Do you have a 'rock'

Comfort is an aspect, but humans are naturally meant to be in a relationship with their Creator. This is why many people feel a sense of emptiness, something off, or even lonely, even when surrounded by others. We have a God-shaped void that needs to be filled. I understand that it can be challenging; I've only been a believer for the past three years, and it has genuinely been a transformative experience—though I know that might sound cliché! I once saw a video that humorously pointed out that the difference between science and religion is that science only asks you to believe in one miracle. Anyway, I hope you find the truth for yourself.

Not really. Certainly not now I'm middle aged and well and truly left to figure it out myself. My mums attitude is not to worry about things, it's quite dismissive IMO.
Although, MN is a pretty good rock come to think of it.

Amen 🙏

No, but I recognise that this is partly because, having parents I couldn’t rely on and whom I had to parent myself from a young age, I simply didn’t grow up to be someone who found it easy to ask for help.

No, but I recognise that this is partly because, having parents I couldn’t rely on and whom I had to parent myself from a young age, I simply didn’t grow up to be someone who found it easy to ask for help.

Agree 🙌.

I have a few really close friends that I absolutely can rely on for anything. However they can absolutely rely on me too.

Interestingly they're all male with 1 exception, (the 2nd female sadly d. last year, however I am assured I can absolutely rely on one of her brothers in the same way too - not put that one to the test)

Not really. I have lots of pleasant people in my life, but they all have their own problems and it would be fair to expect them to take mine on as well.

Definitely not and a seemingly shallow response.
I have painful circumstances in my life that all the money in the world won't take away

I would love to be able to believe in a God. Must be comforting.

I would say dh is my rock since I trust him. But he's not my "soulmate" and we don't really have anything in common except the kids. As far as friends go I have got 2 reliable friends but I'm too proud/scared(?) to lean on them if things get really bad.

My two sons I wouldn't call my rocks. I am trying to be their and I would wish for them to never need to be my rock. It's not the place of a child imo.

My family is def not my rock apart from one brother who is empathetic as myself.

I have supports not rocks. Which I think is different.
As @MightyGoldBear says about how a supposedly good husband rock can change from nowhere, same applies to friends and family.

Like I said, it's from experience of watching people who are meant to be rocks crumble and disappear in front of you when you need to lean on them.

People going NC, walking out of families etc.
That's where I'm coming from.

Hey op. It's a nope from me. I also think that many people think they have a rock, until there's a conflict where that rock might have to give up some comfort to facilitate you. Then one might find it's more marshmello than rock.

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Not in agreement with your child (irrespective of age) being your rock.
What an enormous responsibility for him

I am my own rock and everyone else’s rock, now getting older it would be lovely to have someone else to rely on sometimes.

DH is the person I'd rely on when I most needed help, but tbh I prefer to rely on myself and keep things private, so I don't turn to him often, but I feel secure knowing that he is there. Sometimes I read threads here from people who have been through the same things that I have, and I have managed to deal with it on my own while they've seemed to need lots of support, and I prefer being resilient and self-reliant.

I've never had friends or family members who I'd ever rely on for emotional support, I just don't have that kind of relationship, and tbh I feel it's often unhelpful as their comments are tainted by their prejudices.

God is mine

I have learnt to be totally self sufficient and would never rely or depend on anyone. Result circumstances that I need not explain.

I do and it’s my dh. But I do understand what you’re feeling as I have non existant relationships with parents/siblings/other family. I have some good friends but none I would consider a rock.

You sound quite similar to me then. I think it's the way I was brought up, I'm happy with it

That's the best thing OP.

I wouldn't want to put the pressure of being a rock on someone.

We're all up and down in life, and having to feel you need to be up all the time for someone else is too much.

My therapist is probably mine. He isn't going anywhere, no matter what I say to him.

To a lesser extent, my horse that I loan. He bites people that are rude to me. I guess he reads my body language. If someone upsets me, they're getting bitten that day. I love him so much.

DH, DB,

No, I don't have a rock. I wouldn't want one, I think because I feel they might let me down and then I'd wish I hadn't relied on them; or because I'd feel like a burden.

I worry about people who say their rock person is their world, they'd be lost without them etc. I think we should be independent and responsible for our own happiness. I really admire people I can see living independently, both in relationships and not.

I have people who are here for me though and do nice things for me, and I for them. Do you, and if not do you want to? Is that something you want to work on?