Do you have a 'rock'

My youngest son is my rock.

I don’t even have stones never mind a whole rock.

No I dont have a rock. In my eyes I'd view someone as a rock that loves you no matter what doesn't have romantic ties to you where things can get complicated but can see you objectively and wants the best for you always throughout all stages of life. I gmubderstabd this will be different for everyone.

I have a partial rock in that I do have my husband and whilst I absolutely don't think He'd be a nob/leave/cheat etc I am reminded so often that husbands absolutely can do that and it can seemingly come from nowhere. Therefore I don't want to view him as my entire world and rock. Maybe that's also a hang over from having a rubbish toxic family. I've always known it was me against the world. Its exhausting.

Whenever I see some people in life thriving I remind myself that often those people have a whole scaffolding of people behind them.

When i look at how I parent my children and how invested I am in them as people. I realise I never had that growing up but it's only now as a parent I truly see what I was missing. I knew no different growing up. I thought I was broken as a teenager. I couldn't understand why my friends didn't seem to struggle or be exhausted by life like I was. I couldn't relate to them being carefree going clubbing first boyfriends etc and me trying to figure out food shopping running a home then selling a home because both My parents had just left. I can't even compute the mentality they must of had now i am a parent.

So it absolutely sucks op but you're not alone. Sending you a hug in solidarity.

What I've learnt is that rocks can crumble.

Best to be your own rock OP.

We struggle not to let ourselves down, so why expect it from someone else who's just human and going through their own struggles.

I have supports, not rocks.

I did but don't any more. DH was my rock and now he's no longer here I am trying to be my own rock.

Yes. My parents were, one of my brothers. For the last 2 decades, it has been dh. I am his too.

Money is a great rock though....you can buy your way out of most problems.

I hate to be negative but not having social support is one of the biggest contributing factors factors to early death. It's worse than smoking apparently. Humans aren't meant to be alone and I think stress hormones go out of control when we are deprived of oxytocin etc from social connections, and we're constantly on edge wondering how we'll cope if there's an emergency. I have a really sickly constitution currently and don't have many responsibilities but the thought of my DS's and dog needing anything of me makes me so stressed, which makes me more ill .... so it's a subject I'm a bit obsessed with. It's every women for herself on Mumsnet.

I have a little bit of support from friends and financial help from my parents when they were alive. I'm soon going to try really hard to create a support group - perhaps by going to church (and yes, I will also be giving support, not just expecting it - I've been on here too long and know what people are going to say).

If by rock you mean someone I can rely on utterly in the most dire of circumstances then I do have that in my DH, my immediate family, a select few of my wider family and a friend or two. I suppose it was good to be prompted to take a moment to really appreciate that. I hope you do find someone you can rely on in your life.

Yes. Chatgpt is my rock.

You aren't alone OP. I've never had anyone to call upon either and I've certainly never inherited a scrap of money (or ever likely to). I've always looked in wonderment at people who can just phone up their brother/uncle/mum/dad when their car dies, the roof is leaking or to ask for a lift to hospital. It must be really lovely to have a helping hand - just sometimes.

For most of my life my grandad has been my rock. He’s always helped and been there for me, we were/are very close. He is the most wonderful and kind man.

Nowadays, my DH is my rock, he reminds me of my grandad, and I cant quite believe i’ve met a man like him.

Im my rock. I have family not found them to be there when I need them.

My DH I would say is my rock. He can't put up shelves and doesn't earn any money but he is always there for me in my hour of need.

I on the other hand am the rock to a lot of people - my DH especially, but also my sister, mother, father, and the Ukrainian family we sponsored (even though they have moved out I still help them when they need something). None of these people other than my DH are really capable of doing much to help me if I need it.

Yes my late mum was. Now my dh and my eldest son. I’ve been very lucky

Nope. No siblings, weird relationship with my mum. I have loads of friends, but none I would lean on in crisis. I just wouldn’t think to do so. I was sent to boarding school age 7; from that point on I knew it was me myself and I.

Unfortunately, you can very seldom rely entirely on man. Although, as a Christian, I have an entirely dependable God, whom I trust and take refuge in. The LORD is my rock, my fortress, and my saviour; my God is my rock, in whom I find protection. He is my shield, the power that saves me, and my place of safety

I don’t, the only person I trust is my DS and I think that his dad will eventually turn him against me.
I have had years of abuse through my childhood and early adulthood, which has resulted in BPD. One of my side effect is being paranoid.
I would love to have a best friend though.

I do, but my relationship with one of my rocks, my Mum, is shifting as she aged. She's now in her mid 80s and, understandably, it's a different dynamic from when I was younger, and our DC were small

I have two excluding ds1 and 2. Those two are often my first port of call if I need anything especially if dh is away with work.

First is dh. He is my absolute cheerleader, backs me up with everything I decide to do picks the slack up if im not feeling great or tired and will make me laugh every day.
Even when he is in a bad mood with me he will still bring me a hot chocolate to bed.
My best friend is also a rock. She has has 3am phone calls and will jump up and do what needs to be done. She is supportive and in many ways my biggest fan.

It has to be said though, its not all take. I would do what ever needs doing to support the lovely people in my life who have always got my back and give me confidence to try something new whether its a new job a new activity or just new ways of seeing things

No. I am my rock.
I expect nothing from anyone else. It's a good place to be.

My husband. Always there, without fail, supportive, and would/does drop everything if I need him, without complaining or making me feel like I’m being a pain. He knows me and what I need before I know myself (which sometimes annoys me). He’s also our adult kids’ rock too and I adore that they have him.

Not really thought about it in that language but no, have not had a rock; not ever been anyone’s rock either. I think I’m a bit addicted to that feeling now, can’t envision myself depending on someone at this stage.