To feel humiliated meeting DP’s best friend for the first time?

wow you must be a laugh a minute, bet they're glad they made the effort.

Am I missing something? Unless you have massively misunderstood the meaning of bottomless brunch, and do in fact stagger home with a cocktail umbrella and flute of mimosa lodged up your rectum, he was basically saying that you're a bit tipsy after going to one? Which is surely the whole point of bottomless brunch? It would be weirder if you came back completely sober, as it would suggest that you drink so much normally that two hours of cocktails didn't affect you at all.

Seriously, where's the insult/humiliation? If you reacted to this mild joke with anything other than an eye roll or laugh then as the friends I'd be judging you, not him.

Oh yeah, that's absolutely right. Women have been told this for decades. If you don't laugh at the bloke's crude comments then you're obviously frigid and probably a lesbian. Either way you're a humourless bitch. C'mon girls, lighten up and indulge those poor menz.

I'm sure he is delighted to be 'pulled up on it' not once but twice, at the last count. Who made you the arbiter of adults' conversations?

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Oh lighten up. Why “humiliated”? My DP has only 3 fingers on one hand because of an accident and if anyone asks about it when I am there he makes a joke about it still working with my clit.

I see why you were embarrassed OP, he needs to keep his mouth shut.

God, people have lost their sense of humour these days.
it was a joke. You know, no harm meant just light hearted fun

But I don’t think that’s linked to having bottomless brunches.

You come across as having massively overreacted and probably embarrassed him in front of his friends. Your behaviour would be a dealbreaker for me and I would end things.

Sorry @Masiemaise but aim afraid his comment would have had me in stitches!

It was clearly a joke and nothing humiliating whatsoever.

I think I’d have responded, “gosh, yes, we have experimented a bit haven’t we. You’d never think he’d be the type to be up for a pegging, would you?!. Anyway, how is the tiramisu, Steven?”

I skim read that as ‘unlimited items up
your bum’ and thought to myself, blimey Slug and Lettuce will do anything to get more people to visit these days won’t they…

Read the post again

Guess you mean the OP and not me?

It’s a joke. A joke! He seems witty, but I quite like crude humour like that. I’d only have an issue with it if I genuinely did shove remote controls or such like up my arsehole in which case I’d be sensitive about him sharing my penchant for bum fun with his pals.

Whilst you’re thinking it was humiliating and tasteless, he could be thinking you’re a prude who doesn’t understand his sense of humour.

Why the humiliation, unless you do actually shove things up your arse and he’s given away your little secret? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Given that you have been humiliated by that comment I would say that you aren’t compatible with your partner and it’s the end of the relationship (he is probably thinking that about you as well).

Plenty of people enjoy anal sex and I can tell you from my NHS ward experience that a surprisingly high number of people clearly do insert objects internally and get them stuck or cause an injury. Each to their own.

Is that what you got from that?

Tbh that wouldnt have occured to me as it makes no sense at all, surely he was just implying the OP was drunk

Have I missed some common connection between unlimited drinks and items up your bum?

Did everyone just laugh at the joke it was meant to be? I would have.

OP if I were at that table I’d assume you were embarrassed because you like having things shoved up your bum when you’ve had a few.

Disclaimer-there’s nothing wrong with this if that’s what you’re into.

You need to fly one straight back at him next time. Instead of getting upset.

You sound a bit straight laced to me. Nothing wrong with that of course, but you might not be the person I'd want to talk with at a party.

I hate this sort of humor. You clearly hate it too and your H should know that, so should not have made the joke.

If he wanted to make a joke about what he shoves up his own after he’s been out drinking, then leave him to it.

But he’s your H, the person who should know you don’t like jokes like this at your expense.

So YANBU.

Your DP was in the company of his best friend who he has known longer than you and who he hasn’t seen for a while. He clearly felt relaxed in his company and comfortable saying it and his friend probably thought nothing of it.
I’ve been with my DH for many years and neither of us are perfect and we’ve probably pissed each other off more than once over the years but we’ve moved on and something like this wouldn’t be something I’d be taking the trouble of asking about on Mumsnet. The fact that you are posting on here makes me think you feel it’s more than that. In which case perhaps you should think carefully if you want to carry on with this relationship.

urgh it sounds like he’s trying to show off to his friends and embarrass you. I also would have raised it and if he did it again I would be considering my options.