DP not enjoying our “Special time” before the baby arrives.

Why couldnt you do all those things in your own home?

Talk to him.

He's allowed to feel bored op, presumably he's too far away from friends and hobbies so it is literly just waiting for the baby to arrive. You said yourself that it was meant to be so you could relax. Now you've turned it into some sort of "special time" which sounds very much like enforced fun. Surely the special time is about to happen, when your new baby arrives and you all get to know one another.

Are you doing anything like going for counter walk, going out for dinner / cinema etc if not then why the need to leave where you live and give birth there?

Nope! Which is why I was even moreso 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫!!

But why is everyone all so ‘of course he’s bored out of his brains’? Ignore the pregnancy, they went to the parents place at 39 weeks, she’d have mentioned if she’s a week overdue- who doesn’t expect their husband to be able to spend a few evenings in their company without being bored? Yes without their own friends and hobbies right there to entertain them, I don’t know anyone who doesnt expect this of their dh. Why even marry someone if you can’t do that??

I'm another home birther who can't imagine wanting to be in a home other than my own for it. That said it's OP's birth, not mine, and if that's where she feels comfortable and relaxed that's fair enough. Sounds like the DP is trying to be supportive in the circs even though it might not be his own most comfortable and relaxed place. Try not to take things to heart too much OP. 39 weeks is an emotional time!

It doesn't seem deeply puzzling to me.

Presumably the parental home is in a pleasant and peaceful spot in the country, and may be a more comfortable house than their own, with many positive associations for the OP.

Her husband might just be feeling a bit irrelevantly displaced, and missing his normal everyday life and its interactions.

I expect once the baby comes along, they'll soon find more compelling things to worry about.

Honestly, having had 2 babies (and 2 home births as well) the last place I would have wanted to be is basically in a holiday cottage. I’d want to be relaxing in my own home, doing my own things, living my normal life before it all gets turned upside down. I suspect this is familiar and relaxing to you, but quite stifling to him and he misses home.

Are you in the US?
And what about a midwife etc? Do you have professional care arranged?

I think that’s a massive leap. I’d have found this boring. It doesn’t mean I’m a shit mum!

Anticipation of the baby coming is probably adding to his sense of boredom. I was so bored the days before having DD1. Everything was ready, everything was done, I knew I was meant to be “enjoying the last few days” but really I was just unsettled, couldn’t get into any activity, found everything boring because I was just like “come on come on come on let’s get this done!”

Nonsense. The baby hasn’t arrived yet, and he’s been spirited away to a cabin in the woods (or something like it) away from all the normal aspects of his daily life and he’s bored. I would be too.
Doesn’t suggest for a second that he’ll be unable to cope when the baby’s here.

I disagree with this..lots of people struggle with being away from home... Doesn't mean they won't pull their weight as a parent

It sounds like there isn't a lot of activity going on at the moment... Maybe he struggles with the lack of stimulation but will enjoy the hands on parenting of being a new dad

Well, being female I was obviously the pregnant person in this scenario, but I’d have hated to spend weeks hanging around at my PILs before I gave birth.

Because I commuted weekly by air, I had to go on mat leave at 36 weeks, and we spent as much time as possible before DS arrived soaking up as much theatre and music as possible, and eating out in formal places, knowing we wouldn’t be able to do it for ages.

I couldn’t have coped with that you’re doing.

My theory based on just the posts from OP is that their normal home is maybe a city apartment in a big city, and the parents home is a nice country house so basically she wanted a relaxing holiday in a nice location before the baby is born. That sounds nice to me and I can understand why you thought your DH would enjoy it too. Of course you may not enjoy it as much now you know he is not happy. I'm not quite sure where the homebirth is set up, but if it's back in the city home, then I would probably just go back early.

I'm puzzled as to why you want to be in someone else's home at 39+ weeks pregnant and give birth there.
Was it your idea to go to your parents home? I am guessing it was and it doesn't sound like it's working well for your dh.

In the very opening paragraph of her OP. She says all is set for a home birth there when referring to her parents' house.

Some have said that it was ambiguous, but to me that's what she said - giving birth at her parents' house.

Well if she is closer to parents, then an additional oddness is them being away!!

If you have had to go home (aka your parents) to roost them I’m concerned for you once that baby arrived. You should be prepping in your own family home not a childhood home.

Sorry to be brutally honest but him being bored instead of "enjoying the time before everything changes" means he has no idea how much is actually going to change. He probably feels holed up in a house he doesn't feel comfortable in without even realising that a bomb is going to detonate in his life. Once the baby is here, he won't even have the luxury of being bored. If he can't handle being in a different house for a few days, then he doesn't sound like the sort of man who can pull his weight with a new baby for very long.

The logistics of having a home birth at your parents I am curious about

When presumably you have had all your midwife and hospital appointments in your own area…. And they surely won’t travel miles out to the country.

Op… are you going with a private doula or midwife?

It’s still your family home. Your parents home. It’s not his home. I’d hate this.

I think you need to accept that he is finding it a bit boring and not be offended by that

He is away from his usual routine amd probably usual past times if you are away in the country and not in your own home.

Don't take it personally, different people like different levels of activity...one day of chilling out at home is enough for me, even with the best company ever

You're at home, he's not. He will feel like a guest, you're in the place you probably feel most comfortable of all.

The thing to take from this is that even though it's not what he really wants to do, he's still doing it, because you want to!!

It's also quite weird to go to your parents' house to give birth to be honest, but we'll park that for now..

Nope. That’s well strange. Sounds like the OP is closer to her parents than her DH. The whole thing feels very weird to me, and I can imagine he is not only bored but a bit fed up with his DW feeling that Mummy and Daddy’s home is her preferred place to give birth.

But what can he do whist staying at your parents? Its like a holiday but not . Sounds like a bank holiday weekend stuck indoors that drags on and on.
How much can you really cook and chat?
What if you dont go in to natural labour till 42 weeks ?
He has a right to be bored. So long as he is being nice and helpful to you then his feelings are normal .

"Me and DP agreed in the early weeks of my pregnancy that we’d spend from 39 weeks onwards at my parents’ home, a little way out of the city, so I could relax before the baby arrived. Everything is sorted for a home birth there."