DP not enjoying our “Special time” before the baby arrives.

Yes I have zero issues with the fact he’s bored and sharing it.
Its the women on here so concerned for him being bored and not in his comfort zone.

Im with the op. It’s tough being pregnant. Anything which makes it nice is a plus.

Amazed and concerned anyone would have a home birth for their first. Myself and several of my friends had normal pregnancies and then serious life threatening issues in labour. You don’t know how it will go till it’s actually happening. ‘Low risk’ only means do much. I’d have died at home and so would my eldest child. An ambulance wouldn’t have been fast enough. Grateful my friends and I all chose hospital births for our first babies. Our children are alive which is all that matters. The people I know that did birthing centers were all on their second babies or subsequent ones.

You’re not a feminist

Yeah, I think that's a fair point. It's not a massive problem, it sounds as if he's going along with it ok, but having a conversation would clear the air.

I don't think it's nasty. You pick hospital over home not because it's cozier but because it's safer. Picking a different home over your own can't be compared to that. For one, she isn't picking it for safety reasons or she would be in a bloody hospital.

What a nasty post to make to a pregnant woman.

OP has no more suggested their home is not good enough than all the women who give birth in hospitals do.

Exactly this.

To be fair to the bloke it sounds like he is doing it without complaint for her, but some of the women on here are making out the OP is the devil when in reality she is heavily pregnant, uncomfortable, probably quite nervous and her comfort is top priority.

If you're anything like me OP, you're knackered and just wanting to chill at 39 weeks. All I wanted to do was nap and have my DP rub my various aching joints and obsess over tiny socks. Nothing wrong with that - it's a cosy, sleepy time. I imagine it can't be anything except dull for anyone less tired though.

Your DP obviously really cares about you and wants you to be comfortable and relaxed (as well he should), so I wouldn't let the text spoil this time for you.

Seems the feminist is her husband, as he has her back here.
She had no idea he was bored, as he's ensuring she enjoys her special time.

Yeah tbh he's doing pretty well to me. He's doing what you want, OP. He doesn't have to love every minute of staying at your parents house while working and waiting. It's fine.

One assumes that during this time, OP and her DH have agreed that DH will drive her to the hospital and will not call an ambulance?

You’re not. You think you are maybe.

I’m miserable when pregnant. Who cares? My dh. If I want to spend the last week being where I want to be then he’d do it.

From my own experience, giving birth, babies are really really boring. Endless needs. Happily they grow up.

I’m a feminist and I think the OP is selfish and indulged.

Me too!

When things go wrong they go wrong very quickly.

So your plan is to call an ambulance if something goes wrong?? An ambulance that could be saving someone else?

I’m not sure you have a proper handle on feminism, really.

what are you on about? Her comfort obviously trumps his - that's why he's kindly having a miserable time to make her happy.

What else do you want him to do? Respect to him.

Honestly mumsnet!! 😂 You are carrying his baby and your comfort trumps his.

We give up so much including our bodies , the second a bloke gives up his home comforts women are all over him with sympathy.

Find a feminist. She’ll have your back like me!

You sound like a hell of a lot of work and so utterly indulged!

How can you not see that this is awful for him? You’ve basically described the first week of lockdown (stuck inside & working from home).

My partner and I took a short trip before our baby arrived. It wasn’t an entire week and we had things to do. I was at work literally the day before my scheduled c-section.

Also, why are you being so reckless to give birth at home? I’ve been present at a birth that was dangerous and thankfully the obstetrician intervened. I don’t understand why you are choosing to be away from medical professionals.

Your husband sounds very considerate, or you're being wilfully blind to his experience.
Your reaction to the messages sounds a bit much.

It’s like that other thread where one woman was texting a man from work and someone came on to say that it was wrong because ‘she was interrupting their cuddle time’ like what long term couple actually spend hours hugging each other in the evenings.

Most married couples I know have pretty separate lives. A text is not going to interrupt anything. It’s still wrong but not for that reason.

‘cuddle time’ ‘special time’ is all a bit much for me anyway

Plus there could be another three weeks of waiting time.

He's doing it because he knew it would make you happy. As you would do for someone you love. I would do it as well.

Just take that.