Random drunk stuck his head through my open living room window and scared me senseless

Who has fly screens on windows in the Uk?! Not many at all! Most people here have windows that when open more than a tiny bit, someone could pull open further and climb through

Delighted to see your update.
Don't feel bad for him. He's learned a hard lesson early enough on in his life for it to have little impact on his future. Hopefully it will help him with making better decisions.
I'm pleased to see the club taking it so seriously.

How terrifying for you, OP. Don't feel bad about the man who did it not passing his probation. He's hopefully learned that actions have consequences, and as @Tortielady said, those consequences could have been even more serious.

Don't feel bad for this young man. He needed to learn a lesson. Hopefully he'll look back one day and realise getting put straight was the best thing that could have happened to him.

I understand the feeling crappy, as you’re a decent kind normal person.

Yes he’s young and foolish. But I have a teen son and I would want him to learn that his stupid actions have consequences too, before anything got further out of hand. He’s learned a lesson in respect and thinking about other people and the effect his actions have.

As others have said, Golf Club, Licensing Authority and Police. You won't get action but the record is there. The next time it might be a neighbour complaining about noise but it all builds up and could lead to restrictions on the licence - hitting the club's bottom line. You'll soon get action from the golf club.

Just read update - don't feel guilty - you did the right thing by reporting and it would appear so did the club.

You need to get a window lock that stops your windows being opened any further when you have them open that way you can be safe in the knowledge it won't happen again. It must of been pretty scary at that time of the morning.

I understand why you feel bad about the outcome, but as someone who was burgled three times over at a previous address, I'm sorry you're upsetting yourself over it. The young man in question is lucky he only had you and his employer to deal with. The police could have been involved (and still could.) Instead of you, he could have met a brick outhouse with the temper of a hung-over honey-badger. Things could have gone horribly badly for him in ways he might never have recovered from. As it is, he's failed his probationary period and will have to start again, looking for a job in an area where there might not be many options. But he's alive and well and might not be stuck with a criminal record - many would say he's got off lightly.

Staggering really

Agree. Some of the comments are totally bonkers.

Not bars... a fly screen!!

Yes OP, totally your fault, simple bars on the window would have prevented this happening!🙄

Exactly, although I am surprised no has yet berated op for not checking on the wee twat as 'he could have been vulnerable being so drunk, how 'unkind' of op to only think of herself and her dc....🙄

I'm glad the golf club took it seriously and sorry you've had a derailer on this thread.

Christ... 🙄

Yes, it’s 100% her fault that some random drunk decided he had the right to open her partially opened window and trespass on her property - perhaps she should just put metal grills on all her windows and be done with it 🙄tell me you’ve missed the point without telling me you’ve missed the point. Nobody has the right to walk on to your property and touch your open window much less stick their head through it. Regardless of whether the window is open or not?! Someone get OP stripped naked and a let’s all shout ‘shame’ at her as she walks the streets of her local town 🤷🏼‍♀️

No one has fly screens in the UK.

V glad to read your updates. It's a good thing that there's a serious consequence for the young man. It's good for him to have a wake up call and good for society that some actual adults have acted and done the right thing.

We have a major problem with male behaviour in society. This is trivial compared to your incident but I too am a lone parent. I took my child out for a pub lunch at the weekend. Place I hadn't tried before. Only one table was occupied. We were looking at menus and my child was seated (I was about to sit).... And two men came over and told us loudly and abruptly that was their table. I apologised and said I didn't realise it was reserved and we moved. As we did so the other man laughed and said his friend was a liar. So just a bit of a laugh to make a mum and her kid get out of their way. I was so pissed off with their behaviour we left. I'm not putting up with it. It's trivial I know but it's horrible.

Hopefully that young man won't grow up to be a dick like that or worse.

It’s just not really a thing that’s needed here and would feel very odd to have fly screens.

The most you might get is that in the four weeks of summer we get, some people might hang a temporary thing up with strands of plastic to keep flies out if you have a particularly bad issue with them

Fly screens are fixed over the window completely covering the window opening. You cannot physically pop your head through them. It is mesh installed over the opening. You cannot stick your head through solid mesh.

How would a fly screen have prevented what happened? They aren’t a security measure. They are for keeping flys out, not drunk men. Ones we have used have just been velcroed on and would have popped if in the scenario described.

We don't have these screens in the UK. Millions of houses and bungalows and no fixed screens. It is just not a sensible suggestion.

The dickheads on this thread think they look hard egging each other on and out cool girling each other. Strange individuals.

It's not victim-blaming at all! She can still have the window open with the mesh fly screen on it!!!

Is it 'victim-blaming' to tell people to lock their house doors at night?