To have had enough of my friend

I mean, just read your post back to yourself. If you still think this women is your friend, I feel very sorry for you. Who lets someone treat them like this? Please get some support to improve your self esteem.

I am saying this very bluntly, which is not normally my style when replying to posts. However, this friendship sounds abusive, and when abuse is involved I find that one needs to be 100% direct or the abused doesn’t listen.

Do walk away from her & don’t look back

just never reply or contact her ever again

I think she likes someone to bully - id ask the cheeky bitch why is she still friends with you if your such a disappointment!!!! Dump her!!! You deserve better x

Here’s a message for you to copy, paste and send:
Dear Janice, glad you have got back in touch after my latest “misdemeanour”. The time out of contact has given me time to think and I have come to the realisation that you make me feel awful about myself purely for your own pleasure. You are a truly horrible person. Never, ever contact me again.

Aaaand block.

Get some proper help You've let the opinion of one person affect your entire life and this isn't normal. There must be a reason for it.

In no particular order:

• take control of the situation and block her
• please reflect on why it has taken you so long to realise what this relationship is
• I highly recommend adopting a Marie Kondo approach to life and friendships: does this spark joy? Say thank you for your service and let it go.
• I recommend reading nice girls don't get the corner office. It's about asserting yourself at work but I found it much more useful in other areas of life.

and how your post helped the poster? So you have also friendships whose job is to manage their balls in the air to please you????

How the fuckety fuck have you managed to have a friendship with someone like this for 30 bloody years??! I'd have binned this bitch off at least two decades earlier.

why would you let another person set friendship expectations for you to meet? You can never meet them as they hold all the cards and can move expectations as they see fit. That’s not friendship. You’re obviously a nicer person than me op, I’d have cut this dead weight lose a long time ago you need to take control here and move on with your life and don’t look back!

Write her a Whatsapp...listing all her faults, how she has pissed you off, how it has made you feel ...then say never contact me again and block her . I did this with a 'friend' a couple of years ago. It was brilliant. I don't miss her at all ...fed up with the using and crap that she put me through...some people are C$$ts and best out of your life 💯

In your own words, she makes you feel shit about yourself. If another person told you this story, would you advise to walk away? I bet you would. Leave her behind, be happy, she's an abuser.

I had a best friend like this for 20 years, she was always telling me what I’d done wrong… ‘wasn’t excited enough about her engagement’ (I really was but I’m not a screamer) etc etc… yet when I needed genuine support after a miscarriage or other difficult times, she was nowhere to be seen. I sacked her off. The relief has been incredible.

When she finally stops ghosting you and sends a text just say something like “I clearly can’t be the friend you want me to be, I’m moving on” or something like that. And then block her on everything.

If this was a romantic partner behaving like this would you recognise it as abuse? I ended a friendship a couple of years ago when the penny finally dropped. You just don’t notice it so readily in a friendship I think. Anyway, she is absolutely not your friend, I suspect she keeps you hanging around to make herself feel superior or powerful. Please go ahead and ghost her back.

Dumpster time for this selfish weirdo, @Spiritofeden87 Think about the time you could be spending with those who love you, the books you could read, the cake you could eat, and the fun you could have if you didn't have this creature and her lists of expectations gobbling up your time and energy. She's already ghosted you; ghost her in return so that her routes back to you are cut off and she can't bother you again. You deserve so much better.

Age is helping me realise when I’ve allowed myself to be treated badly, OP, and it’s not going to happen again. I will speak up and that’s what you should do. If you want her to have a taste of her own medicine, maybe send her a list of all the ways she’s been a poor friend to you. Otherwise, just tell her the ‘friendship’ is over and block her.

If this was someone that you were in a relationship with, you’d be advised to leave due to coercive and abusive behaviour. Just because they’re a friend doesn’t make this any less abusive. For your own self-worth, walk away.

Why bother with the message?

If she's a friend I'd hate to see an enemy jeeze !!
Message her tell her she's an awful person an even worse friend and you don't want to speak to her again then block and move on !

Friend ?? Surely not, anyone that constantly criticises you is no friend op.

Stop wasting your life on someone who's awful to you.
She's not your friend.
Bin her off.

The minute you realise that she is the problem and not you, you will feel a whole lot better. Life is too short to be made to feel like this. She is not a friend.

This

Move on. Life is too short for this non friend pretending to be a friend. Do you really need this hassle.

I think we may know the same person! She sounds toxic and a drain. SHE is not meeting the expectations of a friend - quietly exit the relationship. Don’t feel guilted into reinvesting in the friendship, the quicker you’re rid the better