DP not enjoying our “Special time” before the baby arrives.

It's a strange idea TBH. I imagine he wants to be in his own home, and would prefer baby to be born in their /his/your own home too.
On the positive side he loves you enough to put up with your requests - he's allowed to moan/let off steam to his family.
What's wrong with the home you've made together?

Well he can't help how he feels I suppose. Maybe he is more of a city-dweller type.

It's disappointing he isn't loving it as much as you, but I guess as long as he is trying his best to make you happy and comfortable, he is doing what he should be.

Try not to over exaggerate the importance of this. It's not worth upsetting yourself at a time like this.

Anyway, perhaps he just said "oh it's a bit boring" because he didn't want to sound overly soppy and emotional to his family members?

When I was seriously ill in hospital, my ex sent a message to one of his female friends saying it was "really boring". I don't think he was enough of a monster to be ACTUALLY bored by me being close to death (at least I fucking hope not - I gave years of my life to that man) - I prefer to think he just wasn't a man who was comfortable admitting to strong emotions. If that makes sense.

Why can’t you do this at your own home? Really strange.

I agree with this poster.

What is special time? 🤷‍♀️. I wouldn’t have thought him spending time at your parents home is very special. 🙄

I simply wouldn't stay at my in-laws house, and definitely not the house of a boyfriend. Wouldn't be comfortable.

Do many people like cooking together? I thought it gets on peoples tits 😄

Im not surprised he’s bored,I wouldn’t want to be there either.

Whats wrong with being in your own home with all your comforts there? I’m guessing he has just went along with this to please you so you can’t blame him for not wanting to be there.

But why would you not want to be in your OWN home? I find it really odd that you obviously dont view the home you share with your husband as your home.... Im with your husband even without your parents there its really odd you expect him to be all comfy and relaxed there... Its not his home?
Most people would surely feel more comfortable in their own home..

I actually think its really odd you've asked him to do this

Where's your parent's home? The Hamptons? 🙄

I think this is the crux of it, really. Being in your own house is just relaxing in a way that being elsewhere isn't.

I find this set up really odd and I can understand why he’s bored!

im currently in hospital at 37 weeks waiting for them to break my waters due to pre eclampsia and I’ve not been home for days. My husband is home with our 4 year old. It’s made me realise I’d do anything to get back home and that’s our safe space together, I don’t understand why you’d uproot and expect your husband to be out of his home just before a big life event.

mine will be working as normal tomorrow as well despite all that’s going on, unless I’m actually delivering

I don’t understand the “special time” reference, sounds a bit twee

This comment says far more about you than the OP.

I think it's fine OP, don't worry. So he's a bit bored. You're the one soon to give birth and it sounds like you're in the right place for you.

"Special time" sounds a bit cringy to me. And maybe a bit self-indulgent. Sorry. When I was expecting mine we just got on with life - working, paying the mortgage etc. What "special" things were you expecting?

I am not clear why you are in your parents' home already.

I can understand that your OH finds it a bit boring and feels like someone tagging along to your life.

I understand what you had in mind and why. But I think it’s like when people talk about ‘quality time with the kids’, this is experienced quite differently by everyone involved. Nothing wrong in that and it doesn’t mean the love isn’t there but just a reality. Hope you’re doing ok x

He runs his own business and employs people. Hi is an alpha male. You cannot turn him down. That's what will support you and baby in the future..
I understand your choice of a larger place to give birth.

I love these replies! Making me laugh… but at the same time, feeling a little sorry for op! Doubt she’ll be back!

YABU to be upset that someone else does not feel exactly the same as you.

If it's something you agreed and he knew what it would entail then I think you're well within your rights to feel disappointed. It doesn't sound shit, it's not shit for you, and that's important. It's something you felt you needed and now you've found out that the connection you felt you were getting wasn't really an honest one.

I'm sure a grown man can cope with being away from home for a week, the way people are going you'd think you were making him sleep in the shed.

Eh?

As other posters have already asked OP…why in god’s name are you not doing this in YOUR OWN HOME??

This sounds insane to me! I’d have hated not being in my own home just before giving birth…what were you even thinking ffs???

Team DH here!

How odd? The whole 'special time' is rather cringe and he probably feels bored shitless in his partners parents house, away from home. Form his perspective, what on earth is 'special' about that??

I would hate for someone to use my house for their birth. The blood and mess too! Will your parents be back when you give birth? I don't know what's weirder, them being there or them being away!

go home!!

It all sounds very odd. So you’ve decamped to your childhood home in country to give birth? He’s there working. But presumably is missing all his usual hobbies and friends. Seems odd decision, you might be there 3 weeks.

I can understand why you’d be upset but the main thing is he still doing it for you even though he’s not really enjoying it himself. I think you just need to talk to him.

I’m curious though as to why the place that you chose to relax and connect with your husband is your parents house.

Is there some reason you don’t feel comfortable at home?

What’s the plan for when the baby arrives, are you planning on remaining in your parents home for a while?

People are so fucking mean on these threads, honestly.

OP, it sounds like you find your parents' home a special and relaxing place to be - I'm guessing it's in the countryside, where normally you live in the city? And you probably have a bit more space and quiet, hence arranging your home birth there.

I would just talk to your DH. Tell him you read his message and you're a bit sad that he's finding it dull. Maybe there is something you could do to make it more fun for him. Or maybe he is there because he loves you and wants you to have what you want, but it isn't really his thing. Either way, you should talk to him about it.