DP not enjoying our “Special time” before the baby arrives.

So it's not the social highlight of his life, does it matter? I mean he's done the right thing, had a private moan, slapped a smile on his face and got on with it.

I'm just surprised how many people would hate a chilled weeks break with their partner without being able to go and see friends for relief.

She said they came up at 39 weeks, and the majority of first babies are born not on time, certainly not two weeks late! Mine was 12 days late and they were supposed to induce at 10, and I’ve not met anyone who’s been as late except friends parents ie women who had babies 40 years ago. Realistically it might be as much as two weeks. Do I think it’s a weird, even dumb plan, to go so far from your healthcare? Absolutely. Do I think he’s a hero for coping with living somewhere a bit isolated while working remotely so his days are full like usual? Not one teeny tiny bit. Also, his wife has been pregnant for 9 months, this hero can suck up two weeks. What fun things does he think he will be doing every evening while there’s a tiny baby to look after and an exhausted wife at home? Hopefully just about nothing because there’s a family to look after, or he’s another shitty dad and partner.

She said they came up at 39 weeks, and the majority of first babies are born not on time, certainly not two weeks late! Mine was 12 days late and they were supposed to induce at 10, and I’ve not met anyone who’s been as late except friends parents ie women who had babies 40 years ago. Realistically it might be as much as two weeks. Do I think it’s a weird, even dumb plan, to go so far from your healthcare? Absolutely. Do I think he’s a hero for coping with living somewhere a bit isolated while working remotely so his days are full like usual? Not one teeny tiny bit. Also, his wife has been pregnant for 9 months, this hero can suck up two weeks. What fun things does he think he will be doing every evening while there’s a tiny baby to look after and an exhausted wife at home? Hopefully just about nothing because there’s a family to look after, or he’s another shitty dad and partner.

It’s not likely to be a week though… they’ve headed off to the parents house a couple of weeks before the due date, and the majority of first babies are born past their due date. It could be 3-4 weeks in total.
I’d be quite happy to spend a few weeks in the country with my DH, but some people are extroverts and need more social interaction than that. It sounds like the OP’s partner may be one of those people.

So it's not the social highlight of his life, does it matter? I mean he's done the right thing, had a private moan, slapped a smile on his face and got on with it.

I'm just surprised how many people would hate a chilled weeks break with their partner without being able to go and see friends for relief.

TBH, that does sound pretty boring. I know that’s not what you want to hear.

I am not completely married to a home birth. If at any point a medical professional recommends I have the baby in the hospital then that’s what I will do.
This house is like our own little bubble where can focus on each other without feeling like we need to be available for other people socially for a few weeks while we soak up time as a couple. We aren’t in the middle of nowhere and if we wanted to go to the cinema or out for dinner then we can drive there.

I can't see how moving in with your inlaws is alone time for you and your DH. He should have said no to the idea in the first place. So he is now stuck there till after the birth. You need to rethink this.

It's quite a stretch and really a bit twisted. OP said that "I saw messages between him and a female family member (and her DH – they both work for his business)." The exchange sounds like it happened in a work chat they have set up and the niece was replying to a message about being bored. The niece's husband, for all we know, could also be on the same chat.

OP wants her DH to feel exactly like her imaginary version of what the last 2-3 week of pregnancy should look like. But to be honest, OP could give birth tomorrow or in 3 weeks. Waiting for it to happen in a house it's not yours, without your stuff and your comforts, WFH in someone's desk or table, and being expected to just potter around otherwise until an unknown date... sounds boring. I would use that nesting focus to prepare my own house, especially if he can WFH and perhaps do some shopping, tidy around, etc.

Honestly, because I don’t tend to hang around with housewifey, unambitious people of either sex. The longterm SAHPs I know are so because of children with significant additional needs, their own or a child’s illness, or being unable to work in a particular place.

Honestly, because I don’t tend to hang around with housewifey, unambitious people of either sex. The longterm SAHPs I know are so because of children with significant additional needs, their own or a child’s illness, or being unable to work in a particular place.

Yes it's not necessarily something that will fit everyone...my female friends all work but will say they'd quite like to be housewives in an ideal world. They'd be quite happy at home....for most men, if they were sahps or house husbands, they'd not thrive in that lifestyle. Again we're all different...I'm making huge generalisations.

But for the op, if she's in the late stages of pregnancy, it's very normal that she'll be nesting. Home will be comforting and safe. It's pretty standard to me that a pregnant woman will enjoy just being in the home. Expectant fathers will not have these hormones and emotions.