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Best friend has accused me of being stingy.

233 replies

YourWorthyBee · 20/09/2025 19:23

My best friend left a relationship a year or so ago and got himself a new girlfriend a few months back. I am genuinely pleased for him as in his previous relationship he was cheated upon regularly but his new flame is really nice.
His new girlfriend has a son and it was recently his 21st. I was invited to the party. Having never met the boy before, I turned up with a bottle of prosecco and a card with £50 in it. My best friend told me that he was really disappointed in me and that I should have given more. I'm not exactly Jeff Bezos in terms of money and as I hadn't met the boy I thought I was doing good. AIBU?

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whataweekImhaving · 20/09/2025 19:29

50 quid (plus prosecco) is very generous.

TheGoodEnoughWife · 20/09/2025 19:28

That is completely bizarre!! £50 was very generous for a 21 yr old you don’t actually know! This would put me right off friend.

user1471538275 · 20/09/2025 19:27

I would have got a card at best.

He is being incredibly rude and entitled.

Namerequired · 20/09/2025 19:26

A bottle and £50 seems very generous for someone who you don’t know, and I know any of my boys would have been delighted by it. I think it was good of you to go to the party at all tbh.
What did your friend buy him with it being a new relationship?

Canopop · 20/09/2025 19:26

That’s more than I would have given I’m really confused are you sure you’re all not crazy rich?! It’s not your obligation to give an amazing gift to your best mates new girlfriend’s son? Lol

escape · 20/09/2025 19:26

Do you move in circles where 50 quid is the equivalent of 50p?
If not, that's an utterly unreasonable reaction to a bloody generous gift for someone you have never met or are related to. You are the guys 'mums boyfriends mate' for heavens sake!

ItsOnlyHobnobs · 20/09/2025 19:25

How strange.

Is there any cultural expectation?

thistimelastweek · 20/09/2025 19:25

You were very generous

What the fuck was he expecting?