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Husbands chastity cage

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:21

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

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buttersigh · 18/09/2025 22:10

🤮

Also when posts like these turn up I always suspect there is man behind them looking to draw unsuspecting women into talking about his kinks so he can get his jollies.

There is a sex topic OP, why not post this there?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 18/09/2025 22:10

Who thinks of designing this type of contraption.
Nothing is shocking these days.

Needlesnah · 18/09/2025 22:10

Assuming this is true then you really need to make sure you have everything ready so you can start divorce proceedings. If he won’t talk to you about it then you have to take the first step.

But maybe just double check he doesn’t have a hamster hiding somewhere first…

EchoedSilence · 18/09/2025 22:09

Is it like this?

pets biting GIF
AnotherDayanotherNameChangeX · 18/09/2025 22:08

Is the key there? Do you have access to his bank account? Some like to pay online can girls etc to ‘control’ their chastity belt

FiveStarMadness · 18/09/2025 22:08

halfpastten · 18/09/2025 22:06

I have no idea what this is and definitely don't want to google it. As pictures aren't allowed, could someone describe what it looks like and how it is used? Also how do so many people just know this stuff? Can't imagine it's routine?

Think of a penis ring with a cage attached, there is space between the ring and cage for the balls. It looks barbaric but certain folks like that sort of thing...

@BeShyPlumLeader it's a shock to find, what do you want to do?

PestoHoliday · 18/09/2025 22:08

Pop divorce papers in it and put it back where you found it?

I'm so sorry, OP, that must be such a discombobulating thing to find.

LivingWithANob · 18/09/2025 22:07

Just looked it up on google. They sell them on amazon! Bit of an odd contraption.

NoahDia · 18/09/2025 22:06

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 22:04

If you read the thread u would see that I did post a link to it but MN blocked it!

Why is everyone so suspicious on MN? Why on earth would someone make something like this up??

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The PP didn't ask for a link?

They asked for a photo.

Goosyloosy · 18/09/2025 22:06

I’d repurpose it as a banana hanger on the kitchen worktop and see if he notices.

halfpastten · 18/09/2025 22:06

I have no idea what this is and definitely don't want to google it. As pictures aren't allowed, could someone describe what it looks like and how it is used? Also how do so many people just know this stuff? Can't imagine it's routine?

Needlesnah · 18/09/2025 22:06

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Reported. Idiot.

CalzoneOnLegs · 18/09/2025 22:05

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 22:04

If you read the thread u would see that I did post a link to it but MN blocked it!

Why is everyone so suspicious on MN? Why on earth would someone make something like this up??

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A photo isn’t a link, if you took the photo you can upload it here

FiveStarMadness · 18/09/2025 22:05

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And how would OP do that if she doesn't have the key?

EchoedSilence · 18/09/2025 22:05

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 22:03

If anything he was always more dominant in bed. As well as bloody selfish.

Like I say it's been over two years since we had sex though

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Having his dick locked in a banana holder might explain that.

NotOverlypleased · 18/09/2025 22:05

A while ago I met a man (dog walking of all things) whose company manufactures these chastity cages for men. It's very local to me and I had never known. Couldn't wait to Google it when I got home. I told my work colleagues the next day and they all Googled it too, so the search history of my workplace, which is church linked, is rather eyebrow raising!

WearyAuldWumman · 18/09/2025 22:04

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You're making quite an assumption there. You don't need the username - your post made it obvious.

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 22:04

NoahDia · 18/09/2025 22:02

Do what?

You don't want to tell him you found it (yet) and you won't even post a photo of it 🤷‍♂️

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If you read the thread u would see that I did post a link to it but MN blocked it!

Why is everyone so suspicious on MN? Why on earth would someone make something like this up??

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TrimayrAcademy · 18/09/2025 22:04

I would also be interested in who holds the key. I think the time has come to divorce OP.

EchoedSilence · 18/09/2025 22:03

I do miss the laugh reaction.

EchoedSilence · 18/09/2025 22:03

brunettemic · 18/09/2025 22:02

And we’re absolutely SURE it’s not something to transports bananas in from Temu?! 😂😂

🤣

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 22:03

ASeriesOfTubes · 18/09/2025 22:01

OP would definitely know if he was a cuck.

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If anything he was always more dominant in bed. As well as bloody selfish.

Like I say it's been over two years since we had sex though

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brunettemic · 18/09/2025 22:02

And we’re absolutely SURE it’s not something to transports bananas in from Temu?! 😂😂

NoahDia · 18/09/2025 22:02

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:58

What are you on about? Please do one

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Do what?

You don't want to tell him you found it (yet) and you won't even post a photo of it 🤷‍♂️

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 22:01

Arrrrrrragghhh · 18/09/2025 21:57

Just present him with it and ask for a divorce.
The relief will be overwhelming. For both of you.

I will confront him with it eventually. I'm genuinely just shocked and want to think about how best to deal with it...

It has given me a push to crack on with separating though yes

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