Never having sex again

I feel exactly the same OP. Made a vow to myself to be done with relationships and sex at age 41.
I understand not every woman feels like this or will get to this point. I think the important part in your OP is that you have always been happier single. I’m the same, I’ve always felt stifled in relationships, even good happy ones.

Except that’s not what that poster said, is it? 🙄

I'm on preventative antibiotics, if you ever decide you want to get back in the saddle but have this issue. I have to take a Cefalexin after every encounter to prevent the inevitable UTI. Works well.

Probably after I had my daughter as a solo mum. I always wanted a family and once I had one (albeit not in the way I imagined) I felt no need to pursue a man. Now I've hit middle age/menopause I can't imagine it at all.

What an odd take. Women should have sex they don't want because their friends might die young?!

I think I used up all my sex drive in my teens and 20s. I lived a very sex positive/'colourful' lifestyle. I loved the hunt, the chase, the novelty of different men....it was very, very fun.
But I knew I wanted children in a committed relationship. So I did that in my early 30s and it killed my sex drive. But it's not like I yearn to return to the life that I had, I couldn't think of anything worse. So yes 49 years old and could quite happily give sex up forever, but that wouldn't be fair on DP. Probably need to look into HRT.

I’ve never felt like that (and don’t want to). After divorce after a long marriage, I missed intimacy/sex/touch etc terribly (just not with my ex, lol). Was single for a year, now have a BF. I hope we’re still intimate and having sex into our dotage! I can totally see why women don’t want a man living with them though. My BF still has his own place and although he’s at mine a lot, I do enjoy him not being here too. Silence and peace with my pets is a wonderful thing too.

I also think I actively, subconsciously maybe at times, try and make myself less attractive so that im not having to deal with men at all. I dress scruffy, I dont bother with make up or skincare or style my hair, I'm overweight. I always tell myself its because I don't care about what people think of what I look like (which is true) but also maybe I'm making sure that I don't have to deal with being approached by men.

I was in my early / mid twenties. I've been having amazing sex with women since then (more recently the same woman, my wife) and it's bloody fantastic.

40-ish, when my marriage ended. I have absolutely no wish to ever be with another man - that's no reflection at on my husband who is a good man, I just feel like the shutters come down at the thought of any other man now. I'm done on that score.

I'm not writing off any future relationships, but with women only, so it's slightly different - however the chances of that actually happening are very slim.

I’m 35 and haven’t had sex in about 6 years or had any type of relationship and don’t plan on having any sort of relationship sexual or romantic again

I feel the same, mid-50s and not dated at all since ending my unhappy relationship with my kids' dad nearly 10 years ago. I can imagine wanting to be with and even have sex with a wonderful man who was perfect for me... but what are the chances of finding a genuinely nice man, who's not porn-addled, sexist, selfish etc and who I fancy and who fancies me, AND we're sexually compatible... I don't have time to search for this unicorn. If he exists he can come and find me but if it never happens I've made my peace with it.

My sex life ended the minute my ovaries stopped working at 45. I've not had any since. Im very happy.
Sex isn't everything knife. I manage a happy and fulfilled life without it.

Excellent, I am 69 and looking forward to the next 25 years😁

Seeing a man's interest in you as an insult is a bit weird tbh. Why would you experience it as an insult?

Being totally selfish (which is what it is) is fine but in old age your friends will die (several of mine have, in their 50s and 60s).

I agree that it's nice to do what you want to but in all relationships there are compromises and you take the good with the bad.

You also don't always need to do the same thing. I have friends who go on holidays without their partner and live their own life.

Yeah, I don't want those things either. I'd like only a casual relationship, so they wouldn't be asking me where I am etc.

I’m 53 and still very much want to have sex with men. BUT I want it with cuddling, affection AND being in a relationship. Unfortunately the men I meet only seem to want to have sex and are not the relationship type. I’m still holding out hope and thinking of joining a paid dating site

Not yet for me and I'm mid 40s.

I think your circumstances and relationship history plays a huge part in this. My circumstances right now don't really allow for an all-in relationship. It's also not really something I'm interested in, clearly, otherwise I'd be deprioritising other things and getting myself into one. I have had some great FWB relationships, though, so I've never felt like giving up completely on sex, even if I don't want a full relationship.

I expect when my circumstances change again, my feelings on both sex and relationships will likely change.

100% agree with this.

If anything, my libido has gone up
since menopause. I’m 56 now. I value sexual intimacy and have no wish for it to end.

But i completely see that it’s not for everyone and it sounds like it’s a big relief for you to have made this realisation.

I don't even want a nice relationship. I don't want someone asking where I am or what I'm doing. I don't want to consider anyone but my children for holidays or home decor. I love being autonomous and never felt autonomous in a relationship, even a good one, becuase there is still obligation to someone else in every single decision.

What you describe here is that you are unwilling to compromise with your own wants.

Have you never had a happy relationship with anyone?

That's fine.

But don't ignore the fact that when you are older you might want someone to bring you a cup of tea when you're ill, be a companion and a good friend.

You can't rely on your children- they might relocate to the other side of the world.

Surely your children were worth being with someone at one time?

Currently going through divorce…I CBA with a new partner but hope to have sex again!