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Husbands chastity cage

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:21

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

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Pedallleur · 21/09/2025 14:32

AllrightNowBaby · 21/09/2025 01:59

Well I just had to Google..
And I kid you not, there’s a sale on at Lock the Cock…

A site we have all surely saved to our Favourites or ' a site you visit regularly'. Wonder if it's a giant Amazon style warehouse or someone's garage.

UmmH · 21/09/2025 14:24

UmmH · 21/09/2025 13:46

Well you didn't say that bit. And now you've lumped paedophilia into a 'community' with the consenting kinks of adults.

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Tickling is associated with laughter, and a football stadium is a funny and ridiculous place for someone to be offering to do such a thing. But harassing minors which you didn't include in your original post is more sinister and predatory, and it's not part of the kink community whose very existence you deny.

WearyAuldWumman · 21/09/2025 14:05

@UmmH When you assumed that the miscreant had only approached adults, you seemed to find it funny. Why is it funny for someone to try involve strangers in their 'kink' in a public place?

WearyAuldWumman · 21/09/2025 13:53

UmmH · 21/09/2025 13:46

Well you didn't say that bit. And now you've lumped paedophilia into a 'community' with the consenting kinks of adults.

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He was approaching a range of people who did not consent.

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Approaching anyone in a public place shows utter disdain for others.

UmmH · 21/09/2025 13:46

WearyAuldWumman · 21/09/2025 00:50

Interesting that you find that amusing.

I have no idea what the final outcome was. He was approaching adolescent boys. Our school's Child Protection Officer informed the police.

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Well you didn't say that bit. And now you've lumped paedophilia into a 'community' with the consenting kinks of adults.

SleeplessInWherever · 21/09/2025 11:36

Millytante · 21/09/2025 11:21

Another argument we can use against mixed gender changing rooms

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Because some of them might be wearing a cage?

I thought the issue was men being there to begin with, not what they had over their bits.

Millytante · 21/09/2025 11:21

LoftyRobin · 20/09/2025 20:53

There are soft types you can get which don't show as much. Getting one that fits and is comfortable can actually take a lot of expensive shopping.

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Another argument we can use against mixed gender changing rooms

Horsie · 21/09/2025 10:17

WearyAuldWumman · 21/09/2025 00:10

And yet - so far as I can gather - those who are 'into' kinks are not 'into the same thing'.

I can't imagine many people claiming community with the bloke who was reported for approaching spectators at the local football stadium and offering money in exchange for tickling their feet.

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There is a big kink community, and not just online. They gather for things called "munches," which are socials with food to mingle and check each other out. Then there are the sex parties, so I hear. Then there's the website fetlife and probably others. The community has established rules around dom/sub relationships. It's definitely a community. I'm not involved in it but I'm close to someone who is.

MeTooOverHere · 21/09/2025 10:00

BeShyPlumLeader · 21/09/2025 01:41

Breaking my 'no more replies' vow here... but if I'd found a fleshlight I would have 100% understood WHY he had one, knowing him as the sexual man I used to know him.... but the cock cage COMPLETELY threw me and I just wanted to hear other people's thoughts on it. That's all.

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Actually I wasn't addressing you. I was responding to the critic.
I understand that a fleshlight would not have surprised you as much as a cock cage!

Horsie · 21/09/2025 09:54

BeShyPlumLeader · 21/09/2025 01:45

I have no plans to blackmail him.

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No, I didn't think so!

LoftyRobin · 21/09/2025 07:02

There is a wider kink community and then sub-communities for specific interests. Like the riggers and bunnies (rope folk), electro people etc.

AllrightNowBaby · 21/09/2025 01:59

Well I just had to Google..
And I kid you not, there’s a sale on at Lock the Cock…

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BeShyPlumLeader · 21/09/2025 01:45

Horsie · 19/09/2025 17:09

I still don't see how it would make him more compliant. He's entitled to the same rights in divorce as someone who isn't using a chastity cage, and his lawyer will inform him of that.

I suppose it depends if he's easily cowed. He might cave to a worse arrangement than he's entitled to, I guess, if OP were to threaten to unveil his tastes. But that would be blackmail. While adultery isn't against the law, and neither are chastity cages, black mail is illegal.

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I have no plans to blackmail him.

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BeShyPlumLeader · 21/09/2025 01:41

MeTooOverHere · 19/09/2025 22:58

The male analogue to vibrator is fleshlight.

How would OP have reacted to finding a fleshlight?

How would everyone else have reacted to OP finding a fleshlight?

Probably somewhat differently I'd suggest.

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Breaking my 'no more replies' vow here... but if I'd found a fleshlight I would have 100% understood WHY he had one, knowing him as the sexual man I used to know him.... but the cock cage COMPLETELY threw me and I just wanted to hear other people's thoughts on it. That's all.

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WearyAuldWumman · 21/09/2025 00:50

UmmH · 21/09/2025 00:37

Lol. What would the charge be?

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Interesting that you find that amusing.

I have no idea what the final outcome was. He was approaching adolescent boys. Our school's Child Protection Officer informed the police.

MissCallaneous · 21/09/2025 00:48

WearyAuldWumman · 21/09/2025 00:10

And yet - so far as I can gather - those who are 'into' kinks are not 'into the same thing'.

I can't imagine many people claiming community with the bloke who was reported for approaching spectators at the local football stadium and offering money in exchange for tickling their feet.

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I'm talking about people who are into the same kinks as each other, obviously. So maybe they would.

UmmH · 21/09/2025 00:37

WearyAuldWumman · 21/09/2025 00:10

And yet - so far as I can gather - those who are 'into' kinks are not 'into the same thing'.

I can't imagine many people claiming community with the bloke who was reported for approaching spectators at the local football stadium and offering money in exchange for tickling their feet.

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Lol. What would the charge be?

WearyAuldWumman · 21/09/2025 00:10

MissCallaneous · 20/09/2025 23:47

Odd comment. A group of people who are into the same thing can legitimately be described as a community. The vocabulary may be relatively recent, but so what?

(Edited to add: I don't use Reddit, so I wouldn't know.)

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And yet - so far as I can gather - those who are 'into' kinks are not 'into the same thing'.

I can't imagine many people claiming community with the bloke who was reported for approaching spectators at the local football stadium and offering money in exchange for tickling their feet.

MissCallaneous · 20/09/2025 23:49

Horsie · 20/09/2025 23:38

If you don't want to read about such things, why are you reading a thread entitled "Husband's Chasity Cage"?

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Absolutely. Fancy telling people what they can and can't say on a public discussion forum.

MissCallaneous · 20/09/2025 23:47

WearyAuldWumman · 20/09/2025 20:08

When on earth did people start talking about a kink "community"? That sounds like something straight out of Reddit - everything's a "community" these days.

Odd comment. A group of people who are into the same thing can legitimately be described as a community. The vocabulary may be relatively recent, but so what?

(Edited to add: I don't use Reddit, so I wouldn't know.)

Horsie · 20/09/2025 23:38

Mymanyellow · 20/09/2025 21:53

Don’t care keep it to yourself. That’s the point.

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If you don't want to read about such things, why are you reading a thread entitled "Husband's Chasity Cage"?

Mymanyellow · 20/09/2025 21:53

Horsie · 20/09/2025 19:51

Dirty fucking weirdos 🤣🤣🤣

I don't think we have to respect or celebrate people's kinks, just not be prejudiced against them for it. The people who partake are having fun and not hurting anyone, and their activities usually take place behind closed doors. If it's in private and between consenting adults, what's the harm?

I'm all for a bit of doctor-patient examination myself...🤭 I'm a bad patient and he's a very busy doctor. Sometimes he needs to tie me down to get the intimate exam done...🤭🤭🤭

(With my partner, I hasten to add. I do NOT go to the doctor to get my rocks off!!!)

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Don’t care keep it to yourself. That’s the point.

LoftyRobin · 20/09/2025 20:53

Millytante · 20/09/2025 14:12

Wouldn’t that make itself obvious under his pinstriped suit at work?

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There are soft types you can get which don't show as much. Getting one that fits and is comfortable can actually take a lot of expensive shopping.

swimsong · 20/09/2025 20:50

Mollydoggerson · 20/09/2025 16:22

I have not read the thread: I think, He s in fabswingers or another fettish site or goes to clubs, he likes to watch put the cage on and watch people have sex. He gets a kick out of being submissive.

Swingers and BDSM/fetish people rarely combine. The latter tend to be quite snobby.

WearyAuldWumman · 20/09/2025 20:08

When on earth did people start talking about a kink "community"? That sounds like something straight out of Reddit - everything's a "community" these days.

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