DP not enjoying our “Special time” before the baby arrives.

God I’d have hated that, and I was the one having the baby 😂 I spent the last night before I went in for my induction nagging DP to help me clean all the door frames so it was ‘nice for when the baby comes home’ 😂😂

Also, you were checking his phone, no need for fibs about Bluetooth 😉

Agree with everyone else the set-up sounds tedious and odd. I'll presume there's a good reason for it (like technical requirements to set up the bath or whatever) and not just you saying that your parents house feels better to you than your shared family home. Even so, it's tedious and unpleasant to be in someone else's space.

And he isn't even objecting to it or complaining to you. He is just not enjoying it (obviously) and letting off mild steam to others.

Enjoy the baby.

That’s what she wants to do, give birth at home. If OP needs medical assistance I’m assuming she knows how to access it quickly’

He’s allowed to be bored.

I really think it’s just you had some expectations and they aren’t being matched. And that’s ok. Also your hormones are going to be crazy right now. I cried at all sorts towards the end of my pregnancy. We ordered a pizza and some chips from our regular place and the chips weren’t how I like them and I cried. I was so irrationally upset.

OP are you planning a 2 week ‘babybubble’ after the birth too? because I fear for his sanity lol.

Honestly, just talk to him. He clearly wanted to do the right thing by you but isn’t enjoying the enforced alone time.

When I read the OP title I thought "special time" meant sex

I would just ask him about it, maybe there's a compromise to be had so you can stay where you are but he can be less bored

Hello, DH - while I was going through your messages, I saw a message from you to a female family member saying you were bored

Also no idea why.

Jesus Christ.

The parents aren't there people, RTFT.

I would assume the parents house is also much more spacious and comfortable than the OP's, and most importantly she wants to be there.

OP you are the most important thing here, you are the one who is going to be giving birth and you are the one that needs to be as comfortable as possible. What on earth would he be doing at home that is so exciting compared to here?

I would just ask him about it, maybe there's a compromise to be had so you can stay where you are but he can be less bored. It doesn't have to be a big deal but he really should have said something to you before he went moaning to other people.

Yes yabu.
Nothing special or romantic or just us about being in your childhood home when you’re 9 months pregnant and every time you two hug that baby is right there and can kick one of you while punching the other.

I would be bored out of my mind. I worked until my due date and my DC were all >1 week late. For my first, I was so bored and fed up of being pregnant, I went on long walks all day long. After that, I had little ones to chase after while waiting for their younger sibling to decide to appear. I so kicked myself for not appreciating being bored.

Not everyone enjoys camping out at their in laws during the nail biting wait for labour to start. Especially if you get one of those start and stop labours that go on for days.…

This was my thoughts . It’s not alone time living with parents .

Well it’s a good job you were in hospital then but many many women have had safe and happy home births too so each to their own.

Nah - he's just bored (I'd be too)

You will hopefully look back at this in a few years time and laugh at how silly you sound. I know when I had my first after many years of trying I had exceptional ideas of what I wanted, that ended with being blue lighted from our rural nurse led maternity to the main hospital for an emergency section under GA. Not at all my fluffy bunny birth I was expecting and you know what, it made me realise the only important thing is a healthy baby.

Probably because my daughter would have died if I hadn't been in hospital, that's why.

everyone I know (small sample, I am aware) who wanted a home birth ended up blue lighted to the nearest hospital.

As long as it's not in a block of flat at least, poor neighbours!

Let's not even go into a private choice (perfectly reasonable to have one) but not funded privately.

Because it’s what she wants to do, why do you have a bugbear about other people’s choices that aren’t affecting you? It seems like your upsetting yourself unnecessarily.

It is weird to want to give birth at your parents house. The whole point of a home birth is that you are at home. Any house is suitable really - I had my third in a tiny cottage. It seems like your home doesn’t feel to you like your home - and I think that is the issue here, not your husband getting bored kicking his heels at your parent’s house.

Why did you think he'd be happy at your parents' home, when he could just be in his own place?

Why are you having a home birth anyway? It's a bugbear of mine!

I think you had an idea of what might be lovely and romantic and it’s not worked out like that.

perhaps rethink the plan.

I assume it’s where she’s most relaxed so best for the home birth experience?

OP- how long are you staying after the birth?

He should be worried that that situation, not being able to do anything right for his wife, will continue. Poor chap!

I can imagine being in the awkward waiting for something to happen place, mentally. A bit like when you have friends coming for dinner; if I'm ready in advance (miracle)/they are late then I sort of perch on the sofa not really able to settle to anything. And with a baby there's a lot more of an unknown arrival time. I'd give him credit for doing a thing that was important to you and not whining about it to you.