsibility aren’t entirely correct. They must not continue to serve alcohol to people who are already very drunk. It’s irresponsible and could affect their license. Assuming this man was served alcohol until he was so paralytic he was unable to control himself, to the extent he’s climbing into your house, then your complaint to the club committee should be taken very seriously.

Id also report to police on non emergency number. It isn’t normal to try and enter someone’s house after a few beers. I bet this bloke has form for anti social behavior.

Lucky it is the UK, in some other countries he would likely have had a face full of lead and now be dead! And legally it would have been justified in some of those countries as well

It's not surprising you were scared, but I was about to suggest a restrictor too - next time it might not be an idiot.

I’d be really shook up too, I don’t see anything funny about it. When I was a child a drunk neighbour wandered into my house and passed out on our spare bed. I was terrified and my poor mum had to ring the police as he wouldn’t wake up and leave.

You forgot the 'what were you wearing op?... I mean pyjamas, in your own home at 1am?..🤨'

Never the fault of the arse home invader is it?

I think i would have been frightened if that happened to me.

I wouldn't report it if it was the first time.l it happened. I would assume it was a one off, and from the ops response it sounds like it hasn't happened before so I would put it down to a high jinx mood.
Im not saying its ok because its clearly not.
However if it happens again I would be escalating things.

I wondered that too.
I mean where's the line here where women are allowed to complain about feeling unsafe and be taken seriously? Obviously this drunken stranger had no ill intentions but the OP didn't know that.

If he'd broken in and threatened the OP it'd be "well at least he didn't sexually assault you". God forbid if that'd happened then the OP would likely be told "well your still alive aren't you, don't be so dramatic". And if she'd been murdered in her own home there'd be tuts of "well what did she expect, leaving her window open at that time".

How shocking.
I would report it to both the police and the golf club.
He made an attempt to get into your home.
God but MN is so toxic.
Of course this was shocking.
Could you describe him?
Did you get a look at him?
Because I would report it.

That sounds terrifying. We have casement windows, but never have the downstairs windows open after dark because I would feel too vulnerable (and the house would fill with moths and daddy longlegs).

I always close my curtains for the same reason.

Yeah this is awful. I would have felt very threatened and scared.

And a lot more calmly than I'd have managed. I think my panic instinct to something intruding through my window would have been to slam the window down hard - though it's just as well you didn't or you could have had a decapitated head on your floor.

Hope you feel better this morning.

Didnt mean to put no but cant edit now.

And my response to that sniffy question would be: I'd like you to comply with your alcohol licence (and the Licensing Act in general) or risk its removal because I'm copying this complaint to the council who issues it.

No, i have my window open in the bedroom.

Well you're not the only one to pedanticaly focus on that, rather than the dickhead being a dickhead.
Why is that the focus of the thread for you @Redburnett?
So if he'd actually got in, it would be the fact that the window was open that was the main issue, not his actions?