to report every man who lies about his height on hinge

😂 "willowy blonde" is a phrase you only hear in tabloids, bad novels, and Mumsnet.

I’m just glad my SIL is not shallow. As I said she’s 6ft and DB is 5ft 7. She was looking for someone her intellectual equal - she’s a very successful senior hospital consultant and she and DB both have PhDs. She is a willowy blonde (DB is stocky and muscular) and could certainly have dated someone taller than her had she been that hung up on height. They have been together. 19 years and have a delightful son (who, for the very limited amount that that is worth, is over 6ft).

I don't think you're shallow at all. You know what you find attractive and a turn-on. Being shallow is more about NOT going out with someone because although you fancy them they don't earn enough money etc.

Why is it an obsession? I don't fancy guys shorter than me, same as I don't fancy thin or bald guys - just the same as I'm not everyone's cup of tea for whatever reason. We all - thankfully - have a different type.

This is a ridiculous exaggeration. If a man demanded any of that I, and most people I know, would think he was a shallow twat (and really fucking creepy).

In general I think people who bang on about what they're not sexually attracted to are uncouth bores, it's tremendously rude. And that's widely accepted for most physical characteristics - you won't find many people in 2025 who will make a point of saying they could never be attracted to a certain race, or even a certain hair colour, even if they have that preference. (I have never been attracted to a certain race or a certain hair colour myself, but I don't see any need to put this information out into the world - I just get on with being attracted to other people.)

However there is something about women's weight that brings out all the shallow male twats and their important opinions on how they could never be attracted to a fat woman, and in exactly the same way there is something about men's height that brings out the shallow female twats who think it's incredibly important to tell other people at length how they're viscerally disgusted by any man under 5'10". So boring.

This is a ridiculous exaggeration. If a man demanded any of that I, and most people I know, would think he was a shallow twat (and really fucking creepy).

In general I think people who bang on about what they're not sexually attracted to are uncouth bores, it's tremendously rude. And that's widely accepted for most physical characteristics - you won't find many people in 2025 who will make a point of saying they could never be attracted to a certain race, or even a certain hair colour, even if they have that preference. (I have never been attracted to a certain race or a certain hair colour myself, but I don't see any need to put this information out into the world - I just get on with being attracted to other people.)

However there is something about women's weight that brings out all the shallow male twats and their important opinions on how they could never be attracted to a fat woman, and in exactly the same way there is something about men's height that brings out the shallow female twats who think it's incredibly important to tell other people at length how they're viscerally disgusted by any man under 5'10". So boring.

This is my experience too. I have a definite type when it comes to the kind of man who catches my attention if they're just a random stranger in public or a celebrity on TV. Similar to yours, quite conventionally attractive - brown hair, good cheekbones, clean-cut etc etc. There's not much correlation to the men I've had actual sexual chemistry with, nor the men I've become attracted to after getting to know their characters better. And there's also nothing more disappointing than getting to sleep with a man who, on the surface, ticks every physical box I'm attracted to, then finding out that you can still have the opposite of sexual chemistry with them.

Photos alone are a really shit way of gauging attraction, even if they're accurate. And you have to assume everything anyone says about themselves on a dating app massages the truth to an extent. I agree a straight-up lie is bizarre but every single person on those apps, man and woman, has carefully selected the "best" photo of themselves rather than the most realistic one. It's the nature of the game.

Every time 🤨

Surely the best idea is to use an unflattering photo/description so people are pleasantly surprised when they see you in real life?

People should call out liars when they first meet, I.e. "You claimed to be 5'8" and your very obviously not! While I don't my dating short people I make a point of not dating LIARS"! and walk away with head held high. Same if they look nothing like their photo 🙄

That’s not such a bad idea. Like on eBay where you give a rating for “Meets item description”.

I had a first date with someone from a dating website - he said he was 6ft 1 …. And he was! I thought of this thread! Maybe there could be the opposite - a star rating where people look like their profile pics!
Had another date last week and he had 6 pics up -I was hoping pic number 1 would turn up - nope not at all - they should have to be date stamped!!

I'm 5'3 and once dated a man who was 6'5" - the only time it was an issue was when I had to stand on a step to kiss him :D We looked great, a very attractive couple.

There's so much stupidity about this - you are not taking anything from anyone else's dating pool by dating people who want to date you. And nope, being short is NOT a disadvantage for women, over all.

And obviously women are hoping if they have sons they will get their height from their dad, which worked out well for me tbh. The father of my kids is 6 foot 1 I am 5 foot 3 and they are (girl) 5'9" and boy 6'2"

Kind of glad she stopped at 5'9" as being taller than that actually is a bit of a disadvantage for women, still, in dating at least.

When do these untold numbers lie?

It’s not a question I have ever asked.

My daughter is 5ft, her boyfriend is 6ft2 or 3. They don’t ’look ridiculous’

Never mind online date sites populated by short arse men.

For every man who lies about their actual height. There must be untold numbers who also lie about their imaginary penis size!

That's men for you Chuck

Hush now, don't you know women are allowed no boundaries or preferences at all? Men can demand a pornbot 9000 completely hairless body, that never ages, sex on tap, she works for money and also does all the housework and child rearing while never gaining an ounce of weight or speaking to him harshly.

Women are not allowed to only fancy men who are a bit taller than them. Hashtag BeKind😅

The internalised misogyny on mumsnet never fails to make me laugh. Or the men who who are furious about being short and feel entitled to the woman THEY want even if she doesn't want them, perhaps, out in droves 😅

Yes it works differently for different people, there are some like yourself where it grows later on.

For me personally I've never been sexually attracted to someone I wasn't sexually attracted to from the start.

However, initial sexual attraction, for me, is different from sexual attraction which develops after knowing someone

It's different for me also. Initial sexual attraction isn't nearly as strong as that sexual attraction combined with knowing the person, but knowing the person and liking a lot about them doesn't create sexual attraction that wasn't initially there in the first place.

Well if you want to go by random statistics you read on the internet, shorter men are more likely to be angry and violent so....

Tall men are more likely to cheat apparently. I suppose statistically there will be more women willing to cheat with them.

It does matter though if the sexual attraction isn't there unless the man is tall.

This made me chuckle ..
So what is the difference when a woman turns up with a little breast enhancement (I am not talking surgery but padded bra here and spandex), false eyelashes and makeup?
Would you think it's reasonable for a man to report them?