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Rejected from Scottish nursery - please help!

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PartyRingaRosie · 20/09/2025 11:47

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My DD has just been rejected from our local nursery (literally a 2 minute walk from home) due to capacity. I called to ask about alternatives and was told the 2 other nurseries in our village are also full. The only option the could offer was a nursery 10 miles away.

I’m really upset and worried about this. It’s not at all practical for us to be driving 10 miles each way before work every morning, and I’m also anxious that if she can’t get into a local nursery now, she may struggle to get into the local primary when the time comes.

Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do? Is there anything I can do to challenge this and push for a place locally?

OP posts:
PartyRingaRosie · 20/09/2025 21:30

To clarify, there are no other local nurseries available. The village has two council nurseries and one private nursery, and all three are full. The next nearest council nursery is 10 miles away, and the nearest private nursery is 10+ miles away.

OP posts:
Barnbrack · 20/09/2025 21:27

PartyRingaRosie · 20/09/2025 20:57

In Scotland, the government pledges 1140 hours of funded ELC for all 3–4 year olds to support child development and parents’ ability to sustain work. Children are automatically zoned into their local catchment for school, and I assumed (reasonably I think, albeit incorrectly) that this applied to nursery too. I got myself upset thinking because DD had been rejected from a local nursery spot that it might also mean missing out on a local school spot, but I now understand that isn’t the case. Still, being offered a place 10 miles away, in the opposite direction of work, hardly supports working parents, one of the main aims of ELC.

Some have suggested I should have put her on a waiting list from birth. That might make sense if she had been in private nursery for childcare anyway, but she hasn’t. My husband and I have managed childcare between us up to now. The reason she is going at this stage is because she is entitled to ELC funding, and I believe she’s at an age where it will be developmentally beneficial, as the scheme intends, rather than just a form of childcare. There was nothing more I could have done to secure a nursery place other than apply during the opening window, which I did.

It feels unfair to call parents “entitled” for expecting local ELC. The government has pledged these hours, and local authorities are responsible for ensuring spaces exist. While nursery isn’t compulsory like school, the entitlement still stands. So how can housing developments keep being approved and ever increasing numbers of children deferring primary school, without new nurseries to meet demand? It seems unreasonable to claim LAs couldn’t foresee increased numbers when the village has been so heavily expanded.

It’s also disheartening to read comments suggesting “I struggled, so you should too.” The whole point of these pledges is to support families and make work more sustainable. Parents shouldn’t have to run themselves into the ground just to access something their children are entitled to.

Have you contacted any of the local private nurseries?

Liondoesntsleepatnight · 20/09/2025 21:26

10 miles?

Barnbrack · 20/09/2025 21:25

PartyRingaRosie · 20/09/2025 11:55

Perhaps I should have stated in my original post that this is a local authority nursery. It’s a case of applying when the window opens each year.

Surely the council have an obligation to ensure there are adequate early years education facilities to accommodate local residents? If the LA cannot accommodate these children in nursery, how are they going to accommodate them in primary school?

You will have local private nurseries that act as 'partmership nurseries' which means she can use her free hours there. My school nursery only offers mornings but I work 4 days a week so 3 days she goes to a private nursery and she has 2 mornings in school nursery.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 20/09/2025 21:10

PartyRingaRosie · 20/09/2025 20:57

In Scotland, the government pledges 1140 hours of funded ELC for all 3–4 year olds to support child development and parents’ ability to sustain work. Children are automatically zoned into their local catchment for school, and I assumed (reasonably I think, albeit incorrectly) that this applied to nursery too. I got myself upset thinking because DD had been rejected from a local nursery spot that it might also mean missing out on a local school spot, but I now understand that isn’t the case. Still, being offered a place 10 miles away, in the opposite direction of work, hardly supports working parents, one of the main aims of ELC.

Some have suggested I should have put her on a waiting list from birth. That might make sense if she had been in private nursery for childcare anyway, but she hasn’t. My husband and I have managed childcare between us up to now. The reason she is going at this stage is because she is entitled to ELC funding, and I believe she’s at an age where it will be developmentally beneficial, as the scheme intends, rather than just a form of childcare. There was nothing more I could have done to secure a nursery place other than apply during the opening window, which I did.

It feels unfair to call parents “entitled” for expecting local ELC. The government has pledged these hours, and local authorities are responsible for ensuring spaces exist. While nursery isn’t compulsory like school, the entitlement still stands. So how can housing developments keep being approved and ever increasing numbers of children deferring primary school, without new nurseries to meet demand? It seems unreasonable to claim LAs couldn’t foresee increased numbers when the village has been so heavily expanded.

It’s also disheartening to read comments suggesting “I struggled, so you should too.” The whole point of these pledges is to support families and make work more sustainable. Parents shouldn’t have to run themselves into the ground just to access something their children are entitled to.

And you'll get, just not where you wanted. Look near work?

rosiebl · 20/09/2025 21:08

OP, there's more bad news I'm afraid, the 30 hours you think are "free" are not in fact free at all, in my nurseries. Some stretch them, some charge a subsidy...

PartyRingaRosie · 20/09/2025 20:57

In Scotland, the government pledges 1140 hours of funded ELC for all 3–4 year olds to support child development and parents’ ability to sustain work. Children are automatically zoned into their local catchment for school, and I assumed (reasonably I think, albeit incorrectly) that this applied to nursery too. I got myself upset thinking because DD had been rejected from a local nursery spot that it might also mean missing out on a local school spot, but I now understand that isn’t the case. Still, being offered a place 10 miles away, in the opposite direction of work, hardly supports working parents, one of the main aims of ELC.

Some have suggested I should have put her on a waiting list from birth. That might make sense if she had been in private nursery for childcare anyway, but she hasn’t. My husband and I have managed childcare between us up to now. The reason she is going at this stage is because she is entitled to ELC funding, and I believe she’s at an age where it will be developmentally beneficial, as the scheme intends, rather than just a form of childcare. There was nothing more I could have done to secure a nursery place other than apply during the opening window, which I did.

It feels unfair to call parents “entitled” for expecting local ELC. The government has pledged these hours, and local authorities are responsible for ensuring spaces exist. While nursery isn’t compulsory like school, the entitlement still stands. So how can housing developments keep being approved and ever increasing numbers of children deferring primary school, without new nurseries to meet demand? It seems unreasonable to claim LAs couldn’t foresee increased numbers when the village has been so heavily expanded.

It’s also disheartening to read comments suggesting “I struggled, so you should too.” The whole point of these pledges is to support families and make work more sustainable. Parents shouldn’t have to run themselves into the ground just to access something their children are entitled to.

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Tastaturen · 20/09/2025 20:06

EvaShoe · 20/09/2025 19:57

100%

And also creating huge age gaps within the same year group, and making parents defer 'just in case'. With p1 and p2 being play based, I don't think we also need so many deferrals as a right. People are often deferring as they want their kid to have an advantage, not because the child 'isn't ready' for play based p1. I think there needs to be a clearcut cut off (e.g.5) and that's it, except in exceptional cases. Now we have kids not getting into nursery at the appropriate ages (like the OP)and some kids nearly 6 in early years, who will therefore be doing play based learning at nearly 8!

Edited

I agree - deferral used to be for children who needed it (developmental delays, missed lots of nursery due to illness, very young for year (Feb baby) etc), now I hear 'I wanted them to have a better chance', 'I wanted them to have a head start', 'I wanted them to be one of the oldest', alongside the more traditional reasons. It's not always the best option for many children.

RaraRachael · 20/09/2025 19:59

Have P1 and P2s all across Scotland become play based?

EvaShoe · 20/09/2025 19:57

Teathecolourofcreosote · 20/09/2025 17:04

@EvaShoe yes. They can now have a bonus year at pre school but there's no extra places.

And with 30 hours no incentive for parents to get them in school.

While some kids may benefit, these could always be considered so don't understand why it has to become universal.

I also don't think they've considered the knock on at the other end of almost 13 year olds still in primary. My 12 year old wasn't one of the most ready in p1 (in the middle in terms of birthday) but my god he's grown about a foot in the last six months and (despite being young for his age) has grown up such a lot, physically and emotionally.

I don't think primary schools are set up to be dealing with kids of this size and associated behaviours, especially in rural schools with composite classes across many year groups.

I dreaded secondary but it's been great for him and I can see he was in need of it, despite being one of those you wouldn't call advanced for his age in any respect.

100%

And also creating huge age gaps within the same year group, and making parents defer 'just in case'. With p1 and p2 being play based, I don't think we also need so many deferrals as a right. People are often deferring as they want their kid to have an advantage, not because the child 'isn't ready' for play based p1. I think there needs to be a clearcut cut off (e.g.5) and that's it, except in exceptional cases. Now we have kids not getting into nursery at the appropriate ages (like the OP)and some kids nearly 6 in early years, who will therefore be doing play based learning at nearly 8!

Londonrach1 · 20/09/2025 19:30

Yabu. They full...they can't magic up a space. In the UK you have to put your baby down at birth to get a space.

Appin · 20/09/2025 19:26

In the meantime, you could approach closer private nurseries who may have spaces, or use your 30 hours funding at a childminder, if you can get a funded place.

Appin · 20/09/2025 19:25

You should have posted this in Scotsnet! So much confusing advice from people who live in England.

The spaces avaliable will have been filled by children who are higher up in the admissions priority list than your child. They have discharged your duty by offering you a place, even if it's not a convenient one. You can ask for your application to be considered again at future admissions panels, in the hope that a place comes up. These are every 6 months in the authority I work in, but you'd need to check your LA website.

littleorangefox · 20/09/2025 19:09

CrustyBread1977 · 20/09/2025 13:11

Which local authority are you in?

This. I'm also curious to know because things can vary by area. Not often by much but it can make a difference. Although I'm unaware of any councils who would start funding a 3 year old with an October birthday any earlier than the following January anyway. I know Glasgow it used to be the Monday after your third birthday but they changed it. But the OP says she lives rurally. Although saying that some semi-rural areas could come under Glasgow city Council.

littleorangefox · 20/09/2025 19:01

Dancingsquirrels · 20/09/2025 13:40

In Scotland, srate nurseries don't have catchment areas. Is there a state nursery near your work?

You need to be careful with that because there have been huge issues recently with some councils refusing funding for cross-boundary places. A friend of mine has to pay the full fees for her 3 year old despite him being entitled to the 1140 hours because he goes to a nursery near her work which isn't in the same local authority area that they live in 😬

Franpie · 20/09/2025 18:22

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 20/09/2025 14:03

Primary school education is different. All children must go to school so the LA must provide facilities for all.

No, all children must be educated, but they don’t need to go to school.

Semantics. The LA must provide a school place for everyone who wants one. No need to be pedantic.

helpfulperson · 20/09/2025 17:26

There seems to be alot of confusion here about the difference between preschool education and chilcare. Scottish local authorities are obliged to provide preschool education not childcare. However as a PP pointed out in a ridiculous move the scottish gov said pupils could get a third year of preschool education without providing resources meaning many LA are failing to meet their statutory obligation.

cramptramp · 20/09/2025 17:12

There is no one to challenge. You’re not entitled to a Nursery place. LAs can accommodate children in schools because schools have more places than Nurseries.

Teathecolourofcreosote · 20/09/2025 17:04

EvaShoe · 20/09/2025 16:47

Scottish Govt changed ruled on school deferrals meaning any child turning 5 from August onwards in their p1 year could defer school. No plans in place to support LAs with funding for the extra spaces this would require, nor any consultation. It is the repercussion of a poorly thought out SG policy.

Edited

@EvaShoe yes. They can now have a bonus year at pre school but there's no extra places.

And with 30 hours no incentive for parents to get them in school.

While some kids may benefit, these could always be considered so don't understand why it has to become universal.

I also don't think they've considered the knock on at the other end of almost 13 year olds still in primary. My 12 year old wasn't one of the most ready in p1 (in the middle in terms of birthday) but my god he's grown about a foot in the last six months and (despite being young for his age) has grown up such a lot, physically and emotionally.

I don't think primary schools are set up to be dealing with kids of this size and associated behaviours, especially in rural schools with composite classes across many year groups.

I dreaded secondary but it's been great for him and I can see he was in need of it, despite being one of those you wouldn't call advanced for his age in any respect.

Soontobesingles · 20/09/2025 17:00

PartyRingaRosie · 20/09/2025 11:55

Perhaps I should have stated in my original post that this is a local authority nursery. It’s a case of applying when the window opens each year.

Surely the council have an obligation to ensure there are adequate early years education facilities to accommodate local residents? If the LA cannot accommodate these children in nursery, how are they going to accommodate them in primary school?

There is no statutory obligation for
the local authority to provide early
years places a two minute walk from your home. The caps are the absolute and there is nothing that can be done, apart from join a waiting list. Even at primary level, you are not guaranteed a place at the most local school, and again if they have no places then places cannot be fabricated from thin air. There is nothing they can do apart from put you on a waiting list. YABU.

RaraRachael · 20/09/2025 16:56

Every time there is a new build scheme in our area the builders claim there will be a new school or nursery included - none have ever materialised. There hasn't been a new school built since 1974 despite hundreds of new houses being built.

As PPs have said, nursery places may be affected by deferred children. Back in the day these were usually only January and February birthdays but they now seem to be getting earlier and earlier.

EvaShoe · 20/09/2025 16:48

And they did this in the midst of ongoing shortage in the sector. This 100% lands on them

EvaShoe · 20/09/2025 16:47

Differentforgirls · 20/09/2025 16:34

Local Authorities administer EY. Not the SG.

Scottish Govt changed ruled on school deferrals meaning any child turning 5 from August onwards in their p1 year could defer school. No plans in place to support LAs with funding for the extra spaces this would require, nor any consultation. It is the repercussion of a poorly thought out SG policy.

MidnightPatrol · 20/09/2025 16:43

Tastaturen · 20/09/2025 16:38

There is no such thing as a reception place in Scotland.

‘A school place as opposed to q nursery place’

Tastaturen · 20/09/2025 16:38

MidnightPatrol · 20/09/2025 12:29

She’s applying for a nursery place, not a reception place.

There is no such thing as a reception place in Scotland.

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