To have had enough of my friend

I've got an ex-friend like that. She had all sorts of expectations about what friends 'should' do. She'd keep track of our phone calls and moan if I'd left it 'too long' between calls. When I did call, she'd take up loads of time telling me about her troubles - and I didn't mind that because that's what friends are for. But as soon as I had a problem, she stopped phoning me. That's when I knew she wasn't a friend.

So similar to my sister! If you don't say something she expects you to say in a situation, like you're a bloody actor with a script, she takes offence. Got a surface level relationship now and that's fine, it's a shame but it's not my shame.

Sounds like she had main character syndrome and thinks she can curate the human beings around her like puppets. She's clearly adding no positivity to your life, time to set her adrift. You could do it quietly by simply not reply, or pulling away gently, or by being as forthright as her and saying "I don't think I can live up to your expectations of a friendship, so let's call it a day. Best of luck"

I am being ghosted at the moment for something - not quite sure yet as she hasn’t informed me what I have done wrong yet.

My sister used to do this, then one day I decided I was no longer bothered.
The turn around was interesting. Sadly she decided she wanted to be my friend but I keep her at arm's length and it's great.

Well stop that right away. People pleasing is not a good thing. It's not desirable to be whatever you think someone wants you to be because you're so scared they'll dislike you, even when you absolutely can't stand them. It makes a person insincere and frequently two-faced. And it means you end up in "friendships" like this because you don't let people see your true self and just always mask to what you think they want, so once you're not what they want, this happens.

To think own self be true.

OP, you don’t need this negative person in your life! She is not a true friend……..a true friend sees beyond the quirks and faults, a true friend supports and offers help and kindness……..she is simply an over-critical, overbearing monster who is sucking all the joy from your life. Tell her to fuck off and to not bother you again. Then block her and forget her.

Block her so when she finally deigns to tell you what you did wrong, she sees you’ve blocked her. She’s no friend.

This is awful. Don’t put up with it anymore, she sounds like she makes you feel so bad about yourself. Life is too short to surround yourself with people who make you feel like this. If I were you I would txt her and basically tell her everything you put in that original post, tell her you are done, and tell her to f*ck off!! But that’s me….

She sounds awful!

This isn’t a friend, it’s an enemy, get rid.

To cut a long story short, your friend is a narcissist. She screams coercive control and attention seeking. Cut her loose, honestly you don’t need that in your life.

What do4s she expect you to do jump up and dow with excitement she's moved house ?

She's over stayed and it's time to go

She’s no friend. I’d be turning the ghosting around on her, permanently. Spending time with friends should boost your spirits, not leave you feeling put down.

Jesus she sounds like she's giving you performance reviews as if she was employing you. Think about your life without her - is it better or worse? What does she bring to your life? If you're not seeing any positives just ignore her and don't see her again, or tell her that you don't want to continue the friendship- whatever works for you. Might also be worth having a bit of a think about why this occurred and why you put up with it for so long? (Not that it's your fault, she's responsible for being a cow, but it might help you spot it in others or have healthier boundaries with friends going forward)

I'm with this ^^.
Poor you 🤗

Just block her. Ghost her back. If she does turn up one day after her messages don't go through, tell her you not longer want a friendship with her. Life is too short to be made to feel like that from someone who is supposed to care about you and your feelings.

If you have mutual friends, family I’d back off her but not block but if you don’t just get rid of the ‘friendship’

I wouldn't even register with her about her list of complaints. Bugger that!

Just don't be available, ever. Sorry friend, I've got loads on all of a sudden, hope you're well. On repeat.

Tell her to get fucked and block. As a PP said, she sounds abusive. Why would you want to waste anymore time dealing with this?
You'll feel like a weight has been lifted once you've sacked her off (from a fellow people pleaser who recently escaped a similar situation)

I have a friend like this. Total mood hoover. Jealousy is strong, can never be happy for me or my achievements and now I limit what I share because her negativity is not welcome.

id make the ghosting permanent

Bin. Her. Off. You don't need this in your life. My menopause mantra "if it doesn't spark joy....get rid".

Friends should leave you feeling good not this. She’s not a friend.

I would just ignore her and get on with your life.
She will be baffled you're not waiting for her to get in touch.

YABU. You should have stopped being friends with her years ago.

This. Life is too short to put up with people like this.