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To think that these women under these comments are creepy and if it were men...

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ShowerThoughtsAndQuestions · 19/09/2025 16:56

...there would be outrage and rightly so?

There's this trend on tiktok probably started by a young boy (teenager) where he's dancing to a very lyrically inappropriate rap song ("Fuck a dolla girl pick up this <throws money on the floor>; Shake your ass, watch yourself... show me what you're working with...").

Many people from boys to girls, men and women have all started doing their own version of this. I quite enjoy watching the men and women videos and bit because I find some of their dance steps funny and interesting but am I the only one who can't get into watching literal kids dancing to this song and mostly women in the comments leering at these teenage boys?

Yes yes I know it's all a joke but really? This is paedophilic behaviour and if these were videos of girls dancing to this while grown men were all talking about how attractive they are, they would be rightly called out. It's like I'm in the twilight zone where many women can't see or acknowledge their creepy behaviour and I can't stand it.

Another video I saw last night was a little girl (probably between 5 and 8) actually dancing to this song and singing it while getting ready to go to bed. Her mum in the comments was insinuating she'd like to be Chris Brown's baby mama in reply to a comment saying her daughter looks like him. What has the world come to? I just find so many things people do awful as I'm mindlessly scrolling trying to find cute or funny videos to wind down and recharge from being chronically ill as well as a carer.

I'm particularly disturbed by the teenage boys dancing to this song and grown women acting like rabid fangirls. I had to block the boy who started that trend just so I could stop seeing his inappropriate dance videos (in one of it, he licks his fingers and simulates touching the V) and the disturbing comments. You get jumped on if you're not following the bandwagon in the comments and I rarely post comments on social media. I just lurk.

Aibu?

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ScurryfungeSpuddle · 19/09/2025 17:20

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 19/09/2025 17:16

I have no clue what you’re talking about and surely by participating you are part of the problem.

This ^^

It reminds me of all the MN Daily Mail readers who don't really read it, they just happen to stumble across it 😁

ShowerThoughtsAndQuestions · 19/09/2025 17:19

MNJury · 19/09/2025 17:01

I mean, there is a lot on tiktok etc which I agree is problematic. But if it's upsetting you can I recommend doing what I (and most adults) do? Spend your time doing other things and don't watch it.

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EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 19/09/2025 17:16

I have no clue what you’re talking about and surely by participating you are part of the problem.

ShowerThoughtsAndQuestions · 19/09/2025 17:15

steff13 · 19/09/2025 16:59

I agree with you. I don't know if this happens there so much as it does here in the US, not that it happens all the time, but whenever there's a female teacher that has been having a relationship with a young male student there are constantly men in the comments saying things like "oh where was she when I was in school." 🤢 Like boys can't be victims and women can't be perpetrators.

I agree. I've seen them before too. I also remember the "Teacher bae" incident. I haven't even watched it but always come across videos of people talking about it. That's how I know.

I'm not sure I could be wrong but I do find most of these things I mentioned from the US tiktokers.

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ShowerThoughtsAndQuestions · 19/09/2025 17:13

I only started watching tiktok this year after not paying any attention to it. Long story but there was a reason for it. I happened to find many many good videos that i enjoyed watching so i stayed. I'm not tied to it and I'm not one to balk at stupid things on the internet but every now and then some things get my attention this way. I'm only human, thank you very much.

Tiktok is a scrolling platform where you just land on videos, so I come across them randomly while scrolling and don't go looking for them. Of course once I stay longer than 10 seconds on a video and dare to look at the comment section out of curiosity, the algorithm starts flooding me with similar videos. So no I don't really watch them often. I usually scroll on or block most of them when I realise what they're about or the comments are infuriating.

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TheUsualChaos · 19/09/2025 17:11

Delete tiktok.

JHound · 19/09/2025 17:09

PestoHoliday · 19/09/2025 16:58

YABU to pay any attention to Tiktok.

This.

Whenthetimeisright · 19/09/2025 17:08

Why on earth do you spend your time watching this stuff?
I don't understand the world of Tiktok and I don't want to.

lazyarse123 · 19/09/2025 17:03

This kind of nonsense is why I don't have tiktok.
Watching stupid people do stupid things is beyond me.

MNJury · 19/09/2025 17:01

I mean, there is a lot on tiktok etc which I agree is problematic. But if it's upsetting you can I recommend doing what I (and most adults) do? Spend your time doing other things and don't watch it.

steff13 · 19/09/2025 16:59

I agree with you. I don't know if this happens there so much as it does here in the US, not that it happens all the time, but whenever there's a female teacher that has been having a relationship with a young male student there are constantly men in the comments saying things like "oh where was she when I was in school." 🤢 Like boys can't be victims and women can't be perpetrators.

ScurryfungeSpuddle · 19/09/2025 16:59

Well yes, it's clearly disgusting so if I were you, I'd stop adding to the view count?

There's a whole host of inappropriate shit on the internet, but you have the choice not to view it.

PestoHoliday · 19/09/2025 16:58

YABU to pay any attention to Tiktok.