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Brief Encounter- the film

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Orangesandlemons77 · 19/09/2025 11:25

We watched this film on TV last night. DH confided in me he used to watch it years ago, over and over and had been in tears over it.

To be honest I didn't really like it. A bit boring. All about an emotional affair between two random people in the 1940s who meet in a train station and go to the pictures etc despite having husbands / wives and children at home.

It just went on and on and then finishes with them saying goodbye and her crying in the arms of her husband who she has been lying to throughout.

AIBU?

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Orangesandlemons77 · 20/09/2025 12:54

Liann811 · 20/09/2025 11:07

I absolutely adore this film.
I vould watch this all day it's up there with one of a bunch of films i never get tired off.
Your husband has great taste.

Yes, it is kind of sweet to think of him watching this as a young man.

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JustCabbaggeLooking · 20/09/2025 11:45

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 20/09/2025 06:10

How odd! He's my all-time favourite too. Trevor Howard is not unlike him. He usually plays characters whose lips are permanently curled. I think he was probably not one to suffer fools gladly in real life.

Spring and Port Wine is a nice enough kitchen sink drama to enjoy on a Sunday afternoon

Liann811 · 20/09/2025 11:07

I absolutely adore this film.
I vould watch this all day it's up there with one of a bunch of films i never get tired off.
Your husband has great taste.

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 20/09/2025 10:42

I adore it. It’s shot so well. Together with Rachmaninoff I think it’s wonderful! The hand on the shoulder in their last moments speaks volumes. It’s given me goosebumps thinking about it.

WestwardHo1 · 20/09/2025 10:25

What surprises me was the age of the actors when they made it. When watching is as a youngster, I always assumed Laura and Alec were in their mid to late 40s. Watching it the other day as a fifty year old, I can see that Celia Johnson was younger than that, and it's her hair and clothes which age her in the film. She was 37 when she made it. Trevor Howard was....32!!!

WestwardHo1 · 20/09/2025 10:14

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 20/09/2025 06:10

How odd! He's my all-time favourite too. Trevor Howard is not unlike him. He usually plays characters whose lips are permanently curled. I think he was probably not one to suffer fools gladly in real life.

He was a raging alcoholic and died of cirrhosis of the liver, sadly.

TheignT · 20/09/2025 10:13

Well I wish I didn't look it up. Horrific childhood, no good father and sadistic stepmother. I feel so sad for that little boy.

TheignT · 20/09/2025 10:08

AngelicKaty · 20/09/2025 09:59

Loved him in The Rockford Files! 😃

I go back a bit further and loved him in Maverick. I also loved him in a Marlon Brando film, think it was called Sayonara. I haven't seen it in about 50 years. I'm torn now id love to see it again but maybe the reality might be a let down. It was about love between an American and a Japanese woman. Bit frightened it might seem very different through 21st century eyes.

Seen The Great Escape so many times. I suppose I loved him in everything.

I think he had a sad childhood with his mother dying when he was very young and I think a cruel stepmother but maybe that is stepmother prejudice. Must look it up.

AngelicKaty · 20/09/2025 09:59

TheignT · 20/09/2025 09:48

Thinking about actors James Garner was also a favourite. I remember my kids liking him in The Notebook and them being surprised when I said he was a heartthrob back in the day, I showed them a film of him as a young man (can't remember what) and they agreed he was a very handsome young man.

Loved him in The Rockford Files! 😃

randomchap · 20/09/2025 09:52

ChelseaDetective · 19/09/2025 19:39

Bore off will you?

I didn’t say boiled meat, potato and rhubarb pie, so check your own grammar.

Sorry, was just meant to be a joke. It made me think of Rachel's traditional British trifle

diddl · 20/09/2025 09:50

I think as a pp has said he's quite a bully to her in the film.

He seems quite charming though so maybe it comes over as interested & decisive?

Then he doesn't turn up one time & then doesn't let her end it when she wants so it's all on his terms!

TheignT · 20/09/2025 09:48

Thinking about actors James Garner was also a favourite. I remember my kids liking him in The Notebook and them being surprised when I said he was a heartthrob back in the day, I showed them a film of him as a young man (can't remember what) and they agreed he was a very handsome young man.

TheignT · 20/09/2025 09:42

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 19/09/2025 22:19

Gosh. I find both of them very attractive, in different ways. Trevor Howard was excellent in Green for Danger and The Third Man. For anyone looking for another classic black and white film with a compelling love story and terrific music, you can't do better than The Third Man, by the way.

Im not sure about Trevor Howard, there's something dark about him. @FullLondonEye has it with "something if the night" I think I'd have felt nervous if I met him but no idea why. I can also see why he'd seem attractive as a smart man with a powerful force to him.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 20/09/2025 08:16

There was an excellent play on Radio 4 this week with Mark Gatiss doing an excellent job of playing James Mason in later years. Well worth catching. https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m002jfc7

Drama on 4 - High Cockalorum - BBC Sounds

Jeremy Dyson's original comedy drama about a humble man and a Hollywood star.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m002jfc7

CoffeeCantata · 20/09/2025 08:13

Ooh James Mason!

So handsome and - like James Stewart - another architecture graduate (Cambridge). He certainly had a distinct aura - inscrutable and sometimes sinister. He’s great in North by North West, and I also love that film for the superbly-cut suits of Cary Grant!

Coffeeishot · 20/09/2025 08:06

Zanzara · 20/09/2025 04:23

Count me in please! 😂

Oh they are all coming out now 😀

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 20/09/2025 06:10

FullLondonEye · 20/09/2025 00:30

Ahhh but my all time favourite is James Mason. Very different. I need a man to have ‘something of the night’ about him 😂.

I do remember finding BE very romantic the first time I saw it, when I was probably in my teens. It’s since discovering the paucity of romance in real life that I think I feel the need to shake Laura and demand she follow her heart.

Of course the sad thing is that if they’d actually done it and run away together they’d probably have discovered pretty quickly that actually they didn’t know each other that well, had nothing in common and the passion would have fizzled out very quickly. Everyone’s hearts would have been broken for nothing.

How odd! He's my all-time favourite too. Trevor Howard is not unlike him. He usually plays characters whose lips are permanently curled. I think he was probably not one to suffer fools gladly in real life.

Zanzara · 20/09/2025 04:23

Coffeeishot · 19/09/2025 12:17

Maybe we could join up at Christmas when it is on and have a moan 😀

Count me in please! 😂

whereisthatcathidingnow · 20/09/2025 02:48

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ViciousCurrentBun · 20/09/2025 01:53

Great film, rewatched it after we went to a steam train event this summer dressed in 1940’s attire. Waltzed on the train platform and had afternoon tea.

The young actor Margaret Barton that played Beryl the girl in the tea room is still alive and is 99.

Solaire18381 · 20/09/2025 01:17

I think virtually everyone has a non-stop talking, gossiping acquaintance like Dolly Messister in the film though! You're left to wonder what would have happened if Dolly wouldn't have walked in, how different would the "goodbye" have been.

Of course she wishes Dolly was the type of person she could call a friend, someone she could confide in, instead of a non-stop chattering busy body.

garlictwist · 20/09/2025 01:15

Angrymum22 · 19/09/2025 11:43

Not a fan of the film but it was filmed at Carnforth station. As a child I used to stay with my grandmother during the summer. She would take us for days out and Carnforth was the station we always had to change at. I remember having tea in the cafe. It would have been in the late 60s/early 70s and still looked like it did during the film.
So when I watch the film it takes me back to my childhood.

Yes I often get the train to Carnforth and it’s a shrine to Brief Encounter with a lovely cafe.

Solaire18381 · 20/09/2025 00:40

I saw it yesterday too. I haven't seen it for years. I have always loved it though.

I can't remember the first time I saw it, probably by mistake, I probably would have been in my 20's.

Compared to today, the love story is very tame! Apart from kiss, and the emotional aspect, it was relatively innocent in a physical sense. They fall in love after a few meetings.

I can see why even today people like this film now, lives can seem so mundane and boring, being a housewife, married with 2 children, she probably felt trapped. The thrill she must have felt, in her otherwise boring, routine life, dreaming of a fantasy that was unachievable. I think that's why people still like it!

Also when it was made, the War was still going on so a bit of fantasy and escapism would have been good. I think the music played throughout adds to it and makes it more emotional.

FullLondonEye · 20/09/2025 00:30

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 19/09/2025 22:19

Gosh. I find both of them very attractive, in different ways. Trevor Howard was excellent in Green for Danger and The Third Man. For anyone looking for another classic black and white film with a compelling love story and terrific music, you can't do better than The Third Man, by the way.

Ahhh but my all time favourite is James Mason. Very different. I need a man to have ‘something of the night’ about him 😂.

I do remember finding BE very romantic the first time I saw it, when I was probably in my teens. It’s since discovering the paucity of romance in real life that I think I feel the need to shake Laura and demand she follow her heart.

Of course the sad thing is that if they’d actually done it and run away together they’d probably have discovered pretty quickly that actually they didn’t know each other that well, had nothing in common and the passion would have fizzled out very quickly. Everyone’s hearts would have been broken for nothing.

HonoriaBulstrode · 19/09/2025 22:56

it’s about real life as opposed to romantic fantasy.

Fred is the solid lump of comfort, to reference another current thread.

I agree about This Happy Breed (Celia Johnson and Stanley Holloway again). Robert Newton is excellent.

And The Third Man must be in anyone's list of best ever films. Like Casablanca and Brief Encounter, the music plays a large part.

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