Never having sex again

It’s incredibly obvious what you meant. Well to me anyway as I’m the same.. I haven’t had sex since I was about 42 too (now 48) and have no desire whatsoever !
And definitely no interest in ‘just sex’ with ‘no strings’…. I’ve never been one for no strings attached sex though, can’t think of anything worse actually.

Nope, no interest in them either.

Always climaxed easily and repeatedly.

Still no interest.

I’m married with a very average, lacklustre sex life. It’s a bone of contention.

I don’t think I’d ever be bothered about seeking a romantic connection or life partner again if this relationship ended. It’s too much like hard work. But I’d definitely sleep with men, in a way I never did in my 20s when I could, with wild abandon. I can’t see myself ever not wanting sex. But relationships are over-rated.

Whereas orgasms are a bit meh to me.
But touch. Now thats Something I’m missing. Not ‘sex touch’ as such, just touching, hugs etc… just platonic ones.

Which shows how different we all are really.

"I also find the prevailing revulsion at all things sexual on MN to be quite peculiar."

It's a section of MN, it doesn't prevail.
There's just as much prude-shaming...

Yes, for me it would be worse than a complete stranger because I have genuinely platonic friends. If you're platonic, you can't be non-platonic, but I accept that people are different.

Exactly that. Which was my point further upthread when a few posters said they couldn't really care, they'd never ever had an orgasm anyway. I could probably live without sex with another person, but I'd still want an orgasm! Quite happy to give it to myself but that I would find very hard to go without.

Also one can have a sex life with oneself … masturbation, toys etc, no one actually needs a man (or woman) to have a decent sex life.

@BunnyLake Surely who you’re having it with matters and changes the composition of it, at least a bit or we’d all be just having sex with the first man we passed in the street.

We weren't talking about whether the "who" you're having sex with changes things. Obviously it does.

We were talking about whether or not being in a relationship matters.

I imagine sex with someone I liked would be enjoyable outside of a relationship as well as in a relationship with that person. The positive side of a relationship though is that the women would probably have sex again.

“Disgusted”?

I’m well into pension age and I still enjoy sex with my lovely partner.👍 It probably depends on the relationship.

To be fair I'd be miserable with a partner who was disgusted by me too!

I know more than a few. More than a few who state openly they only have sex because they know no man would stay with them without it.

Surely who you’re having it with matters and changes the composition of it, at least a bit or we’d all be just having sex with the first man we passed in the street. Sex is sex is most definitely not the case (unless you’re a Bonnie Blue) and not comparable to eating a chocolate bar.

I have close friends too. Several have told me they have no interest.

I think its also it’s easy to underestimate the number of women who have stayed with husbands and partners post finding out something about them that was a big turn off ‘for them’ - be it gambling, cheating, frequent porn use, semi alcoholics , domestically inept , mean or even the opposite profligate spenders etc - and it’s not always the most obvious men or something that was apparent early in the relationship - thing is people stay for all kinds of reasons , upsetting elderly parents, financial, upsetting kids still at home, lack of anywhere to go or income/assets to make that possible. You might stay for what seem logical reasons, but your body just kinds of ‘switches off’ - I’ve been in this position, as have quite a few women I know from 40s upwards- it’s easy to say life’s too short or just move on - it really isn’t that simple for many, especially in a country that simply doesn’t have a load of good social housing and expensive private rented housing in many parts of the country that simply isn’t affordable -

I have good close friends who would tell me for sure. Some have gone off sex with their partners but that's different.

lts easier to say on an anonymous board.

But you do need to at least find them physically attractive/appealing (well I do).

Red flags can make the most attractive looking man ugly in my eyes now, I just wish I’d had the same mindset when younger. I don’t hate sex per se (used to like it a lot) but I can’t see a time now where I would ever want to get that close to a man again. Putting my trust in men hasn’t been my wisest move, I would have been better off financially and mentally if I had let my head rule my heart. Which it does now, and my head says no thank you.

I too am amazed how many women on MN say they hate sex and don't know anyone who says this irl

Obviously it's possible to have amazing sex with someone you don't love (or even like).

I’m fucking disappointed

Yes ❤️ live south of U.K. ..

I think there's a difference between low sex drive and asexual.
You can have a low sex drive and still want to be in a romantic relationship and enjoy sex (with a man) whenever it does happen. It's just that you can live without it for longer and maybe initiate less than others would.

I've been through periods like that after having my son/breastfeeding and taking hormonal contraception which lowered my libido. It can be more complicated for women and not because you don't want a man or a relationship.