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Update on Unpleasant Altercation

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zerofeeling · 20/09/2025 21:33

Original thread from July https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5366159-unpleasant-altercation-who-was-the-most-unreasonable

TL:DR - I was harassed by a off duty police officer after a minor traffic incident in an isolated area. He abused his position to look up my address details and generate an official form which he hand delivered to our house. He followed this up a couple of weeks later by making an unauthorised visit to our house. I made an official complaint via 101.

A couple of the supportive posters asked if I could update at some point so I wanted to do that, I also wanted people to know that the Police genuinely are trying to deal with their 'bad apples'.

Professional Standards have now told me that the officer involved in the incident is being taken to a Misconduct Tribunal (probably won't happen til early next year) meanwhile he's been removed from all public-facing duties. The other off duty officer who was with him has been given a disciplinary on his record.

Thanks to everyone who gave advice and supportive posts. 😊

OP posts:
kinkiskarma · 21/09/2025 00:32

gosh OP didn’t read your original thread, but that’s pretty scary stuff. Well done you!

SquirrelosaurusSoShiny · 21/09/2025 00:30

What an absolute creep! Well done OP for following through with the complaint.

LadyWiddiothethird · 21/09/2025 00:18

Well done.I remember the thread.

BarBiWon · 21/09/2025 00:02

Your previous thread should come with a trigger warning for anyone with high blood pressure - so many batshit posters claiming you were the problem!

Brody77 · 20/09/2025 23:43

So glad, well done op, I read your original thread xx

TheProfoundlyPeculiarPointOfPete · 20/09/2025 23:29

I remember the pillocks on the last thread. Thanks for the update - I am actually quite surprised it's being taken seriously!

TY78910 · 20/09/2025 23:21

I just read your original thread and also couldn’t believe the posters who were adamant you’ve broken THE LAW!!

Your update makes so much sense - he’s broken all sorts of privacy laws. Good on you OP! Hope there will be further updates in your favour!

QueenOfHiraeth · 20/09/2025 22:52

I remember seeing your original post. i am pleased to hear you are getting a positive response

AlphaApple · 20/09/2025 22:48

Amazing, well done OP. I remember your original thread and couldn’t believe some posters thought you being unreasonable!

Original poster
zerofeeling · 20/09/2025 22:38

wintericestorm · 20/09/2025 22:17

I didn’t see your post originally, but have just read it. So many horrible posters that obviously weren’t reading your updates properly, it was making me angry just reading their nasty responses. Glad to hear these officers are being dealt with.

Thank you 😊 I did get a lot of stick from some people who seemed to think I was just trying to justify my own bad behaviour and had no empathy for a woman in a potentially dangerous situation.

OP posts:
wintericestorm · 20/09/2025 22:17

I didn’t see your post originally, but have just read it. So many horrible posters that obviously weren’t reading your updates properly, it was making me angry just reading their nasty responses. Glad to hear these officers are being dealt with.