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Husbands chastity cage

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:21

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

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ASeriesOfTubes · 18/09/2025 22:01

Tomatocutwithazigzagedge · 18/09/2025 21:38

Not necessarily gay, aren't these usually used at the direction of some kind of Dominatrix, ordering a man around as a kind of submissive cuck? Hope it's not financial control as well OP. 😬

OP would definitely know if he was a cuck.

MuppetFace · 18/09/2025 22:01

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Wow! Aren't you lovely.

WearyAuldWumman · 18/09/2025 22:00

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:47

Do u think a friend could have bought it for him as a joke?? Although he hasn't seen any of his friends for at least a couple of months

A friend did get his wife to knit my late husband a willy warmer when he was training for the London Marathon.

It was lurex. The willy warmer, not the Marathon.

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:58

NoahDia · 18/09/2025 21:49

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

Why not?

So you can get to as many posts as possible out of the thread?

What are you on about? Please do one

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thesnailandthewhale · 18/09/2025 21:57

Are you sure it’s not one of those useful items from Lakeland to stop bananas getting squashed in your packed lunch? 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

Arrrrrrragghhh · 18/09/2025 21:57

Just present him with it and ask for a divorce.
The relief will be overwhelming. For both of you.

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:56

LBFseBrom · 18/09/2025 21:51

Yes! Though I have heard of resemblance to a hamster.

didntlike, I had never heard of such a thing but couldn't resist googling and found some odd looking things that apparently vibrate and give pleasure.

Honestly, if you are only sharing a house now and no longer actively together, is it any of your business?

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Well... perhaps not lol

But the man refuses to engage with me about separating unless I back him into a corner, and when I do he will then start to tell me all the things I (and my teenage daughter) do wrong. He is, in his eyes, perfect and can do no wrong. Yet he has bondage equipment sat in his wardrobe, hidden but not particularly out of reach of our small children if they decided to go hunting.

So forgive me for being slightly curious about other people's opinions on it ay?

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Lollipopsicle · 18/09/2025 21:56

EchoedSilence · 18/09/2025 21:47

Put a toy mouse in it and leave it on the kitchen table.

😂😂😂

MissPobjoysPonies · 18/09/2025 21:56

I think I’d probably go down the domineering route and be more assertive telling him what you want rather than discussing it.

if he wants a dominatrix, I’d probably take advantage of that….. not sexually but definitely for your well being.

estellacandance · 18/09/2025 21:55

Divorce.

CracklingFlames · 18/09/2025 21:53

He will have paid someone to act as a dominatrix and they will have ordered him to wear one. I knew someone who used to be a (semi) dominatrix and this was a common theme.

Astroturfer · 18/09/2025 21:52

I’m sorry to hear about this OP. Hope it gives you the push to put him behind you. Sorry that sounded suggestive…On another flippant note, the recommended threads below lists ‘rat cage recommendations’.

MySweetMaggie · 18/09/2025 21:52

This thread is so funny 😂Thanks for the laughs.

I'm sorry you're going through this OP. I know it's a funny subject but I'm sure this time in your marriage is difficult.

LBFseBrom · 18/09/2025 21:51

Whenthetimeisright · 18/09/2025 21:27

@didntlikeanyofthesuggestions

Is it definitely a chastity cage? Do you have any pets? Could it be to transport a small rodent?

Burst out laughing when I read this!

Yes! Though I have heard of resemblance to a hamster.

didntlike, I had never heard of such a thing but couldn't resist googling and found some odd looking things that apparently vibrate and give pleasure.

Honestly, if you are only sharing a house now and no longer actively together, is it any of your business?

UnemployedNotRetired · 18/09/2025 21:50

It varies, but decent ones are not all that cheap. Still, at least you didn't discover him wearing it. Possible options. Make up a fantasy about being a keyholder and say you'd like to try that.

NoahDia · 18/09/2025 21:49

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

Why not?

So you can get to as many posts as possible out of the thread?

blankcanvas3 · 18/09/2025 21:49

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:47

Do u think a friend could have bought it for him as a joke?? Although he hasn't seen any of his friends for at least a couple of months

I think you might be clutching at straws unfortunately. Either hide it and see if he says anything or leave it on the bed for him to find. If you can’t get on his phone you’re not going to get any answers without a conversation

EchoedSilence · 18/09/2025 21:49

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:47

Do u think a friend could have bought it for him as a joke?? Although he hasn't seen any of his friends for at least a couple of months

No, I think your hamster is doomed though.

AngelicKaty · 18/09/2025 21:48

@BeShyPlumLeader Well, thanks OP (and Google) for completing my education! 😮😂 There's only one question I'd be asking him OP and that's "Who has the key to it?"

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:47

Do u think a friend could have bought it for him as a joke?? Although he hasn't seen any of his friends for at least a couple of months

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EchoedSilence · 18/09/2025 21:47

Put a toy mouse in it and leave it on the kitchen table.

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:46

blankcanvas3 · 18/09/2025 21:45

Can you check his internet history? See if he is talking to a dominatrix or something online? He’s obviously wanting to explore this/already has explored this

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I wish I could but sadly no - not a chance I'd ever be able to get in his phone

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SabrinaThwaite · 18/09/2025 21:46

Quintsharkfishing · 18/09/2025 21:41

Well I'm never looking at hamsters in the same light ever again

I think that’s what Richard Gere said too.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 18/09/2025 21:45

blankcanvas3 · 18/09/2025 21:36

Why gay? Straight men are into chastity too!

But seriously, you have to ask him. I’m assuming that’s what he’s into sexually and he hasn’t brought it up to you yet. At least he’s not wearing it - that would probably mean somebody is the ‘key holder’.

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Its true but I just get the vibe - been on mn for too long 😭