to report every man who lies about his height on hinge

I guess men add to their height because they know women generally like taller men. Women take pictures at odd angles, use filters and describe themselves as ‘medium build’ when they’re a bit overweight. So… I guess everyone’s being slightly economical with the truth on these apps.

I've also been "height fished" before. If someone lies about one thing, you can be sure they're lying about other stuff.

It’s worth remembering that only around 30% of men are 6ft+ in the UK and the average is around 5’8”-5’9”, so if it says 6’ on their profile there’s a good chance they’re lying. It also means that 50% of men are less than the average so there are a lot more short men out there than you probably think. It’s kind of a silly thing to judge someone by though. It doesn’t matter what height he is if he isn’t kind, smart, funny, and a decent human being.

Ok, men lie about age and height; women lie about age and weight/build. If you took all the profiles with lies down, there’d only be a handful left.

I would have said I wasn't attracted to very thin men, but I had the best sex of my life with a man who was painfully thin.

so this is actually a dating app topic my 20 something son complains about to me att! He is (really) 6 feet, maybe 6'1 cant recall....and he says he Has to lie and add an inch or two because it's so bad (with all the guys saying they are 6 foot these days,) that no one believes it anymore, and to compete, he adds

Starting something on a lie, is not a good start. I lose trust easily and if someone can lie about something so small...

@DetectiveDouche
Sorry just want to clarify but too late to edit, I genuinely have never been attracted to a man who wasn't tall, not just 'not' shorter than me.

Sexual attraction is a funny thing. I know exactly the type I am sexually attracted to, if I know little else about a person. Tall. Athletic. Dark haired and eyes. Dominant energy. However, initial sexual attraction, for me, is different from sexual attraction which develops after knowing someone. My husband only ticks one off my list above.

I'd hate to be in the dating scene now, where photos and messages are what you're judged on. Must be hard. It's like a manual of you. Advertising.

I've learnt I'd likely date most people, and see what happens.

I am not on Hinge ... mainly because I am worried I would get trampled in the rush:

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55 years
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For those in this thread who wanted a man to protect them, I guarantee I have watched every Jackie Chan Kung Fu movie.
5'4'', but willing to carry a box to stand on when we go out
I have all me own teeth.

I think it started well, but maybe slightly tailed off a bit near the end.

I genuinely have never been attracted to someone shorter than me. That's not a choice. I have never felt the feeling of sexual attraction unless the man is tall.

It's not a preference, it's not 'usually', it really is never.

My 'shallow' observation relates purely to the assumption that you could "never be attracted to someone shorter than you".. it's neither an anti-feminist statement nor does it relate to critical thinking.. or lack thereof. I just think to say you could "never" is like like saying "I could never be attracted to man with blonde hair" because you're usually attracted to dark haired men. Or a man saying "I could never be attracted to a woman with small boobs.."... Sure, we can all have our "usual preferences" but then suddenly people really can just click with someone who is completely not "our type" and realise we are in fact are very very attracted. Of course it happens. And to just think "eeew no... small boobs.. blonde hair... under five foot eight.." is, to my mind, shallow. And, arguably, unwise. It disregards the person and hinges completely on appearance.

Not condoning lying on dating profiles.. that's twattish behaviour in its own right and wasn't what I was commenting on.

I have people I've known for years, whose whatsapp profile pictures I don't recognise 😅.

I think women lie about age equally.

What on earth is shallow about only wanting to date with someone you're attracted to, that applies to most people.

Have you ever stopped to apply critical thinking to this?

That's a bit shallow @PoliteEagle

You’re doing a public service

What do you mean? Are you asking this as a question? Men do this all the time, of course it's ok, nobody's attempting to stop them.

Everybody has a right to be attracted, or not attracted to anybody at all for any reason, or no reason.

The relevant question would be should women who are fat be reported for saying they are slim - but then "fat" is more subjective than height so that wouldn't really work either. It's also a lot harder to hide being fat in a picture than it is to hide your height.

Bottom line, it is fair and right to tell the truth about your height, your size or any other significant factors on a dating site where such things matter enormously to some people, and lying about it is a red flag.

A dating site that included a necessity for a short video where you walk towards the camera with something like a car in the shot to give context for height would probably be very popular. Maybe there is already something like that out there. Would actually help a lot of short and overweight people too, as often when we see someone move, talk and walk we find them attractive, whereas often a still shot doesn't give the real picture.

Anyway, of course men can say they're only interested in whatever, just as women can.

I'd feel exactly the same as if someone turned up who'd been using old photos, who'd made themselves look a lot slimmer than they really are, had since dyed their hair pink etc.

Not the end of the world. You're not obliged to find anyone attractive.

As a woman I've suffered a lot at the hands of men, rape, sexual assault etc, I've also been psychological abused by someone who was my friend and forced into a relationship that way because he threatened suicide if I wouldn't, spent far too many years stuck in that relationship.

So one thing is certain is that when I choose men to date or be in relationships with they will be men who I am sexually attracted to, who I want to touch me and who I want to be in a relationship with. And I won't be told that I should be giving shorter men a chance when I do not want to. I've already had to be touched by and be in a relationship with men I didn't want to touch me or be in a relationship with.

This idea then that I can't really expect to have equality etc unless I'm willing to give up my autonomy over my own choices in men is absolutely disgusting and backwards.....yet those people try to make out we're backwards if we only date who we want to date....

It's all very 'nice guy' but unfortunately women like to advocate on their behalves now too .....my teenager daughter already has to deal with this bullshit, boys she only likes as friends who beg for a chance even though she doesn't want to be with them and she doesn't fancy them.

And then to top it all off when a woman posts on here about how she gave a man a chance despite not fancying him because she liked his other qualities and then a few years down the line the sex is gone and she only sees him as a friend and she's made out to be a horrible user who has ruined his life 😂

Maybe my desire for strong tall men who could protect me is indeed a throwback, I've always thought of myself as a cavewoman that way, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all, and yes I still deserve equality!!