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Husbands chastity cage

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:21

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

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Flowerpower70 · 19/09/2025 13:27

I never heard of these things I didn't know they existed! I work with and worked with guys and have heard lots of rude chat but never heard if these and I had to google what one was..
what a strange contraption / odd abomination..
I do hope there's some kind of misunderstanding. Maybe its some kind of joke or something for a friends stag night or some silly joke.. i hope you manage to work things out and things work out ok for you..

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 13:11

Oh right. Well actually I genuinely didn't and wondered if it was likely it was some kind of joke. And wanted to know what others thought...

Believe me / don't believe me. I don't care. I feel knackered from thinking about it all

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 13:11

PlainTealCrow · 19/09/2025 11:55

You know exactly what to think. I don’t buy this. You saw what you saw and you know exactly what to think. Give over.

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Oh right. Well actually I genuinely didn't and wondered if it was likely it was some kind of joke. And wanted to know what others thought...

Believe me / don't believe me. I don't care. I feel knackered from thinking about it all

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Emonade · 19/09/2025 12:55

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:21

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

It means he is seeing a dominatrix

Flowerpower70 · 19/09/2025 12:54

Maybe its some sort of mouse or rat 🐀 trap..

Ilovepastafortea · 19/09/2025 12:35

DIL came over earlier for a cuppa. I showed her this thread. She fell about laughing & wants to know where she can buy a chastity cage for her 16 year old son (our oldest GC). She's worried that he may make a girl pregnant. She's buying him condoms, but, as she says, all she can do is shove some in his pocket as he leaves the house to go out & nag him to use them, but can't be there to make sure that he does. She thinks this is just the thing that's needed. 😂😂😂

MagpiePi · 19/09/2025 12:31

@gillybean2 🤣🤣🤣

AI really isn’t that clued up, is it?!!

I really feel for the OP as her stbexh sounds like a - was going to say wanker, but it didn’t seem appropriate in the circumstances, - but this thread has had me laughing out loud.

gillybean2 · 19/09/2025 11:56

gillybean2 · 19/09/2025 11:52

Haven’t read the full thread sorry but I got as far as the hamster cage comment. Then spotted this when I got to the bottom of the page 🤔🤣

Don’t know where my photo went sort. But it’s probably also on your ‘similar threads’ list…

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PlainTealCrow · 19/09/2025 11:55

BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 11:54

What do u mean?

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You know exactly what to think. I don’t buy this. You saw what you saw and you know exactly what to think. Give over.

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 11:54

PlainTealCrow · 19/09/2025 11:53

LOL you know exactly what to think. Come off it.

What do u mean?

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PlainTealCrow · 19/09/2025 11:53

LOL you know exactly what to think. Come off it.

gillybean2 · 19/09/2025 11:52

Haven’t read the full thread sorry but I got as far as the hamster cage comment. Then spotted this when I got to the bottom of the page 🤔🤣

Overpeover · 19/09/2025 11:46

ButSheSaid · 18/09/2025 21:31

Does it have the water dispenser bottle and some enrichment textures and toys inside? A little bell, etc.
Hopefully the hamster isn't included.

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🤣😂😆

EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/09/2025 11:38

I'd say he is on OF like plenty of other foolish people men acting like a circus monkey preforming for the host.
They really are thick.

lovemybooks · 19/09/2025 11:27

@RobertJohnsonsShoes you have made me literally splutter out my tea 😝 Thx as I needed a laugh today 😊

BlueandPinkSwan · 19/09/2025 11:09

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/09/2025 21:24

Is it definitely a chastity cage? Do you have any pets? Could it be to transport a small rodent?

Bit of a shock for you but it sounds like you may soon be going your separate ways so I'd decide beforehand how much of an issue this is for you.

Well, the average dick is like a small ugly rodent, certainly never attractive. 😆

Flowerpower70 · 19/09/2025 11:03

Ooo. I haven't heard of one of these. I must lead a sheltered life.. sorry this has happened to you.
I hope he can explain OP and hope all works out ok for you.

Maddy70 · 19/09/2025 10:52

He's gay

WestwardHo1 · 19/09/2025 10:51

TattyBluebell · 19/09/2025 09:36

I think I have lived a very sheltered life too! I have never seen or heard of a chastity cage. I don't want to Google it otherwise I will get pop ups and adverts on my pages forevermore. 🤣🤣

Me neither but am still giggling like a loon at the small rodent comment

lovescats3 · 19/09/2025 10:49

What's a sissy cage?

Winteriscoming80 · 19/09/2025 10:43

MagpiePi · 19/09/2025 09:21

…which any reasonable man would put straight in the bin.

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Yeah fair point.

TheExcitersblowingupmymind · 19/09/2025 10:42

@GlassofRosePorfavor dragon butter ? that's a new one to me can you give an inclination as to what it is.
Don't want to Google incase it's imprinted on my brain forever 👍😁

grumpygrape · 19/09/2025 10:41

OP, ignore the toy mouse suggestion. Get a friendly cat owner to give you a dead mouse, put it in the cage, leave a few days before complaining about the smell, drag husband to his wardrobe and......discover the source of the smell.
What the f is this ? should start the conversation.
Happy to help 🥰

user892734543544 · 19/09/2025 10:33

Fetish and porn stuff. Nasty.

Great arrangement though. Just take the advantage of the situation financially and parenting-wise and plan your exists.

IsTheRecyclingOut · 19/09/2025 10:31

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:56

Well... perhaps not lol

But the man refuses to engage with me about separating unless I back him into a corner, and when I do he will then start to tell me all the things I (and my teenage daughter) do wrong. He is, in his eyes, perfect and can do no wrong. Yet he has bondage equipment sat in his wardrobe, hidden but not particularly out of reach of our small children if they decided to go hunting.

So forgive me for being slightly curious about other people's opinions on it ay?

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I know this was yesterday, but thought I'd still add....

"If you are so perfect, and I am so horrible, then - why are you fighting to keep me?"

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