Last weekend, a friend of mine (let’s call her B) was meant to come round, we’d made plans and I was looking forward to it. The day before, she just stopped talking to me. No message, no “sorry I can’t make it”, nothing. And it’s not the first time.
This is a recurring pattern. Every few months, she goes quiet, completely ghosts me and stays that way for weeks or even months. When she’s in these phases, she doesn’t pick up calls or reply to texts. Then eventually she resurfaces like nothing happened.
And the thing is, when we’re talking and good, we’re really good. We get on well, she’s kind and fun to be around. But this hot and cold cycle is starting to feel emotionally exhausting.
We’ve spoken about it multiple times. She always says sorry and promises it won’t happen again but here we are, again.
It’s not like we’ve had a falling out. There’s no explanation, just complete silence.
AIBU to think this is reason enough to cut ties? Or is this something I should be more understanding about? I’m all for giving people space but I also think basic communication is the bare minimum in a friendship. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?