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Husbands chastity cage

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:21

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:06

momtoboys · 18/09/2025 23:58

This is the best post we have had in a long time! It’s brilliant! Even better because OP isn’t devastated and can enjoy it along with us!

Lol some of the posts have genuinely made me laugh out loud

No not devastated. A bit sad in a way as it's like a final nail in the coffin and I know I really have to do something now. It's not all in my mind, and it's not all my fault.

But I agree this thread has been entertaining which I didn't foresee lol

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Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:06

ChaliceinWonderland · 18/09/2025 23:52

Oh and what's a douche bulb?

Oh my god, my eyes hurt from goggling 👀 🍐 😆
It's a weird pear shaped thingy with a long straw tube at the top.
Looks like a device that would possibly used in an enema?
I'm assuming its to clear out the A-hole? 😬 🍫 ⭐️

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:02

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:21

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

Never in my life have I heard of a chastity cage (my god i must be so vanilla) so I googled it, and my lord my eyes hurt 👀 🍆 😆

I have read all of the OP comments and I feel for you, it's baffling really. I have no words 😕
Why a man would put his junk in jail I will never know? Delayed arousal perhaps? 🤔

I would deffo get my ducks in a row if I were you.
🦆🦆🦆

Wadadli · 19/09/2025 00:02

ButSheSaid · 18/09/2025 21:31

Does it have the water dispenser bottle and some enrichment textures and toys inside? A little bell, etc.
Hopefully the hamster isn't included.

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Or gerbil! 🐹

momtoboys · 18/09/2025 23:58

This is the best post we have had in a long time! It’s brilliant! Even better because OP isn’t devastated and can enjoy it along with us!

viques · 18/09/2025 23:55

I am not going to google it. Instead I am going to believe most sincerely that what the OP has found is a rather esoteric Sunday supplement wire egg holder. That way I will sleep soundly tonight.

ChaliceinWonderland · 18/09/2025 23:52

Oh and what's a douche bulb?

Lostinbrum · 18/09/2025 23:49

God put this relationship if that's what you can still call it, out of its misery. This is the kick up the bum you need to finish it

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 23:48

LastPieceOfThePuzzle · 18/09/2025 23:32

Yep. Just another creepy bloke.

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This is actually making me laugh now 🤣

I fucking wish I was joking lol

Look back at my previous posts then. Idiots

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14HoursToSaveTheEarth · 18/09/2025 23:42

Maybe he just likes the feeling of wearing it. Quite a few men do. I think this is something you need to ask your husband about, but it does not mean he is gay and does not mean he is having an affair.

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 18/09/2025 23:38

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:32

Thank u for your comment but this did make me laugh 🤣. Nope no pets. And it is a very obviously phallic shaped CAGE with a padlock on it. I had to Google it myself but it was clearly penis shaped!!!

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"I had to Google it myself"

Did you aye?

OP= "Google, what is this metal thing in my husband's wardrobe?"
GOOGLE= ....................................?

🐬

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/09/2025 23:37

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:30

I actually posted a link to it in an earlier post but MN blocked it!!!!!

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Well, you weren't really supposed to ask him to model it for you, were you?

NotToday1l · 18/09/2025 23:34

HelloHattie · 18/09/2025 21:28

Picture or it didn’t happen! I want to see what one looks like

Agree, we need a photo

LastPieceOfThePuzzle · 18/09/2025 23:32

Bingowingsincoming · 18/09/2025 23:11

Absolutely this. Some weirdo bloke getting a kick off women talking about this subject with him, and it amazes me that people engage with it.

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Yep. Just another creepy bloke.

Poppyseed14 · 18/09/2025 23:26

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/09/2025 21:24

Is it definitely a chastity cage? Do you have any pets? Could it be to transport a small rodent?

Bit of a shock for you but it sounds like you may soon be going your separate ways so I'd decide beforehand how much of an issue this is for you.

A small rodent 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

WatchingTheDetective · 18/09/2025 23:25

It sounds so so there is financial abuse going on as well. There's absolutely nothing down for this man! Make sure you warn your solicitor that he will fight dirty.

hadjustaboutenough · 18/09/2025 23:25

I'd think he's a freaky weirdo and suspect him of cheating in one form or another. And then, especially given that things haven't been good between you for a long time, I'd prepare for divorce.

Sportsdaywinner · 18/09/2025 23:24

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/09/2025 21:24

Is it definitely a chastity cage? Do you have any pets? Could it be to transport a small rodent?

Bit of a shock for you but it sounds like you may soon be going your separate ways so I'd decide beforehand how much of an issue this is for you.

😂

SabrinaThwaite · 18/09/2025 23:23

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 18/09/2025 22:34

How did you google it when you didn't know what it was? What did you type in the search bar?

Google lens?

This is a chastity cage or a ferret transporter. Either way, you wouldn’t want to risk putting your todger in there.

Sorry OP.

UnhappyHobbit · 18/09/2025 23:21

I have never heard of it, so I have googled this. Perhaps he just likes dressing up the little fella while you’re out?

Blueskybird · 18/09/2025 23:18

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 18/09/2025 22:34

How did you google it when you didn't know what it was? What did you type in the search bar?

Rodent…corset wear..

Imbusytodaysorry · 18/09/2025 23:16

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 23:09

No honestly I'm not - I know things are terrible even without the penis cage. I just genuinely wondered if that's what people would think if they were in this situation. But it's obviously not a joke gift

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I know it will take some digesting , just another sign your marriage is over .
However you have to start thinking smart and one step ahead . You know he is horrible .
crack on dealing with your solicitor in quiet and when you have all you need . Get your solicitor to serve divorce papers . You don’t need him to agree .

Find your strength . You will be just fine .

Gawdimold · 18/09/2025 23:15

Put a budgie in it and put it on top of the tv

AlwaysTheRenegade · 18/09/2025 23:12

FiveStarMadness · 18/09/2025 22:18

@BeShyPlumLeader Personally I wouldn't mention it to him. Get ducks in a row and be prepared for him to not be amicable and start to get really, really nasty. He could be a troubled individual.

What support network have you got locally? Family nearby?

I feel like he would like OP to get really nasty with him now I've seen 🤷🏻‍♀️

I've just googled pictures of them as well but no info. Does it stop them getting erect or something?

I agree, it's giving you the push you need to seperate but it would be shocking to me too if you have no sex life!

Ericaequites · 18/09/2025 23:12

EchoedSilence · 18/09/2025 21:34

Could it be a very small snake cage?

For an one eyed trouser snake?

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