Never having sex again

Late 30s, about 10 years ago. I went along with it for a couple of years after having my last child but my heart wasn't in it. Partner had an affair and left which was a relief. We co-parent very well, there's no animosity. I'm now very happily celibate and have no attraction to men at all or any sex drive. I'm not menopausal yet so can't blame that.

Its definitely nothing to do with not finding the right partner. I've had plenty of different experiences in my life but the thought of any sort of intimacy repulses me these days. As does sharing my home with a man. I can't describe how horrendous the thought of being in a relationship is to me. I honestly think that my hormones did the trick by giving me 2 healthy kids and then switched off.

Not yet.

I'm 70 and still want sex. It doesn't happen much because we're both tired by bedtime and just want to go to sleep (really need to reschedule it for day time.)

I think you are describing yourself as someone asexual @user043857398 which is perfectly fine.

I'm 56 and don't feel this yet. I miss sex a lot.

shame DH has ED so we rarely have sex

I'm 51, have been a single mum since 2016. Not dated. I would like someone, but they would have to be very, very special

Not yet.

When I separated 3 years ago from nasty ex, he had long since killed any desire (with him anyway). But about a year after he left I was pleased for “stirrings” to return.

I’m mid fifties.

Are we talking just sex or relationships?

I'm 46 and don't want a relationship again..I'm happy alone and am not built for coupledom. I love my own space and cant imagine sharing it.

I'm not sure about sex though. Not bothered currently due to my health but it's possible I'd be up for no strings intimacy if the opportunity arose later on. I haven't written it off or made any definite decisions.

Or because other people insists that you can't possibly actually be happy and must be miserable deep down. I'm 48 and still get the "you just haven't found the right person" nonsense.

I’m 34. I have my Daughter, single Mum and I just have zero interest in all of it now, to be honest, I was never swinging from the chandeliers anyways.

Flirting, kissing, nookie, having some irritant in my space 24/7… not for me.

But that’s my choice, my decision so there we have it :)

I wish everyone fantastic sexy times and cuddles if that’s what they’re after ❤️

74 and still enjoying it 🙂🙂

Same. I originally thought I was a late bloomer, but it never kicked in. I learned about asexuality in my mid 20s and it was a revelation.

No, usually it's because they're doing something outside the norm and nobody believes they're actually happy living that way.

In my early fifties, divorced after terrible marriage that truly broke my heart. I definitely want sex, but I never want to marry or live with anyone again. I'd like a dating relationship, but I don't want anything too serious. I'd rather fill my life with community instead of the bedrock of my world being a relationship. Once you've experienced the underbelly of a committed relationship, it's really hard to feel the same way about commitment again.

47 . When my husband and I separated.

It's just not worth it.

everyone has different things in life that make them happy. society tells everyone they MUST have sex but it's just not the case for every single person out there.

For a few years now.

I am 52 and with the combination of dreadful perimenopause symptoms and daily stress from caring for a parent with advanced dementia which has exacerbated some chronic health issues I feel right now that I would be happy never to have sex again. Not done it for over a year and do not miss it at all although I do feel for my dh as I know he would quite like it from time to time.

I am hoping it may reverse itself once the stress from caring for my parents ends and I find a better way to manage my peri/menopause and health issues but tbh, if it doesn't it won't be something I will grieve over and I have already told dh that if he were to leave me I have no plans on ever living with or even dating another man.

I would say I got to this stage by about 45. I pushed through it for 2 or 3 more years because I was in a relationship but eventually I had to come clean with myself about it.

I still have a libido and have, in my time, had mind blowing sex. But it's exactly that. The mind blowing aspect of sex that I don't want. I don't want to be so driven by sex that I am not focused totally on real life. I don't want to be like the blokes we all laugh at, so driven by their cocks that they're idiots. And there were times I was a bit like that. It was horrible.

Love and sex can be a bit of an obsession. It's called falling in love, or being madly in love for a reason. Falls are never good, neither is madness.

I LOVE the clarity of life without it. My head is clear.

What age were you when you realised you never wanted to be touched by a man again

I’m 93 and I’ll let you know when it happens.

I’ve never liked sex and think I might be asexual, I’ve never had an orgasm or a pleasurable sexual experience. I forced myself to sleep with men in my late teens and twenties thinking if I did it enough I would come to like it, but after I was raped 10 years ago I couldn’t bear the thought of being intimate with a man and eventually realised I wouldn’t sleep with a man ever again. I’m 40 and have been around 10 years celibate now. I am single and childless and do feel sad sometimes I am missing the love and human connection most people get to experience having a family but I know from past experience I would be unhappy in a relationship where I had to fake orgasms and pretend to enjoy sex to keep the man happy. I’m happier alone than living that kind of life.

I went off it late 40s but finding out my H had an emotional affair 10 years previous and made an idiot of me, plus he had a chronic secretive daily porn habit in early 50s killed it off totally - so he created a viscious circle, too much porn because I don’t want sex, and I don’t want sex at all as I find constant porn watching totally gave me the ick - still married but housemates it is.

I love sex but that's part due to my partner being incredibly kind, respectful, generous and always putting me first.

Around 47. Not interested in being with a man. Might consider a FWB if he was SNY Goid. But that’s it. I’ve given up on men, they are a huge disappointment and a huge waste of time

I'm 43 and I think I'm done with relationships now. I've always had a very high sex drive but I'm not interested at the moment.