It’s my bday in a couple of days. DM came today to bring me a present. My DH notoriously never makes much effort for my bday and it’s been the source of tension previously. My DM knows this well and often makes comments around my birthday like ‘did x spoil you rotten’ knowing full well that’s not happened. I have two primary aged children and today DM went to them in full ear shot of me ‘have you gone and got mummy loads of presents’ they replied no we’re waiting for daddy. Again she knows that they are too young to get anything on their own and knows that my DH has highly unlikely not sorted anything. It just upsets them as they want to make an effort plus I’m there anyway so it’s like she’s making a point! I know the real problem here is my DH but my DM knows this and it feels like she’s digging the knife in at my expense. If she was that concerned at the lack of effort she could take the kids to get a card.