DP not enjoying our “Special time” before the baby arrives.

I would feel really stressed and on edge staying at my ILs' house for an extended period of time, especially with a huge event like a baby being born. I think it's very normal that he would be feeling bored and stressed. I'm sure he would rather be at home - it's good that he is going along with the plan but I wouldn't expect him to be loving it

I dunno, doesn't the average man seem to think about "special time" quite a lot?!

She’s having a babymoon (I believe that’s the ghastly term) at her parent’s house while they are away. Her home birth will be in her own house. I’m not sure that leaving your home set up so close to your due date is sensible, but for all I know it’s just down the road from your own home. I think if it were me I would be bored - what is there to do in their house that you can’t do in your own? He’s gone along with it to please you - but you can’t magically make him enjoy it.

Good god OP are you trying to live in a romantic novel

Goodness that’s quite a read

The last few weeks of pregnancy are pretty boring tbh. I was bored and I was the pregnant one. You can't do an awful lot, just waiting and pottering about. Boring. Couple that with being stuck out in the country, double boring.
Why don't you have an honest conversation with him and see if you both want to go back home?
Honestly, you will have years of 'special stuck indoors time' ahead. These are your last few weeks of actual freedom.

He sounds bored out of his brain. Blokes don't think about 'couple time together.' 😆

It sounds as though the holiday may have been booked last year and OP agreed to housesit/petsit.

Then she got pregnant and is now trying to sell it to her husband as 'special time'?

I don’t think it’s very relaxing to stay in someone else’s home. I would be bored and fed up too. You made a request and he complied and it sounds like he’s not making a fuss about it. But you are being unreasonable if you are insisting that he also enjoy it it as much as you.

As I said upthread it wouldn't be for me but it's not impossible for me to imagine why someone else would plan this. Perhaps OP's parents home feels much more private for the birth than her own. Perhaps there's space there for a birthing pool and OP's place is not suitable. Lots of possible reasons. Equally it's totally reasonable for the DP to feel out of place for the moment.

Yeah I think its just that it isnt home op xx

Ok, so that's even weirder. What is the point of being there if they aren't doing all the heavy lifting for you? I thought that was the whole point of it, so that you could relax.

Why can you relax more by being alone in your parents' house than in your own home? And how can it be easier to arrange a home birth there, with the right support when the time comes, if it's not the area where you usually live?

Ah I skimmed over that.

Seems an odd thing to do, I found the last weeks a bit boring as you are just waiting so we went out lots, went to cinema, meals out, saw friends etc not hide away

Sounds like absolute hell to me.

At some point you'll have to go home, and sort everything out, and start your family life there. I don't understand why you're delaying it.

Its in a nice area I presume? Quite area .

They're away on holiday, apparently.

AIBU to be upset that he isn’t enjoying this “just us” time before the baby?

It's not "just us" though, is it? It's you two plus your mum and dad, there to do the washing and hoovering and bring you tea and biscuits on a tray while you waft around like a princess, waiting to give birth. It's a bit of a weird set up and one I don't understand at all. I'd have thought you'd be far more comfortable in your own at this very personal and uncertain time, not living out of a suitcase at your parents. It makes me think you and your parents lives are enmeshed to a slightly weird and unhealthy degree and your DH just has to go along with it.

So why did you have to go to your parents house? Surely it would be more comfortable to stay in your own home?

Because it’s not for a few nights — it’s from 39 weeks until whenever the baby shows up. Which, in my case was 43 weeks!

He’s gone along with what you wanted, he’s there - what more do you want?

You can’t force him to enjoy it if he isn’t. He can’t help being bored. This is what you wanted. Not him, but he’s trying. It’s weirdly controlling to think he has to force himself to enjoy it just because you are. You sound incredibly precious. I’d be bored too.

This sounds awful, don’t know why you’d do it to him. Move home home as soon as you can, even if that needs to be after the birth.

Also this, assuming not UK, as @LaniJen are you giving birth outside of your area and been readily accepted by home birth team?

I think you just need to accept that whilst it’s what you wanted, he’s just not enjoying it. It sounds like you’ve devised the time to meet your needs (perfectly valid in end stages of pregnancy) but that he had very little say in the matter. He’s entitled to vent to family about not having a good time.